What would you do? Leave your family for your love or love for your family?

Question

Please explain your point.

Answer 1

Leave your family for your love. That is the way it is supposed to be.

Genesis 2:24: For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

Likewise parents should aways choose their spouse over their children (I'm not talking about extreme cases here, like a spouse that is abusing the child, etc.). A parent is meant to be a child's primary relationship for a temporary amount of time. A husband and wife, however, are to be one. They make a vow to each other until one of them dies. That is always supposed to be the strongest relationship in anyone's life.

This is coming from a Christian perspective, of course, but I have also seen that when parents choose to make the bond between themselves and their child stronger than the one between themselves and their spouse, it never bodes well for any of them (again, not withstanding extreme circumstances).

I firmly believe that the best thing parents can teach their children is that they (the kids) can never come between mom and dad, and that the marriage is sacred, and teach them to pass that on to their kids.

Of course, this all assumes that your love is your spouse. Those bonds should not exist until that is the case.

Answer 2

... Sounds very hard, loving parents should not force their children to choose between them or the loved one...
But reality is cruel and some parents seem to be more interested in their own selfish happiness than their children future and happiness.
This is absolutely wrong, as I couldn’t sleep at night, just thinking, that I am the one to blame to have provided a miserable and unhappy life to my daughter and forced her into an unwanted marriage.
At least, this is my opinion.
Coming to extremes, I believe, that everybody has the right to seek for personal happiness and freedom, and parents should not stand in the way.
Parents are welcomed to advise and guide their children, but never should be allowed to take such important decisions, which affect their children’s life in their own hands.
I think, that parents did have their own opportunity to be happy in life and if they missed this opportunity, they should not try to make their own children live these dreams, they couldn’t fulfil in their own life.
Young people must learn to go their own way and make their own decisions.
So, I would always do the thing I have done: Leave my parents house behind and go with the person I have chosen to be my life partner.
Some people may think, that family happiness is more important than proper happiness, but I do not believe them, as when they go to bed at night and close their eyes there is nothing else than bitterness and loneliness.
By the way, most parents normally shall give in when they notice, that their children would not give in to their demands and after they tried all kind of blackmailing they usually adapt to the new situation and get along with it.
Of course, if both partners are deeply in love with each other, nobody has the right to separate them, and this includes parents as well.

Answer 3

Love is Blind ! Often we do not see ourselves as others see us . You don't explain why you should have to choose one or the other . We can make awful fools of ourselves when in love . If all your family are against your choice of love ; there must be a good reason , which perhaps you are refusing to see . Your family is your lifetime support ; better to stay with the family . Love relationships often don't last and being alienated from you family will always be a thorn in the side of the one you love .

Answer 4

There is no true love without responsibility and honor. I would not leave my family for someone else. I would have to deal with my feelings of love in some way that would not betray my existing family.

I would change my car, residence, job, hobbies at will. I will not cast off my family like last season's fashions, no matter who comes along.

I'm not trying to be self-righteous, I just feel strongly about this questions I've been married to my spouse for 27 years. This is our only marriage for either of us. There have been times, for both of us, when the only thing keeping us together is our promise at the altar. Sometimes marriage is the hardest thing to do. I will not leave him and he will not leave me, even when all the romantic, warm fuzzy feelings disappear.

Answer 5

I would leave my love for my family, as you only get one family and your love can disappear. although if your family has a problem with your love for no reason and are causing you pain then i would choose my love over my family it all depends on the situation and how your love and your family treat you

Answer 6

I am trying to explain to your own point!!
I think i will go for "love" for your family!!
If you leave your family for"love" i think it is just not right because if you leave you get even more worried did you ever know that???!!!
You just gotta think about it man!

Answer 7

try to convince your family that your love is also very important for your life, be prepared for some negative reactions also, use logic and reasoning to make your family understand about your love, or else all depends on you and your loved ones decision.

Answer 8

leave my love for my Family
i can't trust that love, don't know him/ her that well, there no telling if he or she might leave me for someone else

I know my family since born, they been with me in my good & bad time

you can get as many lover as you want but you only have one set of Parents

Answer 9

I would never leave my family for love - that would be selfish and irresponsible. Plus, the grass is not always greener - know what I mean?
I would definitely get help for my family if they felt love was lacking....

Answer 10

It is a difficult situation to be in, but family has to come first if it is your kids involved. Otherwise, if its only about adults not approving of your choice, well they will come around sooner or later.