I know lots of people who are attracted to or have been in long-term relationships many times. But I rarely meet guys I am attracted to and if I do, they then have to clear the hurdles of being single and interested in me - which is less and less likely as I get older. (Im 34).
I have met a guy who has a great personality and is great to me but I don't get butterflies in my stomach about him. I enjoy his company a lot but I worry that it's jsut because I'm not used to guys taking an interest in me, romantically or otherwise.
Is the whole romantic, butterflies in the stomach thing a myth? Do you either get great compatibility or great physical attraction and have to make a choice? Does anyone ever find both - in all honesty?
2007-10-08 02:04:41 · 6 answers · asked by Nat R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have never been the kind of person who gets butterflies right away- it takes time for the kind of excitement to build for me. You might be the same. It's not a myth, but it's different for everyone. For me, the physical attraction grows after I have met someone who I am really compatible with. My husband is the sexiest man in the world to me- because he's my husband and I love him and am very happy with him.
Don't beat yourself up over your age- I didn't meet my husband until I was 33. You never know what tomorrow will bring- no one does.
2007-10-08 02:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that consummate (true) love is made up of intimacy, passion and commitment. There are other types of love that usually only comprise two of these things, and some other relationships that are only one (eg a fling, which is usually only 'passion', or a marriage of convenience which is only 'commitment').
Sadly, most people will be able to count on half a hand the amount of times they find these three things in an available partner.
I also believe that if you're prepared to wait, and are prepared to keep putting yourself out there in a variety of ways, not just one (like for e.g. only Internet dating), you will eventually meet the right person.
The difficulty is how long most people are prepared to wait. It could take 10-20 years. Most people, understandably, opt for second best, people who want to have children, for example, can't wait that long.
Working out how long to wait is the big wager of life.
2007-10-08 09:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by James P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be immediately attracted to someone to like them. You get to know them first, then you become attracted to their character, not just their physique. If you don't get butterflys in your stomach around him, that just means your very comfortable with him, and that's a good sign. Your not intimidated by him, or nervous or shy with him, so it's like your all ready good friends. If you decide you really like him, then you should ask him out if you want a relationship, or you two could be really close friends.
2007-10-08 09:10:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you ever let down at some point in your life that you built a wall around your heart in order to protect yourself from getting hurt?
I know someone like this. He will date a woman and then when he starts to get strong feelings for her he will dump her because he is "scared" of her breaking his heart. So, he will only date when he feels "safe." he's afraid of getting hurt.
This could be a similar case with you.
2007-10-08 09:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by ★Banäna . Nightmärẹ★™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe its because u put this in ur mind..juss let it go & dont search for "the one", because "the one" will come to u...who knows it may be right in front of u, it just takes a little time to realize
2007-10-08 09:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Erika-Zola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u have this type of syndrome call...
>>>attractionaot...hahaha
2007-10-08 09:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by mysterious girl this year!! 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋