He broke up with me about 2 months ago. Said we faught too much and I was too jealous. (He was just as jealous)Anyways, we didn't talk to each other at all for about 2 weeks. Then he started calling to see how I was. He told me he wanted to be friends. I didn't want to lose him completely so I said yes. But everytime we talk he just tell me that the guy I'm talkng to is no good for me. Then I can't help but want to know info about his new girl. THen one night I called hime and told him I wanted to hook up. I know it was stupid but I thought it would be the last time for him to come back to me. I was soo sad afterwords..I know I had it coming. After that I told him I couldnt be friends with him anymore. Cuz it was too hard for me. Plus he would give me some mixed signals all the time. He would call me and want me to go over..saying he didnt want to do anything sexual, he just wanted me to stay over..and sounded like he was crying. And he would say he still loves me.I would ask him if he felt sad like that why couldnt we be together, and his reply is always cuz he needs to 'realize' things, and see where his heart takes him. I guess Either with this new girl or me. Sorry for rambling. My question i guess is, is how long did it take you to FINALLY get over your ex? I was with him for over a year...so I guess those of u that were together for over a year and got dumped??
2007-10-07 15:34:40 · 18 answers · asked by mimi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't start to get over someone until you decide to move on. Continually going back and forth will just prolong the inevitable. Sounds to me that ya'll are more sexually attracted than anything. There is nothing wrong with keeping things on a "friend" level as long as that is all it is, with no underlying motives.
2007-10-07 15:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by bigmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. The more you see him, the more you are reminded of the times you spent together as a couple. That will make it even harder to get over him. And, it sometimes helps by finding a new guy. The less you think about him, the quicker. And, it also depends on how much you like him and miss him and stuff. But otherwise, it takes time. Don't let yourself wonder about him. If he asks you to come over or hang out or whatever, bring another guy friend to help distract the feeling you have between you and him so you won't constantly be thinking about him. If he says the new guy isn't good, ignore him. Overall, it just takes time to get over him. Don't stress out too much. Hope this helps.
2007-10-07 22:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by melynda c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am still in love with a guy that broke up with me 14 years ago.
Nothing in this world and nothing about love ever makes sense.
Hopefully you will not have my curse.
Usually, they say it takes half as long to get over someone as the amount of time you spent together. So you should be ok within six months.
But then again everyone is different. Best thing to do is put space between you and find something else to occupy your mind. Like school and studying. (Helped me a lot more than the partying and drinking angle)
2007-10-07 22:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Esperenza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot remember where I read it but the the average person takes about 4 months for each year they are with a person to get over them. 1 year - 4 months, 2 years - 8 months, 3 years - 12 months, and so on. Of course, we wall know that one size does not fit all this was just an average.
Good Luck to you. Move on, and think about what you've learned from this past relationship to bring something positive into the next. Don't rush another relationship though.
2007-10-07 22:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth is, I have the same problem dealing with an ex... my ex still listens to me when I have anxiety attacks but as far as I know things are different. I no longer feel secured because its over.
I hope it helps to know that you are not alone in this situation. many are like us... as commonly advised by some in this community that TIME heals the wound... while it is still painful consider it as a PROCESS.
In my case, I had anxiety attacks... sleepless nights, lost of appetite and the will to go on but with prayers and determination I hope I can overcome this... We've been together for FOUR years. She is my world.
One thing I learnf rom this is that WE CANNOT FORCE SOMEONE TO LOVE US THE WAY WE WANTED TO BE LOVED... so, search inside yourself and try to take one step at a time to form a life of your own, no matter how hard and painful it is... you are not alone.
2007-10-07 22:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to repeat this for the second time today?
This is called "The old shirt in the closet syndrome."
You are not good enough to utilize daily but he doesn't wish to throw you away yet.
Be STRONG! Make the move (Checkmate)
Advise him that you are no-ones old shirt in the closet!
Be a Big Girl and say goodbye....you'll be better off (think no more confusing signals) a CLEAN CUT
2007-10-07 22:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psychologists who have actually studied this say that it usually takes half the time you were together to completely get over the ex. So if together 12 mos, would take 6 mos to get over. It will be much longer if you keep getting with him. It will be much shorter if you get involved with one or two other guys.
2007-10-07 22:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me like 4 seconds...maybe less. We were married for a lot of years. She went into Bridezilla mode during the engagement and never came out of it. I never should have married the *****!!! I wasted the best part of my life with that crab. That's what I get for being a nice guy.
Life's too short to dwell on ******* who dump you. Move on and have some fun with your life before it's over.
2007-10-07 22:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh honey..that is the million dollar question...everyone grieves in different ways and amounts of time...sounds like he would rather chase after lusf for someone new then be a man about it and tell you the truth..I know how you feel...I have been fighting the same demon for awhile..my ex and I were together on and off 3 years..he broke up with me by text cause he would rather chase his lust...what works for me is time...stay busy...go out....learn new things...get a new hobby..join a book club...meet new people...meet new men...you can't rush your healing...You have to let it all out and let the pain go...the faster you do that the easier it is I promise..
2007-10-07 22:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by Deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dated my ex for 3 and a half years. we had an apt together. then he was very cold to me for no reason for the last 6 months...then we broke up and i moved out and he had his ex move in to OUR apartment...that I PAID FOR! granted, i shouldn't have moved out..anyway..he kept sending me mixed signals too...inviting me to his parent's xmas get togethers, etc. it took me about 6 months to start seeing other people. now it's been 2 years and i'm doing much better. it'll get easier hun..but being apart will be the best for both of you in the long run.
2007-10-07 22:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by Melanie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋