I feel apart from everyone and everything in my life and it only seems to be sinking further. I feel as if I have lost the connection between myself and my faith and with those who should mean the most to me. How do I reconcile myself that this is my life and be content when all I feel is turmoil inside? I feel closed off from my spirituality and don't know how to reconnect with either. How do I discover who I am and make a bridge so as to not alienate those who depend on me? I just want to run and the despair is crushing. Who do I reach out to? And will it make a difference......
2007-10-08 03:08:03 · 15 answers · asked by nvr2late2liv 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I can really sense how isolated and fearful you are feeling, and listless. Perhaps it is for you like your life force is dying, the fire inside burnt down to smoldering embers. That a change of scenery, a change of life will reignite what you are afraid has died. Does this resonate with you?
If so, take heart. Like pressing a pin into a balloon it is at the greatest point of tension and resistance that a breakthrough will come. Further, every honest woman I know, including my own wife, has gone through a time like this. (Note: There is a movement on the web called the Hot Mom's Club and a book called teh Hot Mom's Handbook that deals with this in earnest, and it applies also to women who have no children.)
From a spiritual standpoint, the despair and guilt and fear is blocking your access to the divine ground from which you come. Specifically, what you are going through is the fear of not existing. You are fighting for your identity, your passion, your Self. By necessity, that means fanning the flame of ego and desire that tends to block off the empathy and selflessness required to tap into spiritual energy, even that which is already inside of you. As such, it is unlikely that you will connect with God and THEN all will change for the better. More like those two have to go hand in hand and happen at the same time. Some of what you will need to do is simply practical.
The first thing to do is take stock. We are usually causing our own feelings. There might be unmet expectations and desires you have about life here. All people, women even moreso, need some creative expression in their lives. You need to be creating something energetic regularly whether it is painting, music, writing, coloring, scrapbooking, windsurfing, hiking, etc. That one is often sacrificed by females for the good of her relationship, which, it that is the case for you, is actually bad for it in the long run.
Second, share this feeling with your partner, or the people closest to you. Tell them how you are feeling and try to get clear about some specific things they can do to help. Keeping it inside is cutting you off further from them, making this into a story of individual suffering rather than the working out of a normal personal challenge in the context of relationships.
For your situation I would highly recommend reading Henri Nouwen, particularly The Wounded Healer. He deals at length with just this sort of internal heavy lifting while keeping his focus always on integrating your life. Wonderful stuff.
I hope some of this helps and that I am not being overbearing. Were this a discussion in person I would ask more questions and listen more before just offering advice, but such as this format it it is, you know? Anyway, best wishes!
2007-10-08 03:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart really goes out to you. I went through that before. I think there are people all over the world who want to reach out to someone / everyone but think they can't because everyone is too busy with their "lives". I know I might sound like a freak for saying this but I really have no "reason" to say it except compassion for my fellow "man". Even though sometimes I get disenchanted with the world. I do care about people. I think at some point we all go through this. If you email me I will give you my cell phone number. You can talk to me. Maybe that would help you - being able to talk to someone you don't know who doesn't have any expectations either way about you (religious or whatever). Whatever you do may God bless you.
2007-10-08 03:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many time when you are feeling lost its because you are trying to control things. Other people can not help you with this if they are not well connected with their spiritual life. Watch how someone lives and treats others before you go to them.
2007-10-08 03:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will make a difference if you reach out to somebody wise who will listen to you with an open heart and mind, instead of with an eye on converting you to their particular kind of church/faith.
So I would suggest getting a spiritual advisor, somebody you could see weekly or a couple of times a month to discuss your spirituality and your prayer life with.
I had one when I was going through a real dark night of the soul, and she helped a lot.
You'll be in my prayers.
2007-10-08 03:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Acorn 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We all get down in our lives. Jesus is ALWAYS there for you. He is ready to be your shoulder to cry on. I have been in your place so many times before. I just got down on my knees through all of my tears and cried out to God. I know he hears my prayers and my cries. Read Psalms 23:4. Those scriptures really helped me. I am not saying that you shouldn't reach out to people, but people will only be able to lead you so far. God, on the other hand is our Father, he desires for us to come to him and let Him kiss away our hurt. He is called our Comforter. He is the only one that will truly listen without regard for His own life. Reach out to Him, he is waiting.
2007-10-08 03:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Reconcile myself that this is my life and be content"? Honey, we never have to settle in life. Your future is up to you. It's all in your hands. You can either see the potential and act on the opportunities, or take the easy way out and "reconcile" yourself. Either way, as I said it's up to you. Either do something about it, or forget it.
Don't pretend you have no power here. Accepting THAT should be a great first step to a fulfilling life.
2007-10-08 03:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds very much like clinical depression. Talk to your doctor, dear, and he will help you with medication or send you to someone who can. Don't give up because it can all turn around. I've been there and come out of it with my joy again and life better than ever. God help you on your path and surround you with His love.
2007-10-08 03:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by Joyful Noise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reach to feeling the comfort of your friends, your family, the things that you live. Give yourself time and space to appreciate life, yourself, your friends and all that you live. In these, you will see faith. Take the time to meditate, to educate, to love.
2007-10-08 03:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're probably depressed, I'm at the point in depression when I don't get happy from anything anymore which can cause a feeling of diconnection and stuff.
2007-10-08 03:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by Derek 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do feel this way with everything? It can be a sign of depression. Otherwise I'm not sure. Only you can make those connections with your god.
2007-10-08 03:15:24 · answer #10 · answered by ~Heathen Princess~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋