Is it OK for my 7-yrs old child to kiss my breast from above the shirt ?

Question

I have compromised the matter with my son who insisted to suck. I've agreed with him to allow him to taste my breastmilk in a cup. I told him that it's Ok to embrace and kiss my breast (but not nipple) only from above the shirt. It means that he is not allowed to kiss or suck my nude breast. He embraced me and kiss my breast (not nipple) from above the shirt and striked his face with my nipple (it wasn't nude) for 1 minute and kissed my face too. Lucky, he didn't suck forcibly as like as he did before 2 days. Read my previous question to understand.

However, I won't smack him if he try to pull my breast outside shirt (I hope he won't do) but I will resist him from sucking and I will remind him with our agreement. In my opinion, the adults are vexed when they're told that they do something wrong. Therefore, I don't want to let him feel that he is abnormal in comparison with his classmates. I don't also want him to do odd behaviour with compared with his age.

Is this solution Ok ?

I'm surprised why all of you oppose me pungently. I had a big inward desire to suck until I was 9 yrs old. I mean that it's normal for child until the age of 9 to think of breastfeeding but we only decree that they mustn't think in this way. We don't give them any chance to express frankly their dispositions. However, I think the issue in abstract is: Are breasts sexual organs ? If yes, my behaviour is very weird and the babies suck only because the nature foredooms that not because we are satisfied by that. If no, I think that 7 yrs old child is not too old to think of breastfeeding. I address anyone: Do not you see that your memories of before 5 years are very close to this moment and you even live in these memories now ? So why do we criticize child of 7 yrs old to think of breastfeeding ? When he'll be 9 yrs old, he will be aware enough to forget breastfeeding himself when he starts to be attracked to other gender. We all underwent the same feels when we were young.

Answer 1

No this solution is not ok. 7 years old is WAY TOO OLD to have anything to do with your breasts. You are worried about him feeling abnormal...well he is! That poor boy needs counseling already, and probably his mother too.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I wrote something sad yesterday online and then deleted that account coz what if someone I know who really doesn't care anyway saw it. You could be in this position right now. Expect to get remarks about how you should have weaned him off the breast earlier. There will probably also be some foolish people who say you're maliciously abusing him. I think you just waited WAY too long to wean him myself, and need to just move your body away from him when he goes to do ANYTHING near your breast. You sound like a good mom, but too lenient at times. Too afraid of the child's pained reaction (crying, sadness) when not allowed to do as they are used to doing. He will grow out of this quicker if you just move your body and say no, you're a big boy now, not a baby, (if that last part beyond no is even necessary....)

Answer 4

No it isn't, he should not be kissing, touching, or trying to suck your breasts, clothed or otherwise. You need to set boundaries, sooner than later, that your breasts are private and he can not touch them, he should know about personal privacy at this point anyway. You may not want to hurt his feelings, but you do not want to teach him it is okay, he may start treating other women, and even his young classmates, the same way. And I hope you don't think that is acceptable. Just because your are his mother, doesn't mean it is appropriate. Also, he is not a baby anymore, and does not still need breast milk, so if he wants milk, give him cow milk or soy milk in his cup, you have to break him from his obsession with your breasts.

Answer 5

Your son is 7 freaking years old. I have 3 boys.... 16,10 & 5. I am trying to be open-minded about this but.... DEAR LORD. You will not want to hear this so you might want to put your fingers in your ears and repeat after me.... LA LA LA...
But if you want to face reality, here it is. Your son is jealous. He has been the only and has had 100% of your attention all his life. You BELONG to him! Um, this is not healthy AT ALL! for you and him.
At 7, he is starting to have thoughts. He has seen things and heard things and is forming ideas about sex and intimacy. You have filled every role in his life and soon you will be filling this role - clearly from the boobie kissing and intimate physical touching of your face. You have to define what a normal parent/child relationship is cause that's YOUR job and clearly he's confused.
You need to stop this immediatly. He is 7 and able to injest food for nutrition. His needs to build an appropiate relationship with you and your body for him to be a proper adult. You both need to grow up, have one final conversation and do something age appropiate. Have him take you to the movies or go play outside with him. Help him define your new realionship or he will be soooo messed up!

Answer 6

No way, I read your old questions and this is not a good idea. You tell that boy he is not a baby and to go get a glass of milk from the fridge. It is not okay for him to touch your breast at all! I don't care if he is sad or not. You are going to damage him if you let him do these things. NO BREAST MILK OR BOOBIES FOR THE 7 YEAR OLD.

Answer 7

That child is 7 yrs old. Hell no he shouldnt be doing that stuff. If your not letting him breastfeed anymore why are you letting him kiss your breasts and stuff. That's just gross. He's waaaay too old by any standards to be breastfeeding still as far as im concerned..

Answer 8

what the FREAKING HELL are you talking about?

THis is the most absurd scenario i have ever come across.

Why are you making up such stupid things?

A real mother would never "compromise" with her 1st or 2nd grader about when and how is appropriate to touch her breast. Some things are not appropriate, this is CERTAINLY one of them.

Why on earth is he allowed or needing to kiss your breast? And WHY THE HELL is he needing to have ANYTHING to do with your nipples?

This is just sick. You not right for allowing this behavior in your child, and he needs counsiling. Its like theres almost something sexual to it, and if not its certainly borderline. Shameful.

Answer 9

I'm not going to give you a harsh answer, although I do not agree with what you are doing, but I would just like to say that you should discuss this with your son's pediatrician and take whatever advice and treatment he/she suggests.

Answer 10

There are white russian people who let there children suckle till they hit puberty...yup i think it is weird too. But social western ideas mean a child should be weaned by 6-24 months.