my girlfreind is staring to get on my nerves, she over reacts at every little thing. for example the other day i had 3 missed calls from her (i know thats not alot) and about 2 texts in about 30mins, the reason for this was that she saw my name on MSN and it no-longer said her name with flowers around it, so she apparently burst into tears before continously ringing me, i couldnt answer because i was driving.
as far as i can see this is a bit obsessive or is this normal?
2007-10-07 22:01:18 · 11 answers · asked by Kruger, Freddy Kruger 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, she's obessesive or whatever, but she's just being too sensitive, that's all. all women in fact, all over the world are worried when the person they love or goin out with are doin something else then things with her. she's jus alittle bit tight and most people (male) hate being 'followed' by their girlfriends. she wasnt obesessive, but she's just very very sensitive. she's really worried about things happen when you are not in her sight.
that's normal.
every person has it's own way to date people, and os and so. and as it's her, she just want... well, care. that's what female wants when they are in a relationship. when you show some care, she starts to believe and thinks that you love her too. maybe it's a little bit...troublesome for male, but won it satisfy the girls? and the girls also had taken care of you ... and that's what should occur in a couple. they care each other, trust each other and loyal.
she burst into tears. she's over-worrying, not obesssive. she's too worried about changes. a sudden change can make the woman think of any possibilities, like her boy doesnt like her anymore, she's unnatractive, and so and so.
so when something had a sudden change and she notices it, explain to her.
about the call, when a girl made the first call and the boy couldnt answer it, she thinks that the boy have some sort of business and start to think of any possibilities. and I am not accusing your girlfrined to be this way. and the second and third and so, they will start to think that you :
for example:
have accidents,
are in a meeting
and so and so until
have another girl in his sight.
so that's just what same up to female's mind, and they are jsut showing their care but worrying but sometimes, they just over worry and annoy the boy.
what I reccomend is you be patient and try not to be angry or emotional. explain as soon as Possible (ASAP) whenever you can and tell her nicely when she's in the good mood directly face-to-face whe you guys are on a date- explain about what she's done and what you've done and try to tell her really nicely using GOOD words to say that she doesnt need to call so often and she doesnt need to worry. after all, what's in your eyes is only her, and that's it. some girls might not believe, but if they dont, tell them that if you guys are really lovers, you guys have to believe each other. you believe in her and put a trust on her, and why not her?
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2007-10-07 23:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sophia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This behavior is normal.
To us guys it may seem a little weird and obsessive but,
we don't think like they do.
Now what you have to decide is how do you cope or change.
If you want to keep cool, apologize. It is the cheep and easy way out of this situation although it will occur again and again. Your response will create an opening for greater and seedier chances to be a mouse.
If you recognize this as a drama play that you really don't need you can tell her that it is inappropriate behavior and needs to get a grip if she is going to be allowed to continue with you.
Insecurity is a two way street. She is calling because she is insecure and you are afraid to recognize her actions for what they are because of your own insecurity.
either way don't whine just do what you gotta do.
2007-10-07 22:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by noyoungun 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lol, I'm sorry for laughing but she does sound slightly insane..
But I guess everyone interprets things differently..
She's probably the type of girl who needs a lot of constant reassurance and public displays of affection in order to feel like you still want her.
That doesn't make her obsessive, just needy and insecure. She might have interpreted the MSN nickname change as "Honey, our wuv is over".
Who knows?
(Alternatively, she could be very young.. that would be even funnier because it would seem like pay back time for robbing the cradle)
2007-10-07 22:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by Memma 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um, she might be having a bad day, or be a bit hormonal. Have you reassured her lately that you love her?
Sometimes you need to spell it out to women. "When I changed your oil without being asked, that meant I really, really love you, because changing oil is a ***** and a half, and I wouldn't do it for just any girl."
You need to talk with her about it, and make sure you are on the same page. But if she still can't stop ruminating about what your possible actions might possibly mean, you may have to reconsider the relationship. Maybe she can't change, and if it's driving you nuts now, think about how it will be 20 years from now.
Good luck.
2007-10-07 22:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by Madame M 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women don't need a reason to be emotionally needy or obsessive; that's most of them's 'modus operandi' anyway! Just stay calm and tell her that you were driving and can't always respond at the drop of a hat because she's in need, which you couldn't know anyway. As for the website, you'll have to explain that one on your own; I just wonder why if you're together she needs to check a website to see if you still care for her...
2007-10-07 22:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not. I'm a girl and I definitely think that she's overreacting. But to be honest, us girls just get a little crazy from time to time. The best part? All we want to do is make up and make out afterwards :) However, if she's like this consistently she might not be worth the stress on your part, she needs to mature if this is a daily thing and not just a once-in-a-while occurence.
2007-10-07 22:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by Lotsa Q 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is over-reacting a bit but i wouldn't call it obsessive she may of just got the wrong idea.
2007-10-07 22:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a bit obssessive. Tell her to calm down or get out of the relationship before she gets any crazier.
2007-10-07 22:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by h1u4sxda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's really obsessive!
tell you're gf that she's over-reacting. tell her it's always be love all the time.
2007-10-07 22:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by devil in disguise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm....very obsessive!!!
2007-10-07 22:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋