Do you ever have low moments where you really miss your ex?

Question

How do you get through them? Any tips?

I would never get back with her but sometimes I get this horrible feeling where I just miss her terribly.

I mean we were together for 2 years and lived together for 6 months.

I ask because after two months of no contact I sent her a drunken text the other day saying I missed her and am really regretting it. ( It was after I looked at our holiday photos, BAD mistake, don't do it.)

Answer 1

Yes--then I proceed to recall all of the BAD times we had--the arguments,etc...and I get over it quickly!!
:-)

Answer 2

Yup, had those drunk moments myself--not good. My suggestion, (though it may be REALLY hard to do) if you are not getting back together at all, and you know this--burn or throw away the pictures. Trust me, its VERY hard to do, but you will feel a sense of relief and closure that you really need. I'm married now, but still, after 8 years, miss my ex, and I was the one that broke it off. I still have moments where I second guess myself, and wonder if I did the right thing. I was always told that it takes twice the time you were together to get over it. If you were together 2 years, plan on it not feeling totally better for about 4 years. It sounds bad, and its not like you'll be housebound not able to do anything, but you'll have those moments where she'll pop up in your mind for any reason. Just smile at the good times, and then try to stop thinking about it when you start to feel miserable. My ex and I were together for 4 years, and trust me, its still hard. You may never stop thinking of her totally, but don't let it put a damper on any future relationships you may have. You never know, you may find someone 10x better (though its hard to imagine) than her, and be happier than you've ever been. Good luck--if you need to talk, I'm here.

Answer 3

Damn, this is bad. All morning I've been seeing sh*t about ex's.. is this a sign? Should I try yet again to get back with my ex? *sigh* Sorry, um, get through... uh. Well now that I have my son, that helps alot. By all means, I'm not saying go have a baby, lol.

You just have to focus on your passion in life. Do you enjoy the arts, music, outdoors? Harness your energy on positive things. Only time can heal the heart and sometimes, even that doesnt work. I've been separated from my ex for 7 years and I still think about his sexy behind. I know we will never get back together, but hey, a lady can dream every now and again cant she?

Plus, I got rid of all his photos and keepsakes. Keeping that stuff DOES NOT HELP, as you well know now. He got rid of mine about 2 years back he told me recently. Good luck sweetie

Answer 4

In the first few months after a painful split with the ex then you do have a lot of really low moments where all you want to do is get back with them. It will get better with time, I promise. I know everyone will be telling you that right now, but its true. Remember, they're an ex because of a reason, just remember that.

Answer 5

Well my advice is the past is the past.

And really to move on 100% keeping past memories is a NO NO, Bin them get rid and don't look back.

The problems you had then will never leave you, they would raise there ugly head again in the near future .

So be strong of course you will miss her as she was a part of your routine but never look back always go forward .

Good luck and be strong, throw the pictures , delete her number and think of yourself.

Life's too short to dwell on the past make the most of today.

Answer 6

I have been, recently. It was a bad, long involved break up after 4 years of living together. He dumped me but persuaded me to stay living with him and kept saying he was considering getting back with me. I believed he was just troubled, hard time at work etc and if I gave him space... Then I found out he was seeing someone else. I gave up on him, and told him it was over. I started dating someone else then suddenly he wanted me back! But he wasnt going to stop seeing her...
It got violent and very nasty but I eventually got out. But... on some days when I see the sunrise on the autumn trees I just want to turn to him and say, wouldnt that make a nice picture? And I miss something. But I remind myself its not the real him I miss, its the vision I had in my head that I tried to convince myself was real. I miss the man I wanted him to be, the person he promised me he would be but was never able to deliver. Then I remember the real him, the abuse and bruises, and I get through it. You have to stay strong.

Answer 7

I do too! Been split up for nearly a year now and I miss him dreadfully sometimes! We agreed to split, it was a joint decision, but I now think it wasn't the right one!! What can you do? He's with someone else now and so am I!! We speak occasionally and there's no hard feelings and we both still care about each other but it's too complicated! Life is a B**CH!!!
I guess in time it'll pass, good luck with that xxx

Answer 8

Don't beat yourself up sweetie....believe me, we have all done this! You just have to remember WHY you split up.... It's tough and, no matter what advice anyone gives, you just have to believe 100% that time will heal.

You will get over this, and move on to a better place. There are so many wonderful people out there and you will finally find a place where you are happy & content and ready to start the dating game again. You just have to believe that you will get there and not dwell on what was!

Good luck... x

Answer 9

i think everyone does at some point , dont worry i know ive made the drunken call/text mistake on more than one occassion .
but there is a reason your ex is your ex, dont forget that.
delete her number from your phone then you wont be tempted to call her when youre drunk and if you do then youll have a hard time trying to type in her number.
if she wants to speak to you she will call you. if not. ce la vie

Answer 10

You need to focus on the reason why she is your ex. Don't dwell on the past, everyone has times when they miss their ex but then as sunshine said focus on all the bad events and you will soon think differently.
I was with my ex 20 years that's over half my life but I got over him and I don't miss him at all.
Go out enjoy being with your friends.
Don't worry about the texts we all do drunk dialling! ha ha xx

Answer 11

Honestly yeah. even thou iim in another relationship and i really love this new guy sometimes i think about my ex and what could have been. but i just turn the tv on or call a friend and it helps me forget each time those moments are less often.