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Question

I met a guy he lives an hour away should we be meeting 1/2 way or he should come to my side of town??

dont get me wrong i dont mind meeting 1/2 way but in the inital stages i was thinking more of (let him come to you let him do some work) and then if we hit it off i def dont have a problem going his way!!!!

Answer 1

Personally, I believe that if you want to date someone that lives an hour away, the man should drive to the woman. Mainly, this is for safety reasons. Speaking of safety, you should meet at a restaraunt where you will likely been seen by people you know. Plus, because you take your own vehicle, you are free to leave the date when you feel threatened or if, at the end of the date, you find that you do not click together.

But also, if a guy really wants to get to know a girl better, he should be willing to drive to go on a date with her. This shows her respect and a willingness to go that extra mile to gain her attention and respect. If a man is not willing to drive an hour for a date with a woman, I do not think she should date him. After dating him for a reasonable amount of time, then I firmly believe that the woman and the man should equally drive to each other and/or meet in the middle or both. But girl, give the date a chance before you start making plans to drive to him!!!

P.S. Just a bit of friendly advice from a wise woman: Men DO NOT respect women who put out on the first date. Never let a man lead you to believe that you owe him anything (meaning anything sexual) just because he drives an hour for a date or buys you dinner or whatever. So, do not cheapen yourself into falling into that line of thinking.

Answer 2

Okay, you want an expert. I'm almost 38, and it's safe to say I've done this a few times, does that count?
I come from the old school. In my dating years you wouldn't even be considering meeting this boy half way. Either he'd come to you or that would be the end of it. Someone else said that seems one sided. I agree. I don't know where my parents and their parents got the idea that the guy has to do all the work. It's hypocritical. Everything in a relationship is supposed to be about compromise, sharing and equal partnerships. How then, are you justified in saying "oh, but you've got to do the travelling while I sit here and wait." That makes no sense.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with meeting him half way. Go, and have a great time.

Answer 3

Ok, a couple of options:

1) Where did you meet him? If you met him online, I don't think you should be meeting someone that far away if you've never met him in real life if not at all. If he has to come, try making him meet you at a restaurant or fast food place. And make one of your friends come.

2) If you've met him already, then ask him what he would want to do. If it's costing him more money and he's not too happy about it, then meet him half way. If he's really excited to see you he wouldn't mind going all the way to your side of town.

Hope I helped!

Answer 4

Well .. it depends on how you meet him in the first place. Of course if you met him online then you don't want him knowing where you live until you get to know him better.. so meeting 1/2 way in a public place may be the better option here. If he is someone you know well, you still should meet 1/2 way.. if this is going to be a relationship.. everything is 50/50 right.. good luck girl!

Answer 5

If you have just started talking or seeing each other, he should come visit you. Then you just keep switching. I am currently dating a guy who lives an hour away too. We've been dating for a while now so I drive there on Wednesdays Saturdays, he comes here Thursdays and Sundays. Long distance relationships work as long as you both give effort :) Good luck!

Answer 6

Well, if you just met, it depends.How you met is even more important. I'm basing this answer as if you met online or over the phone-
You should see how far he is willing to go to meet you.
If he's willing to come all the way to meet you, he's probablly got no problem with commitment(which COULD end up in one of those "how to lose a guy in 10 days" kinda thing).
If he's really uncomftorble with coming all the way to meet you, he could be really shy and might take a long time to start a real relationship.
If he insists on meeting halfway, its good. It means he's willing to work for you if you're willing to work for him.
Overall, it really depends on how well you know him and how comfertable you are with meeting him.

Answer 7

If you've just met him, I would expect him to be interested in me enough to put in a bit of effort & drive 1 hour!

If he wants to meet half way now, to me, that speaks volumes!

I wouldn't waste my time.

If after you have been out a few times and you feel there may be a future, then yes, you could meet half way or take it in turns to drive the hours trip.

Answer 8

After you get a 2 karat ring you may feel compassion for the lug and meet him at the expensive restaurant sometime, but ither than that, the princess should be met with the carriage.

Answer 9

If he isn't coming to you, there is a problem. If he lives that far away, also make sure that he is introducing you to his friends, and he doesn't leave his cell phone off or in his vehicle when he is with you. Believe me, that is a great opportunity to cheat for him, if he has a gf on his side of town.

Answer 10

What distinction is donning a bag around with you gonna make? you're a woman.. it is have been given not something to do with him which you're on your era, and it is organic. you at the instant are not often gonna could circulate to the bathing room each and every 5 minutes are you? and how long will the date final? some hours. supply up stressful and function relaxing.