Size Matters? [guys]?

Question

Ok so I have come to realize that know matter how great of a person you are, all guys look outside a girl. Her breast, her waist, why does that have to be all that matters? You have to be little, I mean even the Christian guys are like that, she has to look nice. Why I don't get it? I am a big girl, I am not ugly though I have had many people tell me I am not, but because I am a "hefty" women I am not "worthy" of dating. I have a really good personality. Please when you answer don't say well if you lost some weight... because I want someone to love me for me... Not on how I look outside. Please help I just don't get it.

Answer 1

I think you just have to associate yourself w/less superficial people. I have friends who have heavy gf/bf's. If you're attractive w/a great personality, I don't see why it would be too hard. Of course, I know weight isn't on your side, but if you present yourself well - nicely dressed, well groomed, and confident, then I'm sure you'll find someone to appreciate you.

Answer 2

You will succeed in finding a Nice person to be with. Someone will come along that recognizes the true beauty that you have. I for one prefer smaller ladies. The don't have to have big breasts. I'm picky, but on the other hand I'm probably alot more lonely that all of those larger people out there who have somebody because they looked at the true beauty. Good Luck you will succeed

Answer 3

For me there has to be a physical attraction there first.

After that comes personality. If you look good but have a bad personalty i lose interest.

If you have a good personality but you look bad i would not be interested in dating you. You have to have the Whole package.

Everybody is not attracted to the same look so maybe you are just looking for the wrong type of guy.

There are guys out there who like big women

Answer 4

My best friend is a larger girl and so are many of the women in my family. They are all happily married! Don't worry, you just haven't met the right guy yet. If you are happy with yourself, it helps. Self confidence is very attractive! You are exactly right, someone should love you for you. Even those little girls that you talked about may not be so little after they have babies. If their guy only liked them for their looks, they are not going to be very happy!

Answer 5

Truthfully size does matter. Men have a image in their mind of what is beautiful woman to them. Some like them skinny, some mid ranged, and some like them heavy. The key is to find a man that likes a woman of your size, and not try to change the ones who are bias against you because of size. The men that say you would be fine if you lost (or gained) some weight is not really one you should want, because if you did lose (or gain) some weight they would find something else to complain about.

Answer 6

I know at least two guys who prefer big women. They both thought I was too 'little' even though I weighed over 150 lbs. You're just meeting the wrong men. Be who you are, find ways to meet lots of different men (church, volunteer work), dress nicely and talk nicely. Look around you, you'll see plenty of women who are married who aren't size five's.

Answer 7

Well, every man has his different preferences, but you're right that all men are concerned with looks, to at least some degree. That includes me, even though my friends would say I'm far less so than most of them. The trick is to find a man who has a personality you can appreciate, & who will appreciate your looks. Most men tend to like women smaller than them, so you may have to seek out larger men to find one right for you. I know I prefer girls shorter than me who weigh less than me, often pursuing women ranging from 160-200 lbs. in the 5'4" to 5'8" range. Some men are more selective on their choices, but most of us tend to go for someone smaller than us.

Also, how you dress & conduct yourself can easily detract from physical imperfections. I have been attracted to girls my buddies wouldn't consider, because they are more concerned with how thin a girl is. For me, if a girl dresses in a way that isn't embarassing (heavy + miniskirt + meeting my parents = bad idea), that matters to me. Also, a girl who has personality traits similar to my own scores big points with me. If she is someone who has respect for my parents, acts professional when meeting my colleagues, doesn't throw a fit when I want to hang out with my friends, & is an absolute nymphomaniac when we're alone, then some extra curvatures are going to seem far less important.

As far as your weight goes, I may be in the minority for saying this, but you should NEVER lose weight for the sole purpose of attracting someone. If you plan to lose weight, do so for you & your well-being. I am currently wanting to alter my own physique, but this is because I want to improve my own health & increase my physical strength. I honestly think if a girl I who paid no attention to me now began taking notice when I became more fit, I would view her as shallow & be turned off by her.

Answer 8

well i don't know about others
but i do know this
i seek a woman in which when i go home after a hard day at work..when i watch her face, it soothes my mind and she treats me good..
that the only thing matter..
even if the current MISS WORLD.. but don't treat me well..
hemmm... then it is just for pure sex
nothing else
i want somebody which i can grow old with..
someone i can have kids,grandchildren
someone i can spent my time with ease

but then..there r lots of men..
even women
and they all differs in how the want to have their dates look like,
some women too i supposed is quite 'picky' , who likes just fine gorgoeus men...
there are a lot of us out there.. u soon find someone who loves u for who u are,
good luck

Answer 9

I never had an project with body length, yet I did continuously date adult men who were athletic or extra healthful for his or her top. I dated some taller adult men, a pair shorter ones, and wound up marrying my hubby who's precisely my top. It only worked out that way. those who discriminate in accordance with top might want to lose out on getting thus far diverse tremendous human beings!

Answer 10

sorry, we don't understand it either. It's mostly sexual. There are so many girls out there, why date a "hefty" chick, when you can have one that really get's your juices going. That's not all that matters, that's just the first thing that catches out eye, then we work on the other stuff.