so im dating this guy...and he cheated on me so i broke up with him but he said he was sorry and that he would never do it again and so on...you know well i forgave him and got back together with him and im just worried hes gonna do it again is it true once a cheater always a cheater...or should i quit worrying and believe that he has changed and wont cheat on me again???please help me i just need some opinions on what you would do!!!
2007-10-07 15:17:23 · 16 answers · asked by sexygurl_kayla! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2007-10-07 15:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not true when they say once a cheat always. I dated someone for about a year and he went to the beach with his cousin and he cheated on me. We broke up but talked about it later , He said it was a mistake and we have been together for 18 years now and have a 13 year daughter and a 11 year old son. And we do everything together now. So I believe if someone really loves you they won't make the mistake and ruin some thing good.
2007-10-07 15:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by septembercamaro 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I've been there and done that. He kept cheating and cheating. "Once a cheater, always a cheater." Its true and you need to just tell him straight up. And if you don't want to do that you need to test him. Have one of your close guy friends go out with him and invite a couple of girls over. Not needy girls that'll do anything to get with him, but regular cute girls that he's capable of getting. If he jumps at it, dump him. If he doesn't, well maybe your boyfriend keeps a promise better than mine did.
2007-10-07 15:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he may have said he wont cheat, but for a while i would keep my eye on him and have some other people keep an eye on him too, because its true once a cheater always a cheater
2007-10-07 15:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is not weather he will do it again but weather or not you trust that he wont. People can change but can we really change how we see a person based on passed experiences with them? you should have understood that getting back together with someone who has cheated on you meant that you would be asking yourself these questions.
2007-10-07 15:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by misse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did he do to "change"? Is this a pattern he has had with past relationships? Some people can change, but it takes a great effort. It will take you time to learn to trust him again, just like it took him time to cheat on you. Good luck and God bless.
2007-10-07 15:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by bigmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a cheater, and will be with the next opportunity when it arises.
You already took him back. You're options now are to re-confront the situation and break up again,or give him little rope. One screw up, he's done.
2007-10-07 15:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by chic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh!!!, He'll do it again just more discreetly. most guys just don't feel that secure when with a girl and think they are the ones cheating so they think is OK to do it others just don't care and think the more the merrier. If there's no trust it's not worth it!!! sorry!!!!
2007-10-07 15:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by joanflre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically yes, statistically the odds are for him cheating on you, if hes going crazy trying to make thingss right and is so sorry and you feel he is being sinceer, then by all means give him a second chance, but let him know if he ever does it again and you suspect it, you are thrue with him, done, no more chances
2007-10-07 15:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by yowuzup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In almost all cases, yes they will cheat again.
But i'll tell you a little story from my own experience... I met a really great guy and was dating him for about 2 months when i found out that he was seeing his ex gf again as well. I was really upset because i fell hard for him. He told me it wasn't going to work with them anyway and told me that he wanted to be with me and not her. In the end i accepted this and soon after we moved in together. 3 months later and i noticed that he was being very sneaky, was having very private conversations on the phone that he didn't want me to hear and when he had his 2 girls for the weekend, didn't want me to go out with them, although i took care of them when they were at the house. I went into his phone and found out that he was in contact with the same ex again and i confronted him. He told me that he felt like he was being torn in two cos he loved both of us but was trying to make it work for them. I demanded that he not keep any secrets from me and wanted to know everything that was going on. He told me. Including all the probs that they were having and his doubts. Being Miss Libra and in love i listened and gave him objective advice as best as i could. He told me that if i had my licence and a full time job that he would see us as having a future, and i worked extremely hard at it and succeeded. Through this he was still seeing her and me. i lost 20kg in 2 months, smoked a pack a day and could not trust him. but i stuck with him. To make it short, he told her to bugger off and stayed with me. This was 2 yrs ago and we have our relationship on track, love each other deeply, support each other no matter what, and i have learned to trust him again (it took 1 1/2 yrs tho). I can't see myself without him, and know he feels the same. I know that he will ask me to marry him and he has told me that he would like us to have a child in the near future. I'm now 23 (20 at the beginning).
Whereas my mum tried to follow in my footsteps and caused her heartache.
I took an extreme chance with my partner, and am still amazed that my stubbornness and love won.
I wish you good luck in whatever you choose, but if you try to hang in there, be aware that you could be setting yourself up for heartache.
Hope my story makes sense!
2007-10-07 15:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by eve_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋