I just got married a week ago! The wedding was in tn and i live in Miami, Fl. Well my male best friend came and i asked him to be a groomsman. I even let him stay at my husband's house with us. He did not get us a gift? Should i be upset or am i overreacting! It is not about stuff but the thought. He this friend of mine , spend lots of money so money is not an issue. I even made sure we took him to graceland two days before the wedding to make him happy. He has money and he has no escuse. I have known him for 18 years so that is why i am floored! Please how to i handle this without losing it!
2007-10-08 02:50:11 · 17 answers · asked by cutie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
before you call me selfish this guy goes on and on and on about spending money on women he barely knows and how he is worth millions . its a point i am making. He is coming off as cheap so don't call me selfish when a card would have been fine so keep your nasty remarks to yourself!
2007-10-08 03:06:44 · update #1
I can see your frustration with the situation, but I think what would be a better use to you is to think of him as a man. He probably didn't even think about it. And a card? Please... my fiance doesn't even think about a card!
He probably didn't think about a present or didn't know the kind of etiquette about giving gifts (honestly, I didn't know I was allowed to give a gift if I was in the wedding). I thought only the guests did rather than the bridal party.
In the end, what you should do is just try to forget about it. I know easier said then done but I would take it as it is.
2007-10-08 03:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A gift for the bridal shower is required. However, when receiving a wedding invitation, it is not carved in stone that anyone has to bring another, more formal gift; but, most people do. You are guests of the bride and groom and therefore are not expected to bring a gift to the wedding. Many people get this wrong and put registries in wedding invitations, this is a big breach of proper wedding etiquette. Registries go in shower invitations only. After having said this, the weddings I attend are usually relatives or very close friends and it is my personal wish to give a shower gift and a wedding gift. If you do not wish to buy two gifts that is entirely up to you.
2016-05-18 23:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he decided making a trip to your wedding was a gift in it's self. I can't believe you are so hurt about it. you say it is not about the stuff, but the thought, you should go with that and realise that his thoughts were with you that day and if you truly consider him your best friend you will know that a gift is not important. So, no I don't think you should be upset, and yes I think you are overreacting. And who knows maybe he has a gift for you it is just not to you yet. I was still getting gifts for six weeks after my wedding. another thought just because he spends lots of money does not mean he has lots of money. Did you consider he may be in debt and could really not afford to give you what you think you deserve from him?
2007-10-08 03:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by j_lynn_griff 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probably isn't aware of proper wedding etiquette. I highly doubt your best friend was intentionally trying to be nasty. It's also quite possible that he will give you a gift but just hasn't sent it out to you yet. People have up to a year after the wedding to give gifts to you. However I can understand why you'd be irritated. It seems like it would be common sense to at least say thank you. Take a deep breath and do your best to get over it. Mentioning anything about a gift would be rude on your part so... just let it be.
2007-10-08 05:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about. Enjoy being a newly wed. You have more important things to worry about then why he didn't get you a gift. I have best friends who said they would be in my wedding, backed out and then didn't even show up at my wedding. Am I still mad?? No, in fact I talk to them a lot all the time still.
2007-10-08 06:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget it, its really not Worth losing a friend over. Men do not think of gifts and things. 2 of my closest female Friends did not get u a gift, even though they had rang the week before the wedding and asked what we wanted.(they were girls!!)!
2007-10-08 03:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by madge 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't care if the guy's a multi-millionaire. I also don't care how much money he throws around. It does not change the fact that he DOES NOT owe you a present.
GIFTS ARE NOT REQUIRED OF YOUR GUESTS. End of sentence. So yes, you are being selfish. And yes, you are overreacting. And yes, you do need to get over yourself.
And if you REALLY want to split etiquette hairs, if your guests choose to give you a gift, they have up to one year to do so.
2007-10-08 03:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that being a groomsman in your wedding is gift enough. but on the other hand your right. he should have at least given you a card. some cards at walmart are a dollar.
2007-10-08 04:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mel Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gifts, no matter who from, are never ever ever required for a wedding, whether they can attend or not, whether they are in the wedding or not.
Their gift to you should be them saying yes to being in your wedding.
To be upset about this means you are not the friend he thinks you are.
I do not expect gifts from ANY of my guests, NOR my bridal party. Their gift to me is them saying yes. Their gift to me is buying a bridesmaids dress/shoes/etc. Their gift to me is just being there.
2007-10-08 03:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you are newly married and the ONLY thing you have to worry about is a gift? Does it really matter so much? If he is your friend he might well get something later. If this is a friendship breaker deal then he wasn't really such a good friend and perhaps you aren't either.
2007-10-08 02:58:59 · answer #10 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋