I get a bit of grief from people about this subject ...... Parents are responsible for their children ..... and should not winge about having to pay for them .... Being responsible for creating a life they are duty bound to provide for them until the day they die .... that is what happens when you create a life ..... Children are for life !!!!!!
Dont you agree .... ?
2007-10-07 23:27:59 · 22 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Parents are so much wealthier than their children. What is the point of them keeping their money only to leave it to us in their will ..... when we are so old we wont need it ....
2007-10-07 23:43:39 · update #1
I dont mean sponge off them .... But ... Like I work and have my own Appartment and my own money .... But I want a House with a Garden and I really cant afford it .... My Parents could buy the house I want 10 times over .... I just think that If I had the money to buy my child a house I would .....
2007-10-07 23:48:56 · update #2
I agree totally. And I hate the 'they are 18, get them out of my house' mentality. I am a 22 year old student and mostly I support myself without working, but mum helps out with that little bit extra. Plus I have no qualms asking her for money when I need it. Luckily she is one of those people who believes children are for life.
Before people get huffy about this I have already told her I plan to support her in the same manner when I am working full time. I have even designed a wing in my eventual house (architecture student) for her to live. Fair is fair, plus I want her near me as she ages.
On top of this I plan to build a life for my children where (hopefully) I can get to a place where my wealth will regenerate itself and if they don't want to they won't have to work.
Each generation should live better than the last!
2007-10-08 05:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being a good parent is all about creating a person who can look after themselves and it sounds as if you can do that.
Being ultra dependent on their good will and generosity is not being a responsible grown up tho.
It is far more rewarding if we achieve things for ourselves.
Parents are not obligated to leave any money to their children in their will - have you thought about that?
I am sure that if you were really in need of a house with a garden your parents would provide this for you if they could.
Do you not feel obligated to make them proud of you and to stand on your own two feet?
Don't wait around your whole life relying on the benevolence of your parents. If they are fortunate to have piles of money it is up to them when they decide to let you have it.
2007-10-08 00:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so spoiled. You are absolutely wrong! Your parents are not responsible for you until they die, only until you are grown. Their only responsibility to you is to make sure you have food and shelter and clothing as a child, and that you grow up knowing right from wrong and give you the tools you need to learn to take care of yourself. Just because your parents have money, doesn't mean they have to give it to you. Also, if your parents die, that doesn't entitle you to their money either. They could leave it all to charity if they wanted to. They have money because they worked hard and earned it, and if you want things in life you need to do the same thing.
2007-10-08 06:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by missbeans 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In times of desperate need then im sure most parents would be there for their kids whatever their age, as would siblings.
However, if I had a father with your attitude to money then i'd love it and probably milk you for everything you've got (Sounds Harsh but i'm just being honest)
Luckily for me and them I don't, my parents don't give me a choice and thank God for that because i'd be an absolute disaster of a person if they did.
I am thankful that I have to pay my way, I wouldn't change it for the world.
2007-10-08 04:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do agree, but there has to be a cut off point. Who wants or needs 35 year olds relying on their parents to keep them, as an adult you are responsible for yourself! Unless you intend to live at home forever, obey someone elses rules and never grow up then fine, but if you want to have your own life, own home, own children then you are choosing that responsibility and all that comes with it, including being able to support yourself!
2007-10-07 23:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Parents are responsible until children become adults. Paying for them after that time is on a negotiated/needs basis. Parents are duty bound to LOVE & EMOTIONALLY SUPPORT their children until they die and duty bound to feed educate & protect them to become self sufficient and responsible adults. In the past children helped, loved and were loyal to their parents but don't seem to value family anymore. I don't see why parents should keep paying after 21, it doesn't help them to grow up and be self reliant. It's a tough world out their and kids have to be responsible for their own lives. If you are referring to absent fathers who don't pay for their children - don't get me started.
2007-10-08 00:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by flip 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My parents don't have the money to support me, I have worked from the age of 15 and contributed to the house hold income since that time, if it makes all of our lives better then I am happy to help them. I earn more money than my parents do, i totally disagree with you, when you become an adult you stand on your own two feet. I agree if family can help you then it is nice if they do, but certainly not something you should expect or demand.
2007-10-08 04:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, I can't agree totally with this one. I think most parents would lovingly support their children in times of need, however old they are, but at the same time, it's important for those youngsters to gain their independence. Ideally, they should support themselves in due course - and be ready one day to support their parents financially or otherwise when old age or illness renders them vulnerable. It's a two way thing!
2007-10-07 23:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by mad 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
i think that there is a point where children should be trying to supprt themselves.
it depends on the child as a person and the financial situation of the parents.
I for example have been supporting myself and making my own way for teh last few years and so has my partner. siblings of ours are still taking money from our folks though.
2007-10-07 23:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by LBB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if thats the case surely your parents have the right to dress you choose how you do your hair, make up, choose what you study, make your decisions for you etc... your right to freedomis when you pay for your own decisions, if you expect mum n dad to pay you, you should expect less freedom of choice, id feel a bit put out if something id paid for decided to work how it wanted and show me no respect and just came home and ***t in my loo now and again. all this said my mum n dad regularly fork out for me :D
2007-10-07 23:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by qob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋