I am 21 .She is 15. What do i do?

Question

I don't know. I never had gf but I need someone who I can talk sometimes. She says she loves me. I don't know what to do. I do like her but I am kind of scary to love her. I have no plan to meet her or anything. is it illegal to love someone 15 online? Tell me what do u think

Answer 1

I too, am in a similar situation (6 year difference) and I must make a point of this, because everyone always judges the book by its cover in these kinds of situations.

First, make sure you know your local laws. In my case, age of consent is 14 (too young IMO for such a thing, but sex is not the issue nor the interest for me - I am still a virgin and have no problem with it). Knowing the laws though, can and will save you a lot of hassle, though there will still be many against it. There will also be many boundaries, rules and lines that you can't even tread near without upsetting the apple cart.

On to my point: What people do not realize is that just because you are X years old (physically), doesn't mean you are X years old (mentally). We all physically develop at the nearly the same rate, but mentally we do not; life experiences is what develops the mind, something you don't have control over. (Watch the movie Jack with Robin Williams). The best route would be to openly talk with her parents and your own. Need not worry of anyone else's opinions that are not involved. But knowing your boundaries is very important. For example, when her father goes and grabs his shotgun, it's time to run real fast, lol, j/k. Don't let that scare you. They'll appreciate and respect that you had the courage to confront them.

Best of luck.

I must add: You need to talk to her about it as well. Make sure (if both of you do decide to be exclusive to one another), that she know it will be tough for her as well. It will not be easy until she is 18 because of so many negative views and I understand why and where these negative views come from, but if it is love, there is no stopping it.

Answer 2

Six years might not seem like a lot if you were 26 and she was 20. However when it comes to life experiences, there is a big gap between 15 & 21. This girl is just two years out of the Barbie doll and Disney stage.

My advice if you don't want to find yourself in TROUBLE, find someone in the official adult status, 18+.

Online can sometimes be used a crutch to avoid having real rlsps. Try joining activities where you interact with other people your age group. This way you get out into the real world and interact with people.

Answer 3

K honestly, I don't think it's illegal, but it may be morally damaging. She's 15...I know it's only 6 yrs, but there is a lot of emotional growing that goes on between then and where you are at. I personally detest the old adage that "someone that young can't possibly know what love is", but in this case, some of that may be true. perhaps she does love you, but I'm not so sure that it's in the "I wanna marry you and make babies" way. I'm thinking it may be more along the lines of "you listen to me, I can talk to you and you don't judge me" sort of way. I f you do care about her, it may be wise to suggest she look for male companionship in her own age group, as that would be the responsible adult thing to do. But I don't necessarily think you should stop talking to her. There is always a chance that you may be the only one she feels comfortable talking to, and trust me, that's a valuable thing to have for an adolescent. I hope I've helped

Answer 4

Wait until she's legal if nothing else. The last thing you need is to go to jail for liking a 15 year old. Also keep in mind that she is young and might not like you later. I'm not trying to dis her but i've been there. If you guys really like each other you'll be able to wait.

Answer 5

You must either be desperate or a pervert!!! That is sick. She is a child, what in the world could she know about love? 15 year old girls think that they love guys before they even go out with them.

Yes it is illegal to tell a child that you are in love with them.

Start acting like an adult before her parents find out and you end up in jail!!!

Answer 6

Well yeah it is illegal to go out with a 15 yr 0ld girl when your 21....and if y0u d0nt want t0 get int0 a BIG mess maybe y0u sh0uld start talking t0 girls in your age range....theres plenty 0f women 0ut there f0r y0u t0 meet instead 0f little girls wh0 think there all gr0wn up.....y0u sh0uld consider stop talking t0 her f0r your 0wn sake.

Answer 7

Ok she's 15, she's young, don't lead her on anymore because she may want to meet you and you can't do that, you could get locked up for it, another thing young girls feelings get hurt easier so don't go by saying you love her too

Answer 8

as is quoted by the law: any relationship in which you are more than 4 years older than your partner, you will go to jail and become a registered sex offender. you don't want that, and if she really does love you, she will be crushed if you try and leave her.. all i can think of is wait until she's legal, then fully hook up.

Answer 9

Leave her alone. I could see if shes 17 but 15. No way. thats just wrong. Sorry move on there will be other fish in the sea. Im sorry. just dont give up hope. someone will come along.

Answer 10

you have a simple case of 5 to 10. 5 minutes of fun 10 years to life in prison. Run brother, unless you like masterbating with a room mate in your cell.