She called me in the middle of the night drunk and was crying over an exboyfriend of hers from 2 years ago. I really took this to be rude and dissrespectful. I called her the next day and said I think we shouldn't talk to each other anymore because she clearly has feelings still for her ex and has zero feelings for me. I said I was not her therapist or her girlfriend. I just wanted to be her boyfriend. I don't want to be on the backburner. In my opinion, if a girl likes you, she won't call you about her ex no matter what. She has been contacting me 9 mos. Its been 9 months and she still refuses to be my gfriend. Still no affectiontelling me she was not ready to be together and would just hurt me.I think its just because she is not over him. Did I do the right thing here? She hasn't called me since, just texted "Well I'm gonna miss you". I guess it doesn't bother her much. What would you do if the girl you liked was crying about her ex from two years ago? Would you stop talking to her?
2007-10-07 16:22:14 · 4 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it seems that her bf from two years ago was her first love
no girl forgets this
she prolly waited nine months to see what you were like and not get so attached...shes probably afraid to get hurt
2007-10-07 16:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by Asian Sensation 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she thinks of you as a friend. If she knows you like her that wasn't very nice to call you drunk and say that to you. You were right in what you did...you need some space. Get busy and find some other people to hang out with. You wont get over her in a day but stay busy and get a girl who will look at you the same way you look at her. You are worth it...the best revenge is to move on and not let her know it bothers you. She knows she can have you if she wants so dont waste your time thinking that she will come around. Your girl is out there somewhere...if you dont meet her today you are one day closer to finding her! goodluck.
2007-10-07 23:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on all you have written, you made a major boo boo.You were her friend and she came to you in her hour of need.She had no idea you had much deeper feelings for her, and you blindsided her when she came crying to you.She cannot think of you romantically now when she is in a state with her current boyfriend. Unless you don't want her friendship anymore, continue to do all you can to help her with the boyfriend as her best friend.Love is funny and cannot be pigeon hold.Do not for one moment think she does not want you or need you.this is why she came crying to you in the first place.Remain her best friend,keep your own interest in her on the back burner and help her any way you can to resolve her issue.Who knows! You may get what you want real soon since no one knows the future.
2007-10-07 23:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without a doubt, YES! You're wasting your time with this girl. There is clearly a huge problem if, after 2 years, she is still getting drunk and crying about him. She needs help and you are well rid of her! Yes, you did the right thing. Good luck from here on out!
2007-10-07 23:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by Chris B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋