I know this sounds weird but my 20mo son hardly ever acts out. He used to all the time and then I got strick with him by giving him time-outs and he shaped up really quick. He is very gentle now and is really loving and sweet. He does scream when he's upset but I talk to him and explain to him why I said no, etc. And he calms right down. On very rare occasions I have to get angry at him he quivers, I think I have scared him into being good. He does love me and give me lots of kisses. Do you think that's possible, to be scared of me those times?
2007-10-07 16:33:07 · 9 answers · asked by Baby Julie due 5/12 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I never hit my son!! And he is more advanced for his age and understand more then most kids his age. Time-outs do work, you just have to know how to do them properly. And I talk to him like he's older then he is because it helps increase his vocab. I have a daycare and we have 12 children and all these kids are more well behved at your house because they are disiplined, not running around like animals!
2007-10-07 17:25:08 · update #1
GREAT JOB . HE WILL NOT END UP IN JAIL.
2007-10-07 16:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by ~~~Tina*Girl~~~ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What does this mean?
" On very rare occasions I have to get angry at him he quivers, I think I have scared him into being good" you have to get angry at him, what does that mean?? I sincerely hope and pray to GOD that you're not screaming at that child or worse. Unless you're screaming at him or beating him when he misbehaves I can't imagine a child quivering when you're angry for any other reason. Anger doesn't make children quiver. ABUSE DOES! In my opinion, less than 20 months is too young to comprehend a time out so that didn't "shape him up." and certainly not that quickly. He doesn't understand logic, so explaining why you say no doesn't cure it at 20 months old either. Logic would dictate, from what you describe, that he's not misbehaving and shaped up so quickly because you've scared the SH*T out of him and he's AFRAID to move or make a sound when you "get angry" for fear of getting beaten.
2007-10-07 23:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's very possible. I know it's sometimes hard, but try giving yourself a "time out" when you get angry. I am a firm believer in positive discipline who taught my son to behave properly from the time he was 12 months old. However, I noticed on the rare occasions he did act up, I would sometimes start to raise my voice. So now when he acts up and I feel myself getting upset, we both go in time out - he goes to the corner, and I go either to my room or on the front porch for two minutes. I would rather my son behave because it's the right thing to do than because he's afraid of my reaction. Give it a try and see what happens.
2007-10-07 23:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by SoBox 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
My son HATES to be yelled at. He always is told not to touch the pictures on my living room window sill and the other day he knocked some off and I raised my voice and he started crying really hard. I also get lots of hugs and kisses from him. I think they just don't like it when mommy gets mad at them.
2007-10-07 23:38:34 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAHAH! My son WAS the same way...toddlers chane with the tides, good for you for now, with everyday comes a new set of challenges and behaviours, see you on here in a week asking for advice!
2007-10-07 23:42:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its OK, but i wouldn't recommend it. Just talk to him, like you said, don't yell or make him afraid of you. Then, when he does something wrong or dangerous, he wont tell you because he'll start to understand not only "Eat cookie before lunch gets mom angry, bad" but "Eat medicine and get sick gets mom angry, bad"
The point is, have a friendship with your child. There are consequences, but they don't need to be yelled out, they only need to be carried out with a strong, strict tone. He only needs to understand, not shyt his pants.
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2007-10-07 23:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by Creccz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is posible that he is scared of you when you get angry at him. Just make sure that you aren't screaming at him or being abusive in any way.
2007-10-08 00:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by elloel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, very possible. I'm not sure that I would want my children to be scared of me though.
2007-10-07 23:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by Somebody's Sister 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats how i was with my dad i was terrified of upseting him... not because he would do anything to me other than be upset with me but it was just that... i couldnt stand to know he was upset with me... be glad you have a good child! lol... id say its fine he just doesnt want to upset you meaning he probably has a soft heart
2007-10-07 23:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by sheena0501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋