They have never met face to face. She swears that she is in love. She will wait till he is 18 for them to date.Does this sound like she is way too naive or that he just a real smooth talker or possibly someone older trying to bait her. She also says this guy understands her and they have alot in common. I say WTF!!!
2007-10-07 18:57:54 · 22 answers · asked by meiyotora 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A 14 year old boy is still just that, a boy! He still has a lot of growing up to do. It sounds as though this 19 year old girl does too. I don't think it's a good idea for anything to come of this "relationship". It's very unlikely that the boy will still be the exact same person he is now when he is 18. I'd say the girl should look for someone closer to her own age. That kind of age difference is fine when you're older, IE 25 and 30, but right now it is totally inappropriate!
2007-10-07 19:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well this is a difficult question to answer, so let's tackle this from several sides. Legally: Technically, as long as there is no sex involved, then it is legal. However, if you are having sexual relations and you reside in a state where the age of consent is 16 or older, than your courting is illegal. He can be prosecuted for statutory rape, even if you say it is consentual. So - my advice is to look up age of consent in the state in which you live. Morally: You ask if it is okay if you are four years apart. Sure, it is perfectly fine to be 4 years apart. But what raises concern is the fact that you are 15. It would be a different story if you were 21 and he were 25 - but that is not the case. Everyone has different morals and for that reason many will argue wheather it is "right" or not, but ultimatly you must decide that. Situation: What also needs to be taken into consideration is the situation. Simply is a "good" guy or a "bad boy"? Does he stay close to family, honor and respect his elders? Or is he a "rebel" that does drugs, parties, drinks, and stays out late? Furthermore, is this a person you just met, or have you known each other for years? If you've known each other for a long time and you know his family and history, than it would be an entirely different situation than if you just met him. Parents: You really should tell your parents. You should do it casually- no major sit down talk; that would only build things up and if their reaction is negative, the climax of the situation could prove volatile. If after considering all of the above factors you choose to still date this man, then you need to discuss it with your parents. Introduce him to your parents and make sure that they approve of him. I know you probably won't want to, but your parents are forever and boys come and go; you need to still have good standings and a good relationship with your parents. So make sure that he does not create or encourage a rift between you and your parents.
2016-05-18 22:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible. The 19year old is probably just desperate and lonely, and this 14year old has given her some ray of hope. She actually just needs some help, or a man her age that will treat her right. I know that no girl will wait 4 years for a guy, that's like going through high school with him.
2007-10-07 19:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by Om... 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Desperate Times require Desperate Measures....
2007-10-07 19:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Come on!!! 14 yr old kid and a 20 year old chick... get real. She will never wait ... she has to wait at least 4 years,,, what makes you think she is not going to play the fiels... she is young and wild , and why not go for it.!!!!! no waiting there... tooo many years to wait, and never having to meet in person,,,,, well there you go...
2007-10-07 19:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by mich_lady49127 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow i just turned 15 and theres no way anyone thats14 can suduce someone, im sorry but your friend shouldnt wait for him cause hes not going to wait for her trust me on that one
2007-10-07 19:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
word of advice. forget this guy. try to find someone in real life where you live, get to know him and then maybe date. you dont this guy on the internet you could be in contact with a paedopile or a pervert and you could put yourself in extreme danger..
2007-10-07 19:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by jay or 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
of course it is haven't you heard a;ll the stupid questions
she's probably weights 300 lbs or waiting for a fool something ain't rite
2007-10-07 19:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by wllsh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think thats just wrong... i mean.. wtf is she thinking.. better yet.. why would a 14 yr KID want to be put in this kind of situation.. look son.. live ya life.. stick to ya own age.. dont take more than you can bargain for!
2007-10-07 19:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by maythedevilbewithyou 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
what is your role in the situation?
anyway, I'd say it wll all blow over before 2008.
REgards,
Chas.
2007-10-07 19:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by Chas. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋