Both of us easily have enough money to provide for our (9) children. Its not the money I care about, its something else- I just don't think its right for him to be richer because he abused our kids (which is why we're seperated) and doesn't have to provide for us. First of how much should I ask for (he has another family, with 2 kids, but they have a step dad, and he gives them $500 a month)- 4 kids in collage and 5 between the ages of 3 and 15. Second if he refuses, if I take him to court will I probably win (I live in America).
2007-10-07 15:46:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I can't nor would give him the option of having custody of my kids, because the reason we are separated is he can't legally be within 100miles of our kids, because he abused them.
If it weren't that they were abused, which would of happened if I had 1 or 9 kids, they'd feel the same as any other child if not luckier (as they have told me). I don't want you to critic the choices I made, and of course the kids do come first, just because I'm asking for money for them it doesn't mean I don't love and care for them.
2007-10-08 05:13:16 · update #1
You probably won't get child support for the college age kids, because they are of legal age now. The other 5 children you can go to court and then the judge will determine how much child support he should pay depending on his income bracket. YOU must get a family lawyer in order to do this. If you cannot afford a lawyer you will be appointed with a pro bono family lawyer where legal aid will pay for it.
I had left an abusive relationship myself in Feb 2004, and I was in and out of court for 6 months because my ex didn't show up more than half the time and he never did his paperwork for child support. So the judge granted me full custody and gaurdianship, because my ex was trying to get joint custody, and gaurdianship.
The judge will decide based on his income bracket what he should legally pay in child support for the kids that are younger than 18. The minimum was back then in 2004 in British Columbia was $266 a month. That is the minimum for here. I don't know where you are from in the states.
2007-10-07 16:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, there is nothing else to say. GET a lawyer and do it quick.
It's not that you have enough money to help, you need his money to keep the kids in the life that they are accustomed to. And who cares if he has 2 kids from before. I am assuming that the other two are older, college perhaps. Doesn't matter. He's gone, he still needs to send money for housing, food, utilities etc.
The other important fact. And let me just say, I applaud you for leaving this cad. No one should touch a child. And you are right, it doesn't matter if it's one child or your 9, abuse is ugly and shouldn't be allowed. This will work in your favor.
Take care my friend, be careful, loves those babies, and keep your chin up!
2007-10-11 22:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by Vetty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on $250 per month each for the other two children, that should be $2250 per month for 9.
(by the way, it is attached to, or separated from)
And Second: You do need to take him to court to get support awarded, or it is just an agreement between the two of you that is not enforceable. You need a legal separation order and support.
2007-10-08 01:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by Princess Picalilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will have to pay child support for your kids, however in the courts the older children come first. They will take your income and compare it to his, but before they compare it they will take out the $500 he is paying already in child support. Then they have a little formula thing they put it through and that will decide how much he owes. Don't settle to make him happy either, you make sure your kids are taken care of.
2007-10-07 22:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by gofigure 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he pays his first family has nothing to do with what your kids are entitled too. Get a lawyer and go to court. Get something legal in place so he doesn't get out of his responsibilities.
2007-10-07 22:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband will legally have to pay you 1/3 of his paycheck. my fiance has to pay the same amount of money for his 2 kids with his ex even though we have a child together. You have to take him to court because an *** like him who hurt your kids wont agree to anything. take him to family court and you will be granted the amount you deserve.
2007-10-07 22:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by bubbas_mama1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask for anything go to Friend of the court or file for a divorce & that will send your case to freind of the court. THe freind of the court will give you a fair amount & then if he refuses to pay he can be punished by law
2007-10-07 22:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jeri E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally with the fact you say he's been abusive there is no reason to waste your time or energy trying to get him to agree to anything. Take his butt to court and let them decide how much is appropriate for child support. They will take in consideration his other responsibilities and decide from there how much he owes your children.
2007-10-07 22:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by starfire978 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what state you live in, so i'm not exactly sure how their system is. but i live in tx, and here we (single parents) can go to the webpage of the attorney general, and there is a link specifically for child support.
and yes, the court 99.9% of the time sides with the mother (as long as there is no drugs, or abuse from her)
2007-10-07 22:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by leighshinoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off..why is there a guy in your profile picture and not a girl...second of all just go see a lawyer and explain this to them and they will tell you BY LAW how much he will have to pay..i'm going through a separation also and my lawyer showed me in the books how much BY LAW my husband would have to pay for child support....GO TO A LAWYER
2007-10-08 14:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋