id been with my ex for nearly 4yrs.it always been a rollercoaster ride and hes pretty much lied to me from the start.ive always been attracted to lier,cheats etc and realise its because my father was the same.im 41 and its high time i grew up and moved on.i feel so foolish now because i knew this last guy lied to me and was on drugs last year.i helped him through it all and let him stay.things seemed ok for a year but now hes stitched me up again.he moved into lodgings 4mnths ago.his life is totally dysfunctional and he relied on his ex for loads.i was very unhappy anyway.basically he texted me last wk and said hed drop some money off and was moving out of town.his phones switched off and hes left his lodgings 1mnth ago?he lied and said he was working,they havent heard from him all week?ive been had over big time.im in shock at how callous hes been but i knew he was a wrongun.i can feel myself slipping into depression and am trying to fight.he didnt even give the respect to talk to me?
2007-10-07 23:56:52 · 14 answers · asked by sarah 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Be very thankful he's your EX ,count your blessings and don't let him bring you down.Evidently you're better off.My Mother always said "you can't trust a liar or a thief".Take care and GOD BLESS.One of my favorite saying is "this too will pass" and believe me it will.If you go to a church talk to your Pastor ,if not find a good Bible believing one.Have a good day.
2007-10-08 00:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Betty M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let yourself get so down about it.. you seem like a really good person. He seems manipulative, and pretty much - rude. To you, and himself.
I can say without even knowing you, you deserve better than that. Everything is easier said than done though, that's for sure. Especially when you've known someone for so long. It's probably super hard dealing with all of this.. I am going through something somewhat similar, and it sucks. I've cried my eyes out enough, and now I am just pissed. Don't waste your time being hurt over him.. go have some fun. Forget about him. Hang out with people who you enjoy being around.
Most importantly, don't let him know he's got to you. When he does call, be strong, and be the bigger person. Just because he is a fool, doesn't mean you have to put up with it.
Hope you feel better, and I hope this helps ;)
2007-10-08 00:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When ur in a relationship like this, it becomes a hard habit to break, although you know that they are taking the mick, its hard to be strong and get rid of them for good, you tend to feel sorry for them and help them as much as you can, but the real test comes when the shoe is on the other foot and its you that needs something from them. This is usually when it sinks in that you're just being used and this hurts. Although you can't see it right now, you will realise that by him leaving, he's done you a favour. You obviously weren't ready to get rid of him, but he has done you a massive favour. It will take time to heal the broken heart, but you will get over him. Just remember that you are a good person and can easily meet someone that will appreciate and respect you, then think that he is a scum bag and whoever he meets, he is going to be the same and in the end he will end up very lonley. Chin up and good luck.
2007-10-08 00:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are focusing on the wrong things, which is why you are slipping into depression.
As long as you stay focused on all the nasty stuff he did and how he's not respecting you (why should you even think he would respect you--he's got no self-respect so can't truly respect another person) and how foolish you feel for having been with him, you are going to stay stuck in those feelings.
You know the right path now. Leave him behind. Focus on where you want to be, the life you want to have.
2007-10-08 04:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by glurpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank goodness he's now your EX boyfriend.
yes, you've been had. But it's over now, he's gone. We all make mistakes and next time you will be prepared to make a better choice. Forget all the "I'm attracted to liars and cheats and can't help it" stuff - every time you find yourself attracted to one, remember this loser and what it's like being with one, and walk away. You don't need to have a boyfriend, wait for someone who will give you the respect that everyone deserves.
2007-10-08 00:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are old enough so to get out of this cycle you need a change, read my general advise, it is for younger people but take, it join a college or a school take some courses, just for fun and knowledge.
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General Advice to Young People
By
Minootoo
This is my general advice to all.
You sound very young and if you are under 30, then study hard if in school or college, stay and finish it.
Build a carrier, youth comes but once take full advantage of it. Study hard, play some enjoy friendship, and then at age 30 if still unattached then try the sites like.
yahoo.shadii.com
And.
jivansathi.com
2007-10-08 00:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by minootoo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What respect could a drug and people user give? And what respect do you think you earned when you weren't respecting yourself? You really need some professional help to sort through this, because you seem to have low self esteem and think you deserve this kind of treatment. Please get help. You do not need the state of depression caused by some loser that can't get his life together. You owe yourself more than that.
2007-10-08 00:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by uphill climb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes kept you on a string by making you feel sorry for him this happened to me but i married the guy it took nearly 14 years to see this. run as fast as you can from him and keep moving just turn anew leaf over and find a new love and be happy.
2007-10-11 15:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a co-dependency problem with this guy. You need to get counseling for that, and for your depression. It is very unhealthy that your loser EX-boyfriend has you wrapped around his finger like this.
2007-10-08 00:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by lj1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SUCH KIND OF A PERSON DOSE NOT VAILURE WHAT THEY HAVE BUT UNTIL THEY LOOSE IT, IN SUCH A CASE LIKE THIS HE DOSE NOT LOVE YOU THE ONLY TIME HE WILL SHOW UP HIS FACE IS IN TIME OF TROUBLE TO HIM YOU ARE A PROBLEM SOLVER THAT'S ALL SO MY DEAR YOU GOT A CHOICE MAYBE YOU WILL CONTINUE LIVING SUCH A LIFE IS UP TO YOU AND SUCH A PERSON CAN PUT YOU IN TROUBLE LIKE ADDICTING YOU INTO DRUGS
2007-10-11 22:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋