I've been secretly crossdressing for 4 years with my mom's things, I don't know what to do! Sometimes I get the feeling like I need to do it and other times I don't need it. I very confused I do not know what to do.
2007-10-07 14:03:27 · 12 answers · asked by chipton 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I identify myself as a man and I just like womens clothes it seems.
2007-10-07 14:40:08 · update #1
Well I did it again. So is it best to just tell her now. Because these no where to shop around here and i guess she should know.
2007-10-11 10:09:29 · update #2
Well Halloween is just around the corner & that's the best time for you bring out your crossdressing. Just tell you mom that you don't have a costume to wear to your Halloween party & you thought maybe you could dress-up as a girl with her help. That's one way for you to start & let the cat out of the bag slowly.
2007-10-10 03:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A compulsive crossdresser is a person who's brain is hard wired in such a way that dressing in woman's clothes gives him a sensation of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification and self-identity. The experience of crossdressing releases a series of neurotransmitters which elicit this sensation and which are also highly addictive. The crossdresser will feel as if he cannot stop crossdressing. He may be able to go through periods without, but always returns.
Most crossdressers are heterosexual and want to live happy married lives with a family of their own. The issue of crossdressing becomes a problem. Normally their wives don't understand it, or like it, and discourage it. For them it means that they are not feminine enough for their man, that they must compete with another woman, or that their children need to be protected against this. Wives complain that the feel like their husband's second love.
The crossdresser reaches a point in his life when he must make a decision: will he place limits on his crossdressing or will he pursue his first love. He will either have to control his crossdressing or it will control him. If he gives in to his crossdressing then he will work hard to fashion his female alter-ego. He will even give "her" a female name. He will fall in love with his female alter-ego.
How do you control it? Place limits. Only wear one article of clothing. Only wear it on rare ocasions. Don't try "new" things if you've never do it before. example: If you've never worn make-up then don't start... If you never worn high heels, wigs, bras, etc.. don't start.. It will only make matters worse.
2007-10-08 21:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some places to go for help in answering your questions. LA has a Trans youth program at LA Children's Hospital. The National Center for Gender Equatlity in Washington DC and Transgender Law Center in San Francisco can also give help.
I started my journey about your age, and many start younger. Best of luck.
2007-10-09 23:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by trannymomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to ask, do you identify your self as more of a man or a woman, It may be you identify your self as a woman, or you just like womens clothes. Either you are a true performer as a drag queen, you identify as a woman, or womens clothes turn you on or feel good. dont worry about what others think.
2007-10-07 21:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by jasonellison2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be open and honest with yourself. And don't deny your own feelings.
Many people feel unfamiliar urges, especially nearing adulthood. Whether it be towards homosexuality, bisexual experimentation, or crossdressing. These are normal urges.
If you have a good, open relationship with your parents, you may want to discuss this with them. I wouldn't tell your mom you've been using her clothes (not now, at least) but telling her you have these feelings might help you begin to understand them.
Most of all, don't deny yourself! You are a person with feelings and emotions, and no matter what those emotions are, you should feel free to have them.
2007-10-07 21:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by simplesimon1111 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cross dressing is something both gay and straight men can do. If you are confused by your desires, or feel a compulsion that is uncomfortable, talking with a good therapist might help you understand what is going on. The desire to cross dress may or may not last; I suspect it will but it depends on what it means to your subconscious.
2007-10-07 22:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by SC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you know your mom well enough to judge how she'll react, but maybe you should tell, her, and she'll buy you your own stuff...But by all means, there certainly is no need to tel her, what you do is your business. But if you don't want her to know, i definitely suggest buying your own things. She will find out sooner or later, if she doesn't already know.
I'm serious, I'm not judging you. But be empowered by who you are, and don't be afraid. Perhaps you should find a LGBT community that will help you become more comfortable in your own skin. i confess i don't know a whole lot a \bout it, but I will find you a link.
2007-10-07 21:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've been doing for that long believe me, your mother knows. If you are close enough and open with her by all means have a talk with her. Do not mention you have been wearing her clothes she will more than likely bring it up. Don't be ashamed it's done by more men than you think. The feelings will ebb and flow so just go with them. Don't try to KILL them they are natural. Just know,,,,you are NOT the only one who feels that way!
2007-10-08 01:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by Art M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk with your mom about it don't tell her you wear hers that will grose her out but just tell her how u feel maybe she will buy you your own clothing never know good luck
2007-10-07 21:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by big 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
follow your heart felt desire and if you make a cute girl you could even work as a drag queen
2007-10-07 21:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by AliBaba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋