I was browsing questions on here, and I came across a question from a girl who's having a hard time choosing between two guys, and some douchebag put this for an answer: "If you are in therapy, you have no right to start any kind of relationship that will affect other peoples lives. Leave them both alone."
So, what, people who are in therapy should be avoided like the plague and lock themselves up for fear that they'll spread their disease around? Seriously, how many of you agree with this statement?
And before you start ranking on me for putting this in the wrong category, I'm putting here because I know a lot of the people who hang out in this category.
2007-10-07 22:20:26 · 25 answers · asked by Becca 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The reason this pissed me off so badly is because I am also in therapy. I have borderline personality disorder and serious anxiety. My therapist keeps telling me I need to go out and make new friends so I'm not staying in my house all the time, but why should I bother if people are just going to act like this dude.
2007-10-07 22:26:55 · update #1
it's just an opinion, let it be...
2007-10-07 22:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mirko 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No one's perfect so i don't think that people should live isolated lives just because there in therapy.
None of us think the same think or even have the same thoughts.
We have different mental capabilities so on and so forth. Any way if no two people completely alike in the way we think none of us would be an ideal human being (sane anyway).On more of a practical note (since we're all so special in our own way!) we all need some form of therapy or the other (specially us jobless nuts answering other peoples questions for kicks).
For the girl who is in therapy if u want to start a relationship, don't worry about the guys getting hurt (If you are a serious nut job the guy would slap a restraining order on you if he dose not congrats you're not crazy or he's as just as crazy as you.)
and as for the guy who said you should keep away from relationships may be he/she should follow his/her own advice and leave everyone else alone.
P.S this answer was not meant to offend anyone my apologize if it did
2007-10-08 05:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by dax 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've had relationships with people in therapy, and from personal experience I would say that most people brave enough to know they would benefit from therapy, self aware enough, and brave enough to actually do it -
Are worthy of respect and time.
I can't answer the statement as being wrong or right, but it was certainly made in ignorance. It very much depends why a person is in therapy as to whether or not they are in a good place to start a relationship. The fact of being in therapy alone is certainly not a good indicator.
By the same token, there are a lot of people who are not in therapy who would do very well to steer clear of relationships, develop some honesty and self awareness and work on some self improvement.
And yes it does belong under "spirituality", I can't conceive of anything much more spiritual than how we relate to ourselves and each other.
And I am now Dr Phil, Thankyou and
Best Regards
2007-10-08 05:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by Twilight 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The problem with relationships when there are major life issues going on is that someone can take advantage of a person in that condition. I think it would depend on the circumstances. People with significant personality disorders need love like anyone else. But they often have diminished powers of judgment. I would recommend the buddy system. Don't go this alone, but involve someone with good judgment who can provide a sympathetic second opinion before any decisions are made that might be regretted later.
2007-10-08 05:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the idiots.
I know it's hard to do - but you're not going to get a idiot to understand just how horrible their comments are. There are selfish twits who have (at the VERY least) no understanding of Mental Illness and it's associated problems.
All I can say that anyone SERIOUSLY paying attention to their therapy is trying to improve themselves. Unfortunate a big hurdle is idiots like this who believe all the negative stereotypes associated with Mental illness and have no idea how ongoing encouragement of this fallacy causes more problems with the victims.
I'd probably suggest that their comments are as sensitive as an idiot suggesting Exorcising the Holy Spirit.
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2007-10-08 06:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by Rai A 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The person who wrote this answer needs to take his own advice and seek therapy himself. Yes I think he should avoid infecting the people doing serious therapy.
For those who are already in therapy, Good luck and nothing helps more than a friend.
2007-10-08 05:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by noyoungun 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A lot of therapists recommend that their patients should not start or attempt a romantic relationship because they have too many problems that they need to fix within themselves first before they attempt to have a relationship with someone else. But not everybody fits in that same boat. That guy was probably in therapy and heard that he should not try to be in a relationship because he wasn't in the right place yet.
2007-10-08 05:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by hilarys_skillery 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The person who said that is obviously an idiot who is very ignorant towards mental health. I am also in therapy and I have been for many years. I was diagnosed at a very young age with numerous mental issues. I have antisocial personality disorder, bipolar disorder, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder and clinical depression
2007-10-08 06:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not agree with this person's statement.
People in therapy are our brothers and sisters, mothers and fathers, our children, our co-workers, and our friends. They deserve our respect, our concern, and our support.
I am appalled that mental illness is still regarded as a "disease" by so many people. I wrote this poem in 1989.....things haven't changed enough!
"The world laments all suffering,
Plagues, disease of every kind.
But not one tear will fall to earth
To mourn the passing of a mind."
2007-10-08 05:39:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Its true most people do have mental health issues whether they realise it or not!! So there are millions of people in relationships who could benefit from therapy.
In saying that.... if your head is truly screwed up then yeah, stay out a relationship. Pay attention to yourself etc
Whoever posted the statement you put was obviously a wazzum and put things a bit bluntly..... but they kinda had a point!
2007-10-08 05:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by plucknhammer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't agree with what he said. People in therapy are getting help for their problems, and they deserve relationships just like everyone else does. I don't see how people in therapy will "affect" other people's lives negatively. Mental illness is not a spreadable disease.
2007-10-08 05:24:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋