Is it ok to prefer being alone than being with others all the times and/or a party type of person?

Question

I am 28, and I love my time alone. I live with my boyfriend, who's a social butterfly, so he's often chatting on the phone with pals and going out once in awhile for drinks. We do go out to dinner quite a bit, etc., but I just do not have a desire to party with my friends often or even hang out all the time. I probably go to lunch with friends 1-2X a week, and we go out as a couple on the weekends. I love to read, watch TV, play with my labs and write. Am I a total social freak? lol Just curious ...

Answer 1

I don't think you're a social freak at all. I require quite a bit of down time to function at my best. Finding time to be alone was the most difficult part of parenting while my daughter was still at home. I love to read, write, and stay at home, too. Parties seem a waste of time to me. I have a few friends that I get together with, but I prefer even that on a one-on-one basis. My mom's friend thinks I'm very outgoing and sociable, but I can't do that if I don't recharge with quiet time. I own a business and do my marketing and promotion very well, but I find it draining. My best friend thinks that it's because of my Native American heritage -- like her -- that I require time to regroup, so I can get back out there, smile, and be friendly.

Answer 2

You gotta be flexible. It's not wrong doing something that you like alone but there are times you need friends. Find the kinda good friends whom you can socialize with. It's true as people get older, they tend to quieten themselves down. You aren't a social freak. You just know how to manage your time wisely. Mature people don't usually go for party. Try doing something new with your boyfriend together such as going for a ball or other kinds of social functions that you can interact with people. They are more interesting than parties.

Answer 3

I absolutely need alone time! I can only take so much of being around people, and that includes my family. I get a little time daily after everyone else goes to bed, and at least once a week or so, I just sit in the yard swing and read, or ride my horse, just something for me. Luckily, everyone around me understands this, and I do like my own company.

Answer 4

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be alone. I'm the same way. I enjoy being alone to read, watch movies, draw, sculpt or hike. Sometimes I enjoy company but not often. I used to be quite social but I suppose I've changed as I got older.

Answer 5

No, you're not a "social freak". There are plenty of folks who prefer their own company to that of a crowd in a social situation. As the old cliche goes, "It takes all kinds to make a world", and your life-style is just as valid as any other more gregarious person.

Answer 6

not at all! everyones different! and being alone is just the way you are.

until we have a definition for the social norm (normal), everyone can be considered strange, talented, odd, unique, normal, weird, average, and all those other terms.

there is no social standard for classifying people.
we are all different. and all freaks! so then we must all be normal!

haha! more that you were looking for, but oh well, i feel like writting today!

Answer 7

No Not At All! It sounds like you like who you are and you have learned to celebrate you. Allot of people do not know who they are and it scares them to think about being alone and having to think. No worries you are perfectly normal

Answer 8

Of course it's okay to enjoy being alone. You're probably a stronger person for it.

Answer 9

Yes, you are but so am I. I don't like meeting people. I'm afraid I say the wrong thing, or they will say the wrong things to me.

Answer 10

Being alone is key