I am always so busy with work, hobbies and house repairs and yet I still have time to feel lonely. My family discarded me for whatever reason though since I have never been demanding or cruel, each feels I am and always will be there if they have a problem (needs to borrow money, needs baby sitter, needs me to do something for them). When I need help I actually have no one to call- I fell and tore the skin off my knee and struggled alone in pain until the scab loosened enough to bend my knee again.
I made sure both my children graduated from college with no debt and now both are with mates that do not want my son and daughter to associate with me- and both of my children who were inseparable from me their entire youth have chosen mates over me instead of ones that enjoy family.
I wonder had I been abuse like my children's in-laws would my kids be sucking up to me now begging to be loved and accepted?
2007-10-08 02:49:53 · 3 answers · asked by Traveler 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know how you are feeling. I am a singel mother of two and it gets real hard sometimes. I moved from pa to id and i really hate it here. There is nothing for a single person to do and even worse a single older woman. I have been so down in the dumps lately and cant seem to get out. I dont go on dates and rarely do aanything socially. I have a few friends but they are always with their significant other and it makes things hard for me. I wish sometimes that I could crawl into a hole and never come out. I guess we just need to keep our chin up and face everyday with a smile.
2007-10-08 02:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by jenniferk5683 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I am about to say may offend you but that is not my intent. People are always going to be who they are. Nothing you do or say will ever change them unless they want to be changed. Love and affection is what human beings live on. Whether the lack of it makes you a mean person or the abundance of it makes you an overly nice person and vice versa, we thrive on love and affection. Maybe what you are filling your life with is not what it wants. What I mean is the things you do do not sound like they are what you really want and the longer you continue to hold on to the past the more your future depends on it. See if all you can do is think about what should be and what isn't, everything you do right now means nothing because you are not looking to move on from the pain that you are going through. Like I stated in the beginning people will always be who they are and in order for you to be happy with the life you live, you must accept that what isn't just isn't and move forward. That is not to say that you should just suck it up. If where you are in life is not making you happy then change it. Maybe moving to a new place will help you and cut the dependancy your relatives have on you. I don't know what your age, financial status, or really who you are but I do know that changes helps everyone. It either makes you appreciate what you had or you build a life of reward on your own. Whatever the case maybe, instead of me downing your family, I say you should stop trying to be loved and accepted by them and start loving and accepting yourself. Then and only then will others do the same. I promise that is the truth.
2007-10-08 14:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by Alexandria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your boo-boo, I'm glad its better now. You don't raise children to be thanked. You raise them to be self sufficient, sounds like you did a great job. The whining, complaining and guilt tripping is probably the root cause of them not wanting to be around you. You had a life before children, you have a life now. Live it and stop expecting people to feel sorry for you.
2007-10-08 10:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋