Golf taking over?
My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 1/2 years we love each other very much but the past year he has started playing golf and i used to go along which was fun. NOw he has a handicap which means he plays in competitions every Sat /Sun. As we dont live together (we live with others familys) the wekend we go and stay with his parents and its always been a time i treasured walking along the beach going shopping doing everything together. Now for about 5 hours on a sat /sun he plays golf and im left on my own and when i dsaid 'what about me' he went crazy calling me selfish as its taken alot of hard work to get a handicap and i should be happy for him. Im supposed to not even mind that hes not there for the best part of the day when its a time that we used to treasure. Dosent he want to be with me anymore? Does he love golf more than me? When he does come home he looks online at golf items!!! and is not interested in talking about anything else but golf!!! HELP I LOVE HIM SO MUCH!!
2007-10-07 23:14:24 · 11 answers · asked by Australia 1 in Sports ➔ Golf
you are obviously a golfer
2007-10-07 23:22:06 · update #1
When you love someone means you love the whole thing about him, that includes the family,interest,and hobbies. Meaning...you should try to understand his likes and dislikes. If he likes golf very much then there is nothing you can do about it except that giving him your support and pretending to be interested in the same way. I'm married for almost 11 years and I don't think I gone this far If I did not give my best to my husband. He has so many things that I don't like but I've learned to get along well with it thinking that I love him that much and I don't wanna lose him. Think of it this way, you are not only a lover but you are also a friend that he can talk anything and everything under the sun. Don't be upset by his being golf lover now, better than playing some girls around. Show some interest in his likes and sometimes you also need to be apart. So if you really love him. Love him with all your heart and understanding.
2007-10-07 23:49:43 · answer #1 · answered by lizy 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I too ate, drank and breathed golf when I first started playing. The game was such a challenge that all I could see was conquering it and becoming better as quickly as possible. My family suffered for this however.
Golf can become a very addictive behavior and so it should be treated as such.
Initially, golf started out as a hobby. It was something to do to enjoy the fellowship of friends. Soon, however, I began to serve the hobby instead of the hobby serving me. It became ironic that the very thing I intended to do as relaxation became a grind. It consumed my thoughts and time. Golf had become an all to demanding mistress.
You are stuck with this realization; your boyfriend is held captive by a temptress. What will you do? You can fight the temptress head on, but the consequences of this are that you expend all your energy trying to convince your boyfriend what he is doing is wrong. The temptress will have to do nothing. But the solution that I feel worthy of mention is this; turn your boyfriend over to his mistress for a season and see how he likes it. Make yourself scarce on the weekends, for it's a choice he needs to make between you and the game. At the very least he needs to strike a balance between the two.
Once he begins to see golf as a hobby, and I'm assuming he has a job and is not endeavoring to play golf professionally, the sooner your relationship possibly will get back on line.
2007-10-07 23:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by alboski01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 12:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by amaya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go golfing with him, even if you are just riding along in the cart at least you will be together. Golf is a fun sport to learn about and watch and talk about so go on and get into it with him I am sure he would appreciate that and you might connect again!
2007-10-08 04:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by teresa m 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The simplest thing is to take up golf with him. Ask him to show you his swing, or take some lessons yourself. It's an awesome thing when you have your woman play with you in a sport that you love so much. There are some beautiful golf courses out there, golfing vacations can be very fun and romantic.
2007-10-08 03:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by low1sk8er 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a relationship question, not a golf question. If it wasn't golf that he found to be more interesting than you, it would be something else. At least with golf, you have a pretty good idea where he is!
2007-10-08 02:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by x-15a2 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
ya know dear,
I could tell you something 'magical' so he would NEVER want to leave your side.... And that would be what you'd want to hear, (right)? of course..... Yes ,I LOVE MEN!!!
But they can be stinkers at times.... I believe
that he loves you ..... but it looks as though
he's lookin' for some space . No dought , he knows that you will be there for him ,any
time he 'needs' you . ... ( not as much as 'wants' you???) Trust your gut feelings (please) they are always right. period!
then sit him down , (not pin him down) And say what's on your mind....your feelings. watch his reaction. He might not realize what he's doin' ..... ah , But if he gets agitated , or says , something patronizing...
F&*&89 K ! that ****.. Move on!!!!
Life above ground , is too short!!!!
blessings , .... ~ Ms.Kate ~
2007-10-07 23:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by rrainn 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
This is very simple. Just put it as an ultimatum-- It's either golf, or you.
Then go pack your bags.
2007-10-08 05:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by vdrive_60 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Go cry in the relationships section, would ya.
2007-10-07 23:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by suspendedagain300 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
So what's the problem?
2007-10-08 16:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by toughnottobeacynic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋