I'm always totally fine in the flirting stage, and the first/second date, but i can neer seem to get past that stage. I'm not afraid of commitment, but it's almost as if i just get bored, even if i can talk to the guy like a would a friend, i jsut get to a point where i get bored. Anyone have/had a similar problem??
2007-10-08 02:35:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes....often!
I think its the excitement of something new....
and then it wears off....
Not sure what does it really....Glad its not just me tho!
2007-10-08 02:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are saying you are not afraid of commitment, but you really are! Maybe you unconciously seek out people who are not as "exciting" as you, in order to boost your own self-esteem? I am not trying to be harsh or cruel. I am just trying to get you to do a little introspection to see if you might be part of the problem without even knowing it! It could be that you are not looking for a relationship, but more of a "conquest"...to see if you can get a guy interested in you, but you don't want to go any farther than that. There has to be a reason for what is happening, so you need to examine what is going on in YOUR life to see if there is something that may be causing this behavior. I don't recall getting "bored" with dating. I DO recall realizing, at some point, that the relationship was not going to be what I hoped it would be, or SHE would realize it first. Either way, it would end, and we would both move on! Why not try to find out more about the guy..what he likes and dislikes...what are his hobbies and interests. Maybe you can find some common ground that will give you something to build on. I can assure you, it IS NOT boredom that is the problem!
2007-10-08 02:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by Ken S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are like anything else, you need to put in some work to have a successful one. I think that the first issue always is to enjoy the person you are with and understand that there is nervousness and trepidation by both. If there is no chemistry after several dates, then it may never take off, but relationships are built, not just dropped down from the sky and ready-made.
2007-10-08 02:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok let me break it down to u,, the fact that u cant get past the first or second date without getting bored means that u have commitment or intimacy problems,, because it is highly unlikely that a person cant get bored at these points because this is when sexual anticapation is highest,, \
so get over your problems n start dating
2007-10-08 02:48:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest not trying so hard or beating yourself up about it, not your fault, get an exciting guy, go somewhere new, a place you dont get the average hey baby want a drink **** with pleasent dating etc.
Find you're type, sounds like its a more interesting guy, someone whos doen it for themself.
2007-10-08 02:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by Mister Opinionated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you obviously haven't found the guy that you want to be with. Keep looking, or he will come to you. You have no "problem" so don't even worry about that. Just let time take care of it.
Good luck!
2007-10-08 02:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by Shelly Bo Belly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are afraid of commitment, regardless of what you stated.
Have you considered that perhaps you feel you need perpetual excitement of a new man, new date, new conquests?
2007-10-08 02:38:16 · answer #7 · answered by Noone i 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're just use to not having a commitment and don't need one not every one is meant to be with one person when you find the right person that will change
2007-10-08 02:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by SEXYONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋