why can't children know about sex?

Answer 1

They do anyway. However you don't want to be the one who tells them about it because you don't want to live in a ten by ten room.

Answer 2

They can, but just the basics. It's wrong to lie to your child when they ask "where do babies come from?" because when they learn the truth they'll lose their trust in you. It's not the same as when they learn that Santa isn't real because that doesn't affect their adulthood. There's nothing wrong with telling a child about the reproductive system and how it works. Especially if you emphasize the part about how they can't do it until they're older. My mom gave me the sex talk at the same time that she told me about puberty. She told me about the changes that would be happening and why those changes were occurring. Thus, I knew about sex as a child (she told me at nine because that's when she started puberty). Most parents don't want to tell their children about sex because it's embarrassing. I know I'm not looking forward to that day! There's no reason for children to know about the euphoric feelings that sex induces because they won't understand it (even though most children begin masturbating around six months, and some before birth. Yes , they do; it's a medical fact). And it will ruin the surprise they get as teenagers when they start putting feelings to faces and start associating sex with love/infatuation.

I think the main reason that children don't know about sex (r we don't think children others than our own do) is because adults are embarrassed to discuss it with them and other adults (the issue of informing children that is). Some parents are so embarrassed that they never tell their children and assume that someone else will. Unfortunately, that someone usually ends up being the boyfriend or girlfriend in the parking lot who already knows and then the kid gets to find out where babies come from first hand.
Besides, children generally don't completely understand sex. I had a friend in the 4th grade who thought she had sex because she took a nap with a boy on her couch (they had "slept" together). There is no reason why children can't know about sex.

Answer 3

I think that it's something that they cannot comprehend. However, if your child actually asks, it's probably a better idea to tell the truth, in some simplified fashion, than to make up a lie and let the child go out into the world misinformed. I was never told of the actual mechanics of it and I was teased in school for being so incredibly ignorant, so I really wish my parents had told me at least some basic information before I was sent off to school. I'd say that between eight and ten is a good age to start, because if you wait too much longer they'll already have encountered the wrong information from their peers or they'll have been ridiculed for being uneducated.

Answer 4

The average first time for all kids is around 15, but most numbers are between 12 and then, so they obviously know SOMETHING about sex...you should train them up the way you want them to go, instead of letting school friends and the media do it for them.

I'm not saying explain all the graphic details like a porn, but they should understand that sex makes babies by the time they are six or seven, and know that's what their genitals are for. My daughter was six when she asked what her vagina was for, I told her truthfully that it was for when babies come out. That led to how they got in there. When they are seven or eight, you can start sharing your personal philosophies on abstinence, STD's, teen pregnancy, emotional attachment to a partner, etc. Most children don't understand the consequences of sex, and that's why Y!A has a ton of 'OMG...my period is two weeks late, am I pg?'

Answer 5

People are afraid that knowing about something will make them want to do it. This is a dangerous misconception, because knowledge is power, and children and teenagers who know the basics about sex and preventing rape, molestation, unwanted pregnancy and disease are much less likely to succumb to it. Sexual education should be an ongoing process throughout childhood and adolescence, not some big talk when it is too late and the child already thinks he knows everything there is to know about the subject and/or has already engaged in risky behavior. You introduce things little by little, in an age-appropriate manner, starting by giving children (even toddlers) the correct names for their body parts.

Answer 6

There are age appropriate steps to learning about sex. The problem is that many parents were not properly taught, themselves, and therefore are not the best teachers. One would think that something as widely practiced as sex would be taught without shame by now.

I personally think the best time is when a child asks a question, to try to answer it with correct language and in a straighforward manner.

Answer 7

children can know about sex...just answer them simply and only add when they get more specific, most likely you are reading into their question more than they are. when a young child asks how a baby got into your tummy tell them mommy and daddy made the baby together and thats where it grew chances are that will be enough of an answer now until the child becomes more mature to handle a more specific answer...thats not going to "damage" a child

Answer 8

I started teaching them as soon as them being able to talk!
While bathing there "penis" is called a Penis!
Or Vagina....Those are the corect names and they need to know them!
As they grow up they ask certain questions: My son at 12yrs. his breats hurt...he was going thru puberty but, it's a part of life that needs to be spoken about!
I now have a very comfortable relationship with any questions and guess what? THEY AREN"T EMBARRASSED BY the word "menstral cycle".lolol
Every age is different and you'll know when your child is ready for the "talk" but make sure it's mother to daughter, Father to Son! and make sure they both understand respect when talking about the other sex!

Answer 9

To prevent them from knowing how to have sex. Having sex at a young age is no good because when you're young you make dumb decisions and don't really care about what happens. Which leads to STD's and unwanted pregnancies.

Answer 10

Good question...I guess it also depends on what age you are talking about. I think some parents think their children should not know anything cause they dont know how to talk to them about it. I know I am not looking forward to when my son and i have to talk about it................it is uncomfortable I guess. I also think youngr children just cannot understand the concepts yet. SO I think children should start lessons in sex ed around.............................??????????????? AHHHHHHHHHHH see good question...lol

Answer 11

It's not appropriate timing. They need to know when their bodies start ajusting sexually and going through puberty. Before then, what is the point? Why ruin their innocence?