Hi as i said this girl kissed my bf when he was drunk just 3 days ago, I found out from a friend of mine the day after and i got mad. I didn't wait for him to tell me i just phoned and started to call him stuff,we met but i told him to split up.. He admitted it but he said it ment nothing and he is terribly sorry..right now he's feeling ill and stuff and he's not going out.
Now after reading some other similar questions i told him that im ready to forgive him because i love him too much and i know he does too though he said to give him a bit of time to sort his atitude out. I don't know what to do realy, the image of him kissing another girl is killing me but i don't want to lose him coz of a stupid kiss..
Can someone help me?
2007-10-07 19:54:23 · 18 answers · asked by ozzy_ozbabe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im sorry that happened..
very mature and strong of you finding the power to forgive him..
anyways i kind of wonder if he was kissing that girl back?? like if she just came after him but he like pushed her off or smthing that's fine and dandy.. but him being drunk is no excuse.. he should be more responsible than that..
you have every right to be hurt and deff let him feel the pain for a little while.. he'd be the same if it were you.
but you do love him and you can't hold on to that forever.. the important thing is that it didn't mean anything and you need to believe that.. he came back to YOU.. he's not with that girl.
Its very important to his self esteem that you believe him and trust him.. make sure you tell him that.
Im sure everything will be fine..
hope i could help
2007-10-07 20:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alcohol takes the blame for a lot of mistakes..... but the fact is that your boyfriend didn't stop this girl, and it sounds like he wouldn't have told u anything about it, had your friend not told u about it the next day. if the kiss meant nothing to him, then why did he risk your relationship for it ? i'm sure he is sorry, but that still doesn't excuse what he did.
i think u must be a more forgiving person than me, because if any boyfriend of mine had done that to me, i would not be able to forgive him. but i guess that's your choice. be warned though, in this relationship, u will always have that little nagging voice of doubt in your head, every time your boyfriend goes for a night out without u... u will be wondering what he's up to... i think u need to ask yourself whether or not that's good for either of u.
2007-10-07 20:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did it when he was drunk, so maybe the problem is alcohol. If he continues to do stupid stuff when he drinks, then maybe he drinks too much and should not drink. If he can drink less, and not do stupid stuff, then it was a one time incident, and hopefully he learns not to drink so much. If alcoholism runs in his family, then he may be at risk for having a drinking problem. If he has done stupid stuff other times he was drinking, then that should also tell you something. But, many people when they first start drinking learn their limits by over doing it, then are able to cut back and behave appropriately.
2007-10-07 20:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl kissed your boyfriend? It takes 2 people for a kiss, and if he was that sorry or you meant anything to him it wouldn't have happened.
get yourself some dignity and self respect and get rid of him - can you really love a guy that you will be worrying about EVERY time he goes out with his friends and has a few drinks?
A "stupid kiss" - this will lead to more and you'll end up getting more hurt.
2007-10-07 21:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by dee-lightful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not mentioned how long you have been together, and how serious the relationship is, so its difficult to advise you. If I was you I would forget it, and forgive him.
If there was anything in the kiss, he would have gone off with her, but he hasn't, and he has said he is sorry, and wants to be with you. A kiss is only a kiss, I don't think it is a reason to split up with someone you love.
2007-10-07 20:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Tony-Pony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people should not use drunkeness as a reason to do things like that. I have been drunk so many times, without my bf there, but i have NOT kissed or let anyone kiss me. why b/c i love my bf. and nothing changes that. If he really loved u, he owuld think of u no matter what. dont accept that excuse. there is no way in h*ll i would.
2007-10-07 20:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by lirpa 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
go find the girl and give her what 4 and then give him what 4 2 and then kiss a bloke in front of him and see if he likes it but then if he was drunk he might have known what he was doing and she might have made all the moves
2007-10-07 20:19:31 · answer #7 · answered by in love and its great 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not many people see drunk as an excuse. my boyfriend doesn't but when i cheated after a night of drink, he forgave me. it's hard to let go of someone you love for one stupid drunken mistake. ask him if he remembers it happening because if he did and didn't tell you, that makes it a bit worse.. goodluck
2007-10-07 20:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it down to the old old problem of booze! you really are best forgetting about it. We have all been there and it is NOT worth getting upset over it. And in reality dont be surprised if it happens again? Booze is the guilty party here!!
2007-10-07 20:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by ((LOON)) 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being drunk is not an excuse to disrespect your gf. Dump him. He does not respect you or he would have never allowed her to get close to him. You don't need those kind of headaches. You will never be able to trust him again!!!
2007-10-07 20:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋