My ex gf and i had a good relationship, and she always said i was perfect for her and to her. I always treated her like a princess and just all around was a great bf to her..she even said so. We got close with eachother's families as well and were with eachother alot. We had such a great time together and enjoyed eachother's company very much. Well when it came time for school again we both knew she was going back to the same university about 2 hours away, but agreed to make the relationship work. So 2 weeks go by and classes start and for her school looked like it was gonna be tough. We had agreed to see eachother on weekends that were most convenient for both of us. Everything was going well for those 2 weeks and then she breaks up with me all of a sudden because she felt that I wasn't "the one". However she told me all that stuff about being perfect for her and to her. We both knew that school had alot to do with her getting overwhelmed with everything like me, school, friends,
2007-10-07 14:46:36 · 18 answers · asked by FutureFederer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
family, and all the extracurricular activities like her sorority. But she then said stuff like the spark we had never grew and all that stuff. We had only been together for 2 months and how are you supposed to tell if some1 is "THE ONE" in only 2 months. She said she's supposed to know that quickly. Well she's only had like 3 bfs ever and they all lasted about as long as ours did. And the same thing happened with those. She fizzled out in them. Is she just affraid of commitment? She says this about a spark not growing, yet she always said i was so perfect and all that. Is she confused and inexperienced with relationships or what? Does she not know what the hell she wants?
2007-10-07 14:47:13 · update #1
I knew my hubby was the one by the time we had our third date.
Knowing how flighty I am, I WAS afraid to let myself go and fall in love with him etc, and I still couldn't help it.
If she doesn't think you're the one, then you're probably not the one for her.
2007-10-07 14:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by A derka der 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to assume you guys are young and the fact that she has had this happen several times before shows me that she is not ready for the committment of a relationship and would rather be single during her school years as that is where young people have the most fun i bet. I think she is confused and if she keeps going like this will never committ. No matter how good you are to her she will always want better and she sounds like that type of person. I think one of two things, either she has met someone at school that she likes or she is not sure how to be a girlfirend as she has mixed feelings about it and wants to me single through her college life. I think as good as you are to her, changing her mind is not an option because either she will use you or you will get hurs some other way. She doesn't know what she wants but if she chooses this to be you then you will probably be gone by then. I think if she tells you are not 'the one', this is an excuse but sorry to tell you - she doesnt want to be with you and was only dating you to kill time before college, she sounds like a girl who loves attention and i sincerely hope you realise this rather than follow her around hoping she will come back to you, good luck sweetie!
2007-10-07 21:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Me, myself and I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a woman I would just say that she hasn't decided what she wants in life.. Most girls at her age (COLLEGE GIRLS) don't really know what is going on. For instant they don't want to be tied down... maybe because they are either thinking that a better guy will come along or that she is crushing on someone else... she also might just be scared.. She is working hard in college.. Studying hard and she might be afraid that having a relationship will get in her way of an education.. and if she bombs out on an education it means she will be sacrificing her future employment opportunities.. I say you try staying friends with her that way if she is the one you'll be there when she decides what she wants to do... I feel as though every ones sole mate is the one that sticks beside them always... their best friend.. I wish you the best of luck
2007-10-07 22:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why she did such thing to you and to other ex-boyfriends. She might have some deep personal issues that needed to be solved, to do that she might need to seek for counseling with the professional. Her behavior should have something to do with her past experience.
Now in my opinion you only have three choices:
not accepting her decision and try to pursue her,
accepting her decision and completely walk away, and
accepting her decision and keep the relationship only as a friend.
she has already made a decision, now it's your turn. think about what would give the best result to you.
I also have to make a decision at the moment, it's hard and hurt badly but we just have to face it.
Cheer up, go ahead, face it.....
2007-10-07 22:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
judging from the way she broke up with u maybe she likes someone esle...im not saying she does but its a possibility because if she is stressed about school and stuff she could have just told u that as a reason instead of saying ur not the one. and how can u go from being 'perfect' to 'not the one' in such lil time? but maybe u should just ask her seriously what happened
2007-10-07 22:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by n.m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apperantly she doesnt know what she wants. She's just too afraid of commitment to make it last for so long. dont stress its not u its her. She needs time figure things out with herself first before she can go back 2 u. U need to have a nice long disscussion with her and just work things out. Dont stress over it though sounds like she's the one with the problems. i hope it goes well for u though.
2007-10-07 21:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what it sounds like to me, she seems to be afraid of love and commitment itself. She sounds like she doesn't know what she wants out of life regarding love, and she covers that fear up with telling you (or past boyfriends) false hopes and lies about you being the one and spending the rest of your lives together. If I was you, I would try and find out the real reasoning behind why she broke up with you, and if you really, truely, and honestly believe that she is the one for you, then talk about how you feel. Like explain to her that you both could make it work or something. If you want me to try and help u more, feel free to email me and ask. germanchik413@yahoo.com take care and good luck!
2007-10-07 21:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by germanchik413 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you get it already. She's young, your'e both young. She wants to live w/o the boundries of a bf. Let her, both of you kinda of do you own thing, but if you really care, then stay in touch. It may be that she just needed to find out that you're the one on her own. Don't press. That'll drive her away completely.
2007-10-07 21:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by boppymoommy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have had a girlfriend called Mariealla, in Denmark. she is not my friend anymore.
Because she is envious. she have know a norw. millioninar and she did not want him after 8 month. she is envious because i know a man from Sri Lanka. I love him.
Friends there is no good leave them or what?
what does other girls mean?
2007-10-07 21:52:34 · answer #9 · answered by jette n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not her fault that she doesn't know what she wants, and it's not your fault for being so confuzzled.
She's not ready yet, she needs more time to sort herself out and figure herself out before she can commit to someone.
Don't take it personally, it just sucks that you had to go through that to learn that she wasn't ready.
You'll definitely meet someone that will deserve your kind heart. Don't bother with this girl anymore, she'll just use you for now until she's ready.
2007-10-07 21:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋