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Hi every one.

Iv just spoke to my bf of a yera n half and he was so nasty to me .

Iv been in my current job for about 4 mounths and i always call him around 12 (i start at 9 and he doest wrk) just to see how he is and i called him to see if he wanted me to cook him dinner before i go out to my poart time job and then he just started on me telling me that he is sick of the same routine of me calling him wen hes not long got up in the morning and he told me i was persesive which i dnt think i am! So as he was ranting dwn the phone i called him a horrible t**t and put the phone dwn. Do u think i should call him or just leave it (Not completley0 Just not call him till later on.

Sos if this doesnt make sense.

Thanks Guys xxxx

Answer 1

Hello katieloo,

So you are saying you have a full-time job and hold down a part-time one too.

I personally love it when my wife calls me, it shows me how much she cares, and we have been married for 30 years.

True people do need a little space and I assume you call him because you care and want to hear his voice. If he would prefer that you did'nt call him so often (and I don't consider once a day too often especially as you appear to be working all the hourse God sends for his benefit as well as yours), all he has to do is mention it in a friendly and caring way. Because of the time you spend at work, you can't see that much of each other and the phone is a way to keep in touch.

Your bf spends most of the morning in bed and then when you ring him in your lunch break he has a go at you because he is tired of the same old routine.

You may not like this but I think this man should not only be thankful, but beholden to you. I assume you are living together and you appear to be supporting him fully.

You even come home from job one, cook him a meal and then go off to job two. What does he do for you?

I would not mind betting that when you get home very little, if any housework has been done and you have to do that too.

If I am right this relationship is two-sided, you give, give, give and he takes, takes, takes.

Why has he not got a job? Is he even trying to get one? Spending the morning in bed is going a long way to getting himself employment.

In answer to your question, no! don't ring him. You said what you felt and he deserved it. It should be him who is eating humble pie and apologising.

If I have read your question correctly, I cannot see this relationship going much further. Your bf seems to be taking total advantage of you and you are letting him.

It certainly looks like you care a lot more for him than he does for you. If he cared as much or more, he would not be expecting you to keep him and wait hand and foot on him, especially as you must be shattered after you have finished work.

My advice is to put your foot down with him and tell him that he has to contribute something to the relationship too, and the first thing is he should get up earlier and start trying to find work.

If he does not already, he should also help around the house so you don't have to clean up after him so much. Also what is stopping him from cooking you a meal once in a while. If he says he cannot cook, that is no excuse. Anyone can cook a ready meal and of course recipe books are available and all he needs to do is to pick a few simple recipes. It is surprising how quickly he would learn.

How would this man survive if he was not in a relationship with you and he lived on his own?

Sorry, but kind and caring people being taken advantage of by others really makes my blood boil.

Good luck to you and I hope you stand your ground.

John
(Poseidon)

Answer 2

Well first of all if you want my opion he is a pieace of SH*T becauser if you are already at work calling him to see if he wants you to cook dinner before you go to you part time job this afternoon well honey it sounds like you got a son at home not a bf and let me say one more thing his lazy as* should have you dinner made a bubble bath ran a hour long massage etc....i mean his *** don't even work and he got an attitude wth you when you called him man i'd go home and stright blast on his AS* good luck girl............it sounds like you deserve better to me e mail me if you want to talk

Answer 3

why do you want to stay with this guy, he doesn't work, he insults you when you call and he's in bed until 12 each day? i would leave it he called you predictably when you called so don't call, i am sure you can find someone a lot better who will appreciate the fact that even though you work two jobs you are still prepared to cook for him before you go to a second job, sweetie he really doesn't deserve you, you deserve a lot better than this,

Answer 4

why o you have to call so often people need their space, a quick call once a day is more than enough.
my partner has a dangerous job so i call once a day see how he is tell him if there is something that he needs to know, kids of sick from school and then say see you later.
you are at work after all

Answer 5

STOP MOTHERING HIM!

He will cope without you phoning him up all the time and cooking for him.

You're heart is in the right place but give him some space.

Good Luck
x

ps. call him at the weekend!

Answer 6

Mose gys doan wnna be destrubed bfour tree pm so doan wring him til then. F yer wanna give him diner send roand a pissa n go direkt frm werk to yer pert time job n hell be plezzed ter sssee yr latr!

Answer 7

listen hun, seriously.

he sounds like a ****er. you're working, he's doing nothing, and yet he shouts at you when you ring him to see if he wants you to make his dinner??? UGH.

get rid. seriously.

ignore him.

like the other person said, he should have the dinner made for when you get in, and then a nice hot bath for you while he washes the dishes.

good luck! =]

Answer 8

Let him come to you and if he doesent, ring him and tell him your moving on and if he cares at all he'll not want you to leave him but worst case scenario would be if he agrees? but then again at least you would know how he feels about you and you wouldent need to waste any more of your time :)

Answer 9

It sounds to me like he's up to something! I would be very suspicious of his actions.
Also he sounds like a bit of a jerk to be honest. I would really think about how your relationship is going.
Good luck with this x

Answer 10

I'm sorry but your spelling is so bad that I couldn't understand about a third of this. I have no advice for you, only a headache.