Who Do I Contact?

Question

Who do I need to contact to report an active duty army soldier who is cheating on his wife??

Answer 1

His commander or first sergeant.

Answer 2

There's not much you can or should do, if it's not your husband. The burden of proof will lay with you (i.e. pictures, statements, as others have stated). Fellow soldiers may act as an alibi and corroborate the soldier's story possibly making you look like a fool.

Unfortunately, it does happen, but even if it's proven a lot of times nothing will happen to the soldier. In few cases it will be processed according to the UCMJ, but in other situations it will be swept under the rug. Trust me, I've seen it happen. The only thing that really ends up happening is the "reporter" loses friends and respect and a family is torn apart.

If the wife of the soldier is your friend, you might talk to her, but that again is a tricky situation. I would only tell someone if I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt and could prove it and if that person was a good friend (not just an aquaintance).

Really, you have decide why it is you would want to report this cheating. It's morally wrong yes, but how does it affect you? If you can continue to go on with your life unaffected, then it really is not your place.

Answer 3

I don't condone adultery but you obviously don't have proof, real proof that anything has happened. Adultery involves a sexual act and unless you witnessed the act you have no more than suspicions. I'd strongly advise you to mind your own business before making allegations you can't prove which may adversely effect someone's entire career. Find a hobby and keep your nose out of other people's business. If he's up to no good, he'll be found out eventually or maybe he won't. Either way, no one appointed you judge.

Answer 4

Nobody. Stay out of it. Wouldn't you look foolish if you reported the Soldier just to find out that his wife knows? You certainly won't win any friends either. Do you think you will have any friends if they think you will tell on them if they do something wrong?

Answer 5

Nobody. As your user name implies I assume that you are an army wife. If you choose to implicate this soldier in unfidelity you put your Husband in a very bad place. The guys in his unit will not differentiate whether he ratted or you did. It is the same to them. It is a hard pill to swallow, but trust is paramount to a cohesive unit. If you must tell somebody tell the soldier's wife in confidence and in private.

Answer 6

Make sure you are 100% sure he is committing adultery. You need valid proof. If you implicate him of adultery, he can be punished under the UCMJ. Just make sure he is cheating. I would not say anything if you suspect he is or someone has told you he is. Make sure you have 100% valid proof. I can not stress that enough. That is someone's career you are messing with. If he is committing adultery, you can contact his Commanding Officer, Ombudsman, Chaplain, or anyone else in that sort of position. They will take the steps necessary to make sure the appropriate people are aware of the situation.

Answer 7

honestly if it's not your husband i would stay out of it...
because unless you have pictures and a notarized statement from both the soldier and the girlfriend admitting to the affair you're gonna end looking really bad for trying to "ruin" someone else's marriage...

Answer 8

That is a military issue that falls under conduct unbecoming a soldier, SNCO, officer...whatever. BUT.... I would recommend you stay the devil out of it. It will cause you and everyone else nothing but issues.

If it isn't your husband ... it just isn't your business.

Later,
Z

Answer 9

Honey - why do you feel the need to further ruin other's lives... Is it your business? Like your family or close friend that is being cheated on?
Their sacred vow has nothing to do with you unless you are the one he is cheating with. Mind your own and pray it doesn't happen to you.

Answer 10

The Post Provost Marshal should do it. Of course you won't win any friends either for ratting out some one else. But, if your conscience is clear, I suppose that is the way to go.

Answer 11

a civilian lawyer. it is not a military matter, and no one will get involved unless one of the parties is an Officer and the other an enlisted and they are in the same chain of command, and even then you have to have PROOF: pictures or recorded phone calls.