I am not in favor of that situation but I could do nothing since she is of age and earning her own keep. The thing is I know she is the loser at the end. How can I convince them to tie the know?
2007-10-07 23:23:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Congratulate yourself.
You said it yourself: She is fully independent, living with the partner of her choice.
You managed to raise an adult.
Congratulations.
So try to get over your parental posessiveness and try to be a friend instead.
She won't be a loser with your support.
Now go on that world tour and let the kids make your grandkids.
2007-10-07 23:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by aetheru 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let it go. She is 26 years old, not 16 years old. She isn't under 18, nor are you supporting her, so you really can't do anything.
My advice: if you want to have a good relationship with her, and see your future grandchildren, let it go.
My grandmother didn't like my father living unmarried with my mother, they moved away, and she rarely sees my brothers and me. They have been married 25yrs this year, and together for nearly 30years.
Don't screw up your future relationship with your daughter.
If you are worried about the guy leaving your daughter, it's just as likely he will leave when married. If you are in a Commonwealth country, if they live together for more than 1 years, then they are considered legal partners (the same as married partners) and your daughter would be entitled to half of everything.
2007-10-07 23:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by tara_j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to "convince" them to get married. If they aren't getting married it might be that they aren't sure they are with the right person. Would you want your daughter to marry someone just to be proper, and have it all end in disaster? Let her make her own decisions in her own time.
2007-10-08 06:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are strange. She is 26, shouldn't she be working? My mom had a husband, 2 kids, a university degree, and a career by that time.
2007-10-07 23:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is the problem? She is 26 years old, meaning that she is old enough to make her own decisions. Show her some respect.
2007-10-07 23:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by a las barricadas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is she the loser? Tying the KNOT does not always solve things. As you say she is 26!
2007-10-07 23:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by ells 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im affraid thats part of the modern day world with more people choosing to live together rather than getting married.
2007-10-07 23:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by rcat9999 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well the thing is she's already old enough to understand what she's doing... she isn't bothering u is she??? like u said she's already earning for her own keep.. she can decide on her own... just remind her whenever she visit u.. that life is short.. and we have to live our lives to the fullest...
2007-10-07 23:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by skeptic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know its so hard for mothers to let their children go. as a mother, you still have the right to tell her what you think but i know she thinks she can do whatever she wants coz she is of age and she is earning for herself. just try to be supportive and give her advices. but still, its her call...
2007-10-08 00:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by brazenlove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you feel as a mother.Just try to talk to them that you don't want to have a bastard grandchildren.
2007-10-07 23:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by noy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋