I am a christian and try to do everything right, I am not perfect but why do people who are not Christians and

Question

do such bad things and are mean to others still get things they want. I help everyone and try my best to do what is right and still God is not allowing me to have a baby which is the one and only thing I have wanted all my life. Don't get me wrong God has blessed me in many ways but I want this more than anything. Why am I not allowed to have a baby you think? Could he be waiting to bless me with on later in life for some reason?

I don't mean to judge but it is just hard to see these teens having babies when us adult married couples trying so hard are not.

Answer 1

Is the root of the above question(s) is why you still do not have a child? How long have you been married? I hope you don't mind me asking...I have been married for 8 years now and still do not have a child. I asked the same kind of questions like you did, it is very frustrating that you hope to expect one then suddenly your period arrives...feeling like you lost a child....God has His reasons...though I believe He promised me a son, the waiting process is very dreadful for me...but just as Abraham and Sarah believed that God keeps His promises...they know that it is done because of their great faith...it took them 25 years to wait to have a child from the time God promised that Abraham will be the father of all nations. God molded Abraham and Sarah for 25 years before Isaac arrived...they were molded to have that great faith so that they can pass it on to the next generation....For me...just like you asked....whatever reasons God has...we have to seek His perfect will, and if He has given you a promise then let us learn to wait and see the areas we are being molded to be able to share that great faith to the next generation

Answer 2

Babydoll,
I can tell by you hurtful and predjudicial statement that you think ONLY Christianity can get you closer to God,

But In my short life I have lived, and experienced some things,

1. How can you profess to be a Christian , and a Good one at that when you are treating others who are NOT like you and believe diffrently ( this is a sin called intolerance)

2.Desire is another Sin

3. Self worthiness and self righteousness, is another sin

4.And these Bad things that ONLY non christians Do are??
Your insinuating that Christians are NOT sinners, that YOU are NOT a sinner, and that all these Bad people are given a blessed gift by God, the Gift of a Child,
( i do see the area you say that you aren't perfect)
But the last time I checked and correct me if I am wrong BUT NO ONE sin is greater than or Less than another.Fact. And in that statement your Presuming to know better than GOD, and Presuming to know the heart of another,

I must say that this , just because your trying doesn't mean your trying hard enough, and just because you believe, doesn't make you righteous.

There is only one Judge, he is not you, and its not your job to judge others here on Earth.

Jesus was a healer, he healed the Sick,
he never discriminated against them,
and he loved everyone, EVEN THE LOWLIEST of the Low
and all of them were JEWS, Not Christians.

Christianity revolves around following the beilefs of Jesus The Christ, ( Or The Annointed One)

Do me a couple of favors, If you really believe in God, please read More than just the bible,expand your range
Love thy neighbor,Judge NOT lest Ye be judged.

If you really want to get closer to God, READ his WORD,
LIVE HIS WORD.

Do you know what detachment is? This is where you are failing yourself, You need to detach and let God take it from there.

Here are a few sites you might enjoy,
I am trusting your Not going to be judgemental, and instead OPEN your mind and desire for the Love of God,and trust that he knows whats Best. and leave judgement day up to Him.

i firmly believe that if you start practicing what you preach your life will change, and God will bless you with a Child, But you really Gotta want it bad enough to Change.

I will pray for you,

Blessings,
Meg

http://quranexplorer.com/Quran/Default.aspx

http://www.bahai.org/

http://www.torah.org/

http://judaism.about.com/od/studytorahonline/Study_Torah_Online.htm

http://www.biblegateway.com/
http://www.bible.com/

Here is a Great site that allows you to cross refrence
ALL of the writting of the Major Religions,

Its Great and Gives you a Broadened Perspective,
when researching a subject, Such as Tolerance.

http://bahai-education.org/
but you need to download the program first,
Don't worry it won't send pop ups or anything like that

Meg

PS, I am the mother of 3 boys, and Miscarried with twin Girls,
I am a Sinner, Who am i to judge, I have always been a believer, There is only One God, God didn't separate US Man separates US.

Answer 3

According to Christianity, what people want is irrelevant. When you accept Jesus you're giving your life to God for him to use. If a baby doesn't fit in with what he wants to use you for he wont give you one.

Atleast that's what I was always taught. I'm no longer a Christian, so I'd say a better person to ask would be your doctor. They can do tests to see if you and your husband are both capable of having children.

If you are not able to, and you truly want a child, there's always artificial insemination, adoption, or surrogates. You are allowed to have a child, just perhaps not the way you are thinking.

Answer 4

Newsflash is that deities are make believe, but babies are incredibly complex organisms that are only reproduced by the successful pairing of an egg and a sperm.

Your assumption that people who aren't Christian are the one's who 'do bad things' is part of the same skewed and superstitious thinking. The same reasons people used to believe that lightning was a sign from the gods, or that umbrellas opened indoors are bad luck. Or that a mentally ill child was an impostor left by the fairies after they stole the 'real' child.

Your supernatural punishment and reward system doesn't make sense for exactly the same reasons that all the above don't.

I can't have any more kids, so I will adopt. That is a real blessing that we are able to love children no matter what other people believe about Bronze Age patriarchal superstitions. I wish you all the best. And I wish you the sense to stop looking for superstitious reasons for physical complaints. Sense is a great salve for the fearful mind.

Answer 5

I know it is easy to think this way, and I've done it myself a time or two (particularly about other people, not about myself.) Like when good friends of mine who would be terrific parents had children who died in utero and other women who smoked and drank had gaggles of healthy babies... my point is I know it's easy to go down this road (although it's slightly less usual to go down this road about yourself, I think...)

That said, I think it's really unhealthy for you to equate your good will and good nature to the medical issue of you not being able to have a baby at this point. I also think it's fairly ignorant to suggest that you, as a Christian, are somehow more entitled to happiness than a non-Christian. Even if this is not what you meant, this is what you said.

It seems to me that you're feeling like a victim (and a victim of God, at that!) Instead of focusing on how much you think you "deserve" (whatever that means) to be pregnant since you're such a fantastic person, why not snap into action and continue working with your doctor?

I'm sure you've been on this earth long enough to know that bad things happen to good people. This sense of entitlement that you seem to have is really really not healthy, and it will just promote you "playing the victim" when life does not go well for you. You are no more entitled to a baby than anyone else. Period. Like it or not.

Answer 6

Infertility is a very hard issue to go through because as a woman, we have to deal with the pain and the emotional reminder every single month out of the year. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this in your life.

You may feel God's hand upon you as you ask for complete contentment in Him...contentment with the blessings that you've been given or maybe even contentment with those children in your life that you do have a deep impact with...like a Sunday School class full of children who really need someone to care for them, or nieces and nephews who are desperately needing someone to pay attention to them.

It's especially not easy when other women your age are talking about their pregnancies or raising their children, is it? My heart goes out to you. I guess my best advice is to reach out to others and keep counting your blessings.

Answer 7

Perhaps God is waiting to bless you with a baby later in life. I will keep you in my prayers. I hope everything works out for the best, and please do not blame God. He loves you so much.

Answer 8

you are viewing and judging God, his plan , his method ; you are judging people as evil and in your heart and head are feeling that they are not entitled; only God can judge and know what is in someones heart and head; if you give your life path to the path that God wants for you, without questioning , second guessing and looking to take away from another on what you perceive yourself to be a better person or parent, then you may get your answers; you only get the gift of one life; spend it wisely no matter what wants and desires are or are not fulfilled; he has a plan for you that is better than you can ever imagine; give him credit for knowing what path is best for you; the reasons are his ; the life is ours , don't waste it, you will never get back this day, hour, minute; spend his gift wisely

Answer 9

My brother and his wife have been trying for years. They've gotten pregnant twice, and lost both around 12-13 weeks. My wife and I got pregnant without trying (at least not purposly trying). It seems unfair since my brother and his wife would be awesome parents.

Perhaps God's answer for you is adoption. Perhaps God is delaying because your life isn't ready for a baby, yet. God has surely prevented me from things I thought I wanted only to find out how horrible they would have been for me and my family.

Answer 10

The honest answer is **** happens. Its a complex reaction to something in either your body or your partners. It isn't a punishment. It simply is.
Seek out medical advice. You can most likely have a baby, you simply need to know how and why if you are having issues with it. God gave you doctors. Use them