One of the bridesmaids that was going to be in our wedding decided to drop out for some ridiculous reason. My fiance doesn't want to ask one of his groomsmen to drop out and I don't think he should, but I don't want to ask anyone else to be in our wedding. The bridesmaid that dropped out was one of his friends, not mine.
I have the choice of asking a friend of mine that initially I wasn't even going to invite to the wedding. I have nothing against her, but we're not close.
OR
Asking my sister in law who I don't like. She's also nearing obesity and the bridesmaids dresses I picked are strapless, so she'll look offensive. (If I do use her, can I pick a different style that's more suited to a big woman (covered up) for her while allowing the other women to wear what they chose?)
OR
Just having an uneven number of groomsmen and bridesmaid.
This is my first choice, but my fiance seems a bit iffy about it and thinks that I should pick someone.
2007-10-07 22:26:25 · 23 answers · asked by some female 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Go with your sister-in-law. Have her wear a dress made of the same fabric as the other bridesmaids... Exact same fabric, in the exact same color, but in a style that flatters her fuller figure. This may help the two of you get closer, anyway.
Congratulations!
God bless!
2007-10-07 22:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mel W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im glad you came here to ask, because your fiance is wrong. You should not include someone who is not that important, just as you would not exclude someone who is important to you. Have an uneven number.
There are lots of ways to solve the uneven dilemma. The most popular being, one bridesmaid gets two groomsmen to walk her down! Ive seen it plenty of times. Also, if there is a single grandmother or mother in the wedding party, it would be very sweet to have a groomsman walk her out.
2007-10-08 02:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
many people have an uneven number in the wedding party. Just have 2 groomsmen walk with one bridesmaid. Or have the best man stand up with the groom and have one groomsman per bridesmaid walk down the aisle.
2007-10-08 09:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite the SIL. Quit being superficial and mean. Making her wear a dress that is completely different from all the other bridesmaids will just make her stand out even more, and you'll hurt her feelings when you explain to her why she can't have the same dress as the others. "She's nearing obesity and she'll look offensive" ?!?! Don't be such a *****! Not everyone can be as perfect as I assume you think you look.
2007-10-08 05:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.10/18/08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my sister-in-law in my wedding. I was not particularly close to her, but I have never regretted it. Your SIL is someone that will be in your life forever and this is a way to acknowledge that and symbolize the families coming together. I think it helped us get closer as well.
P.S. We had strapless dresses and most of my bridesmaids were a bit on the heavier side. I actually think they looked quite nice in the strapless dresses and their size actually filled it out better. Believe me, when the day comes, how they look will be the last of your concerns.
2007-10-08 02:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by PixdeeArtist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the two are stressful, the 2d one is somewhat extra versatile yet lacks etiquette. you do not cost for a bachelorette social gathering, are you insane? And your social gathering isn't plenty extra clever, the MOH hosts it and makes the bridesmaids pay. the two certainly one of you have entitlement subject concerns. Yours is worse. Making bridesmaids purchase costly, matching footwear and saying nails are a could? the place did you detect 7 sheep to stick to you? I heavily dont get why women circulate alongside with this. You sound spoiled and at the instant are having a contest consisting of your pal of who's a reasonably nicer Bridezilla? Eww. you may stay in suburbia. Or have been born priveleged. heavily who do you think of you're?
2016-10-06 07:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by hoehl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is always better to have family in your wedding than friends. More than likely when you mature a bit (which it sounds you have a way to go) you will grow closer with your sister-in-law, whereas you are likely to grow apart from your friends. Also, about her wearing a different dress, that is okay, it is actually more popular now to pick the color and the fabric of the dress and let the bridesmaids pick what style suits them. Good luck.
Oh, BTW, watch how you talk about overweight women because that just might be you someday!
2007-10-07 22:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd just have an uneven amount for the bridal party. Have one of the groomsmen escort two bridesmaids down the aisle.
2007-10-08 04:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a bridesmaid to drop out and I allowed my husband to keep the same amount. No one will care. In the pictures, the photographer made it even by adding the usher.
2007-10-08 06:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were not going to invite your ?friend? to your wedding I would not have her in the wedding - that can be a stressfull time you do not need anything extra to cause problems for a already hard day - If you think your sister-in-law is in for the long haul - have her. You will have those memories forever and you want to remember people that supported you not gave you extra trouble.
2007-10-07 22:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by cmebDUCKs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋