My ex girlfriend is over me, but she said I can call her when ever if I want to talk. We were in a long distance relationship after only 2 months of dating. I didn't trust her for some reason even though she gave me no reason not to, and she knew this so she broke it off. She is at college now and probably wouldn't have time for a relationship anyway. I'm going to still meet girls and stuff like that, but when she comes back next summer, I want to try to win her back. I figured if I talked to her every month or so and just kept in touch, and tried to rebuild some relationship after what happened, if we were both single in the summer, she'd think about it. She was really something special and I want to show her that I changed, because I will be working on making myself a better person while she is away at school. Is this crazy?
2007-10-07 18:42:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know I'm going to get a lot of "move on" answers, but does anyone think that this could work?
2007-10-07 18:42:52 · update #1
Wow, I didn't expect the answers I got. Thanks a lot for the encouragement and the advice. I really appreciate it.
2007-10-07 19:10:34 · update #2
no its not crazy,its actually good thinking.
2007-10-10 15:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by thehottestbradpitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not crazy. You really like and love this girl but you hate what happened between you two. The same goes for her as well saying that it's ok for you to call and everything after what obviously happened to you guys. It's cool that you're taking this approach because as we all know, action does speak louder than words. In other words, she will see a change in you and embrace it if it's for the good of you and her. If you guys had something special before the terrible incident or mistrust or whatever then it is possible that the flame can be rekindled. Be her friend for right now and this time, se her for her and you for her. Chill out with the sex talk for now and be more interested in what she does in school, and how her day went. You should continue to change for the better and see if you can be compatible to her lifestyle which will have her to automatically merge to yours and you all will be happy, I hope, good luck.
2007-10-08 01:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by beesugar24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it could work. But you really do need to work out your trust issues. And show her that you trust her more. I mean words say one thing and actions say another. So be positive keep an open mind. But if she doesn't wish get back together so soon. Do keep a healthy friendship going there, to let her know you can be there for her even when she isn't with you. And if she just never wants to get into a relationship with you again, have to be able to face that. I mean I know its hard at times but, sometimes you just have to face the facts and move on when its more than obvious she won't be interested in you that way again. But good luck.
2007-10-08 01:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it could work if you believe in it, no matter how corny to say that but it’s true!
The thing is you need to work on this NOW, cuz she might not wait for summer and might already hook with some one.
Trust me, if you open up about this.. and admit that you feel you made a mistake and want another chance.. she probably gonna realize she feels the same. Why would you want to take the long road and wait and start all over again.
2007-10-08 01:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by fab cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i will give u the benefit of the doubt and lay out the options for u.
firstly it will still be a long distance relationship, she will be surrounded with guys around her are u sure u will be able to trust her??
secondly summer relationships are a thrill compared to a real one
and then u also going to meet more women
I'm not saying this couldn't work but just that u have alot of things against this working
2007-10-08 01:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say this but you have to understand that if you want to build a relationship back with this girl your going to have to call her more than once a month. And if you date other girls, just make sure that you don't hurt them in the process of getting your girl back. It could work but im just saying don't hurt anyone cause then you become the bad guy
2007-10-08 01:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not call her right now. Let some time pass, so that the distrust memories have faded somewhat. When she comes back next summer. Contact her, and tell her that you realize that you were being unfair to her, and that you have matured a lot since then.
2007-10-08 01:47:46 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it could work, but you should carefully evaluate the reasons you broke up to make sure it's worth the effort. Also, keep in mind that while she will be busy in college, there is always time for dating. Don't get your heart broken over it.
2007-10-08 01:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by naomireid544 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, i don't think its crazy at all. If you think she's worth it then give it your best shot. Although always remember that even to the best of people and intentions, things don't always go the way we want them to. If it doesn't work out, know that you did your best to make things work and that it just wasn't meant to be. For now, good luck and do all you can to win her back!
2007-10-08 01:58:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's already moved on, I really don't think there's much hope for you. But hey, give it a try. The worst she can do is say no. But I wouldn't hold out alot of hope. Good luck anyway!
2007-10-08 01:46:31 · answer #10 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't in your mind trust her than you need to give up. Don't keep her on a string. If you will agree to trust her then you can pursue, but if you can't then let her go.
2007-10-08 01:48:12 · answer #11 · answered by Peanut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋