Hi all,
I've been dating this amazing guy for 6 months now - everything is wonderful - he's kind, funny, sweet, sensitive and handsome and lately I feel myself falling for him.
He is so wonderful to me and I feel a real connection between us. As great as it is, sometimes I get the feeling he isn't going to tell me how he feels - he was cheated on twice by his ex wife.
I don't want to tell him how I feel just yet as I don't want to ruin things if he isn't in the same place.
We talk everyday, he plans trips for us to go away, cooks when I'm over, makes sure I'm okay, always hugging me and telling me how beautiful I am...he's just so lovely...
It was getting quite frustrating being together and having the most amazing time and still feeling like I wasn't sure did he like me as much so I began, recently, to not be as available and a little more vague about my day to day..be the first to say goodbye when we talk. Not in a cruel way at all - just to see how he reacted.
2007-10-07 14:16:47 · 16 answers · asked by Katie L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As he has been single and independent after his wife cheated - I guess Im curious as to whether he's "serious" about me.
After withdrawing a little, he now sends me mesgs asking how i am, sometimes straight after the other without a reply from me. He is eager to know what Im doing more, how I am, sends more kisses and misses me.
Do you think he's serious about me as I am about him?
His behaviour confuses me.
2007-10-07 14:18:47 · update #1
Was there a question in there somewhere?
2007-10-07 14:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by Daniel T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, short story - you wanted information, so rather than ask, you played mind games.
What have you found out so far?
Just find an appropriate moment, get up close to him and tell him how you feel. Do so without any expectations. He may or may not respond. This is the risk you take in a relationship.
If he's hung around this long, he probably feels much the same about you. Just don't expect a guy (or anyone, for that matter) to be ready to open up to you just because you are ready. I'd bet you'll find that he's only uncomfortable being the one to start the conversation.
In the future, avoid playing these little games. It sends the wrong message and causes loss of trust in a relationship.
2007-10-07 14:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first, absolutely under no circumstances make it seem like you're moving there because of him. I really hope that's not the case. I would advise playing it very casually, send a text basically telling him "hey i'm moving to XYZ, I really dont know my way around, any chance you would be my tour guide?" Obviously you can make it a little more flirty if you want, but essentially something along those lines would let him know you're moving nearby, but also give him a chance to make a connection again by offering to show you around if he's interested. If it was just a fling or there's a girlfriend or something, then it also gives him an opportunity to decline or to respond. p.s. this works even if you do know your way around. Just try to give him a heads up, and not text him when you're on his doorstep already!
2016-04-07 10:06:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, his behavior is cautious, which is just right in his case right? You have been seeing him 6 months and thats great, and everything SOUNDS great, and technically, everything he IS doing and HAS done sounds like he does like you as much, but he is being level headed about this whole thing. You need to give it more time and be positive about it. It usually takes about 1 1/2 yrs to KNOW somebody, not just the super great parts right now, but the faults and failures we all have... THATS when HE will know and tell you and thats when YOU will know and be able to tell him!!
Relax, enjoy this! It sounds too great to mess up!! Give him the benefit of the doubt and take it easy on him!! He's worth it right? So are YOU!!
2007-10-07 14:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are wise not to tell him what your feelings are for him. Let him be the first to open up on that subject.
You said you were "dating" him; I assume you don't have a sexual relationship. Again, you'd be very wise to leave it at that. If he wants more, then he should propose to you. Also, I wouldn't be available to him every single day/night either. When you and he are together, and out and about, make sure that when you are in mixed company...... always keep your eyes on him, and not another guy. I think you already know that tho. lol
2007-10-07 14:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a question here but I know what you want to ask. I think it's a wait and see situation for both of you. Just let the beautiful relationship between you prosper and in time both of you will get to know the answer you been wanting to know. Don't let communication fail between the two of you.Always be nice to him, never letting him down. If you keep this going on, romance will surely bloom between you.
2007-10-07 14:26:58 · answer #6 · answered by Reycen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with a guy like this for a year only to have him tell me at the end of it that he hadent told me that he loved me because he didnt and that he wanted to break up. That he though that he might be falling for me for the first 6mo but then the feelings just stopped progressing...guess it was only the sex he kept me around for for the next 6. Cut your losses and run!
2007-10-07 14:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by Fire's Shaddow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you want out of the relationship? it sounds to me like you a have a pretty good thing going on, and like all women you just want to hear that he feels the same, but right now you have an "amazing guy" who does all these great things for you and sounds like he treats you like a queen. so, stop playing games and go with the flow. enjoy the attention and when he's ready to share his feelings he will.
2007-10-07 14:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by Bettie_T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First- dont play any games. Just continue what you are doing- it must be working if he's planning trips and such- and if that's the case- I believe your question is answered- just give it a little more time- He will come around soon!
2007-10-07 14:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by bianca f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already have him. you just need to be patient. he will come around when he is ready. i was like that for a long time, and when i met my last girlfriend, it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders, but she wasnt ready to hear the words " i love you". i did let her know in other ways though how i felt, and i was always honest with my feeling towards her. i always tried to keep her comfort in mind and not push. and while she has yet to tell me she loves me, she has shown it in other, more intimate ways.
2007-10-07 14:24:03 · answer #10 · answered by richard b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,Is your ploy working.He told you his wife cheated (twice)I take it then he has no children.Or did his wife drag the kids to the sleezy nightspots.Might be a good idea to find out the grounds for divorce
2007-10-07 14:23:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋