Should I kick my gay son out of the house?

Question

I have a 13 year old son that used to be a great kid. Unfortunately, I think some liberal teachers must've got to him in school and I recently caught him kissing another boy.

The Bible is pretty clear about this sort of thing. My son threatens the salvation of everybody in the house. I don't wan't to kick him out, but I also don't want to lose my chance at eternal paradise just to keep him around.

Is there a compassionate way of telling my son that I never want to see him again because I want to go to heaven? Or would compassion be a sin, afterall, he is a sinner. In the Bible, Lot's wife was turned into a pillar of salt for looking back at God's utter destruction of Sodom. I don't want to turn into a pillar of salt or go to hell.

Answer 1

All I can say is you damn well better be joking! Otherwise social services needs to pay you a visit and remove him from the insane environment he lives in.

I agree with other posters, this is NOTHING to joke about. Do you have ANY idea how many gay youth end up committing suicide, or landing on the streets. THOUSANDS.
Still think this is amusing? Grow up!

Answer 2

Well atleast of the two of the parents you do your duty. You do care about your son as a person as he is. Your wife though well though she probably loves him has been misguided by religion to think that homosexuality is a disease.. something it isn't. Some way religiosity is a disease... Reality is that your son is 17 year old and for his own protection against a certain gone crazy person best is to ensure that certain gone crazy person can't force your son to go to "ex gay training" This might cause a rift between you and here and that is the sad fact of what religion can do. Best is to protect your son.. sorry yo are forced this way but .. this is what religion does. Your wife needs time to get to grips with the situation. Maybe it isn't all broken maybe you can show her that gay people in this age can have wonderfull relationships that last long. That they can adopt children so the grand children are no problem either. And that really she should look at the person.. not the sexuality. So I actually feel she is panicked right now.. a tower of "truth" has fallen apart so to say. Religion must be for her a very strong supportive beam. And that her religion says her son is well.. nasty..bad.. it must hurt her allot. Maybe I know.. it probably ends in a fight you can look into this issue. And see if you can't pry the religion away from the issue. You know like reminding her it is her son and that Jesus loved everyone. And the best way to do things.. is to love.. Many Christians are judgemental.. they are definitely not like Christ. Good wishes in a troubled time. May these possible methods aid you. If all goes well this situation doesn't destroys the family. She might just need time to adjust! I am very happy you are so supportive of your son.

Answer 3

Pray for him, but what makes you think he isn't a great kid anymore? And why would you want to kick him out?? Just because he MIGHT be gay? He probably isn't anyhow... he's probably just trying to find who he is. Everyone has to go through that. At that age everyone is trying to find out who they are, what they like, etc. and they are starting to really get interested in other things besides what they knew in childhood. They want to know more about what makes the world tick. Have you asked your son why he did that? Maybe it was a dare. Anyway, don't jump to conclusions and get yourself all upset. What good would THAT do?? Let your son know that you are concerned, because you believe this behaviour to be destructive or sinful, but do not punish or condemn your son. Let him know you will always love him, nomatter what. Also, where did you get the idea that it is a sin to be compassionate toward a "sinner"?? Haven't you read the bible?? Jesus was famous for having compassion on sinners. And why are you so afraid of losing your chance at eternal paradise? Your eternal paradise is up to you, so if I were you I would not be afraid. Put your trust in God!!
You know that everyone is surrounded by sin constantly. The trick is to cling to God and trust in Him through everything. Love Him, trust Him, obey Him... be a good example to your son on how to be IN the world and not OF it. And keep trusting God with the rest... because He knows all of us better than we know ourselves.

Shalom...

Answer 4

I'm a Christian. I understand that we're under the New Covenant that Jesus brought. God saves individuals, not groups or 'houses' of people. As long as you have the necessary relationship with Jesus, you'll be saved. Your example reinforces this. Lot's entire family did not die because of his wife's action. Dealing with your son is an entirely different issue. It sounds like this is a recent event. If so, he needs help and you are the only one to help him get it. He's mixed up, probably because of liberal teachers or other external factors, and needs some professional counseling. There are christian counselors that would understand this situation. Of course, money may be an issue for your budget but one way or another, he needs help. If you've exhausted all opportunities to help him and he's disrupting the home, I would ask him to follow the rules of the house or leave. Make it his decision. If he's not disrupting the home, him staying there will not threaten your or the rest of your family's salvation.

Answer 5

I will tell you like Jesus told some self righteous other people, you who are without sin cast the first stone.

This is your son. Do whatever you possibly can to get him to repent and turn from being homosexual. Has an adult in the family or church approached your child for sex? Someone put these thoughts into his head.

Your thinking is totally wrong. The only thing that can keep you from heaven is rejecting Christ Jesus and if you have Christ in you then you have the Holy Spirit who purifies and refines you.

Help your son and read the Holy Bible because you know very little about Jesus.

Answer 6

Maybe you should read the Bible instead of what people tell you about it. The Bible says "Love the sinner, hate the sin". You sound like a horrible mom. You should try to help him, not turn your back on him. Also, how is he threatening your salvation? The only thing threatening your salvation is your horrible attitude. The Bible is also not clear on homosexuality. It says it is an abomination for a man to lay with another man like he does a woman. To me, that says gay sex is a sin, not actually being gay. So you can be gay as long as you don't act on it. Some people can't help who they are attracted to. Maybe he has some other demons in his life that is causing him to be gay. It sounds like you aren't being a great spiritual leader in your house. It's not your son that is sending you to hell...

Answer 7

Your last paragraph illustrates that you are more worried about yourself than about your son. Try showing some of that compassion that Christ was famous for and be a good role model for your son instead of pushing him away in the most final manner you can just because you're afraid to be associated with him. In answer to your question, there is no compassionate way to do such harm to your son as you are contemplating. He needs your understanding, and by scorning and ejecting him, you will only push him away from the values you seem to hold close. Trust me, this would threaten the salvation of you and those around you more surely than anything.

I suspect you already know this...it pays to check earlier questions and answers, doesn't it?

Answer 8

No, don't kick him out....keep showing him your love and acceptance for him as a person. Many sons seek out a homosexual lifestyle because they feel no acceptance by their own father.

But, at the same time, let him know your Biblical worldview. Your son doesn't threaten the salvation of everybody in your house. His relationship with God doesn't affect your own salvation. If that were true, then my son, who cheated on an exam will cause me not to go to heaven? ....I don't think so. God doesn't like sin. Lies, cheating, coveting, sexual immorality, killing, gossiping.... Sin is sin. I'm wondering how your sin causes your son to stumble?

So you see, our sin drives us to seek Jesus, who is the only One who can forgive sin. We must personally accept the gift of salvation. No one can do that for your son. And your son's sin doesn't affect your relationship with God. If we confess our sin, Jesus is faithful and Just, and will forgive us our sin. A Christian is a sinner saved by Jesus.... not really any different than anyone else in the whole world.... except that now that Christian follows Christ and has the power of the resurrection and God's Holy Spirit to live a life pleasing to God.

Answer 9

Now that I have doused the burning anger I felt initially when I saw this question, I will answer it as politely as I can.

I don't care what the Bible says about homosexuality--he is your son. Do you think you're pleasing God by kicking your own flesh and blood out of your house?

The CHRISTIAN thing to do would be to love and accept your son no matter what. Even if the Bible says it is wrong and you believe it, you are RUINING this poor kid's life because of your religion. By allowing him to stay, you would be showing compassion, mercy, and forgiveness--by kicking him out, you would be showing hatred and intolerance. Which do you think God approves of?

If you think your "chance" of salvation is tainted by allowing your gay son to stay at home, you're an idiot. (Pardon me, I've been polite long enough.) What, you think his "sinfulness" is contagious and by being near him, you'll go to Hell too? How the (fill in the blank) would "keeping him around" possibly cause you to go to Hell?

If you're willing to kick your son out of your house because of his sexuality...if you're willing to ruin your own child's life when you have the ability to provide him love that he needs...all for you own "salvation"...you are a sick, selfish person that deserves the worst punishment in Hell even if you ARE a Christian.

Answer 10

Give him to a good home if you think so little of your boy .
I can not fathom a parent basing love on social relationships .
Sexual orientation is not a political preference - although it has been used as a tool - along with previous minority class issues in the party you mention . Compassion is never a sin .
Odd as it may sound - I think the compassionate thing would be to see that your child gets a loving home ..ELSEWHERE ; as my impression of the question is that it is based on religious fanaticism ..which is wrong .

Answer 11

This is a great question. First as a Head of household you have the right and obligation to see that no immoral activity occurs in your house. So you should never let him bring friends over to stay the night. It is your responsibility to teach correct principles, yet just as important you are not the judge of his eternal soul, Jesus is the judge. To you forgiveness is required, and to love him is your duty as a father. First and foremost love and council him let him know it the behavior you hate not the person who is committing that behavior. Second you should be compassionate toward him and help him grow out of this stage. Your soul will be in much greater danger by putting him out of your house than it would be for excepting his behavior. You may never be able to change his mind about his sexual behavior but you can support him and teach correct principles to him. Love is the first great commandment remember that is what all the other commandments are based from.Great question!