Do you think it's wrong for my mother to make comments to me about my husband's religion?

Question

We have been married for 3 years. He was raised as a JHW and follows their beliefs. I attend non-denominational churches. Right before we got married he began to attend the meetings, bible studies, etc. again. He has never pressured me to convert or anything and I have no desire to do so. Once a year or so, we will have dinner with people from his congregation. At first I would share this information with my mother because I didn't see anything with it. Then she started making comments like "I hope you don't become a JHW" or "You don't need to be hanging around with JHW's". Today we went to dinner with some of my husband friends and I mentioned it to my mom. She said it again! I then confronted her about it and told her what I do is MY choice, and any decision I make is between me and God. She then told me "Well, don't forget where you came from and who brought you there" (referring to God). It makes me so angry! I am 30 years old. I know right from wrong.

Also, several months ago the JHW had their 3-day convention. He asked if I wanted to go with him and his parents. I agreed to go. My mother knew his parents were coming to stay with us for the weekend (they live an hour away). She kept trying to pry to see if I was going with them, but I played it off at first. Then I admitted that I was going for one day. She said "What are you going for? You don't need to go with them".

What business is it of hers. I am not a weak-minded person. I know what to believe. I was going to go to support him. We ended up not even going, so ...

But I have attended one of their functions (the Memorial) and that's it. Some of the things they did there was a little different than what they do in a church, but no harm was done. At the end of the day, I know what I believe.

JHW = Jehovah's Witness.

Also, the person that said my mother may be racist ... what are you talking about? This has NOTHING to do with racism. In this instance, we are all african-american, so ...

Answer 1

your right! you've been married 3 years and and your mom should get used to the fact that you will do w/e you decide to do. she should have enough trust in you to know that you will make right choices for yourself. your husband hasnt pressured you into converting or joining any religions and therefore she shouldnt have a problem with what his religion is. Maybe you should have another heart to heart conversation with her and assure her that you know where you came from but that your also old enough to make your own decisions.

Answer 2

I'm doing a bible study with Jehovah Witnesses right now and my goal is to get baptized very soon. Some people who are not Jehovah Witnesses get frighten when they find out a loved one is going to a meeting. And In your case going with your husband to a meeting because he is already a Jehovah's Witness. Your mother is just probably worried because she does not understand that becoming a Jehovah's Witness is the best thing for anyone. Tell her in a respectful way that what you and your husband do is your business and you would appreciate if she would not interfere. If she continues you may have to make a choice of your own to leave her alone for a while until she fully understands that you’re a grown woman and there are boundaries she has to not cross. I hope you do go with your husband to the meetings, that will just make your marriage with him stronger.

Truth

Answer 3

Your mother could be upset about your choice to marry a JHW -- Jehova's Witness becasue most non-denominational church members consider JW as cultists. It does stand outside of mainstream Christianity as does the Mormon faith and Seventh Day Adventists.

However, if you are 30 years old and have been married to him for 3 years, you are old enough to know your own mind. Try to be kind to her, however, she will come around.

Answer 4

this is your husband
you are to be by his side momma all ready raised you i think it is time to tell her mother cut the strings to the apron now I'm grown this is my husband the teaching and raising you done is over now i do not mean to hurt your feelings but I'm standing by my husband if he wanted me to go to the moon and i want to go I'm going
look nothing wrong with jhw's -nothing wrong with Muslims nor any other that is of the creator long as your not worshiping a false god -me everybody got choices I'm Gnostic we believe everyone has there own path to follow when you pass over you are not going to find labels were Muslim or jhw's or any other label there is but one creator do you best in this life when you do your best what else is required?

Answer 5

You mean you didn't know your mother enough to know she was going to have a problem with you marrying a cult member?
If you knew right from wrong, you would have sought your families' blessing BEFORE joining both families in a comprimising and potentially volitile situation, not to mention you should have had consideration and forethought into how your family feels instead of just being selfish. You're ranting like a child because of your short-sighted and impulsive decision. It goes back to "cause and effect"...ever hear of that?
Yes, you are an adult. Your mother should now keep her opinions to herself and try not to interfere. But what did you expect would be the fruit of such a stupid move?

Answer 6

I think she has reason for concern. If you are not totally sold out on your religion, you can be swayed. And you don't sound like you have a solid foundation under your feet. Mama is worried about you. I would worry if my daughter was married to someone of that faith. You need to stay strong because this group has a way of being your very best Friend and loving you to death before they pounce on you and start their bible study tactics...be very careful...their bible is not your bible...they believe that Jesus is just one of many Gods....click on the link below and find out more about them and their beliefs...even your husband may not be aware of some of this

Answer 7

Bottom line....
Are they obeying scripture?

Personal opinions mean very little.

J.W's are always advised to NEVER exert pressure on anyone.

Present the scriptures and let people make up their own minds.

Question...Do the non-denominational churches obey Matthew 28; 19,20?

Do they use..or even know, that Almighty God HAS a personal name?
(Exodus 6:3) And I used to appear to Abraham, Isaac and Jacob as God Almighty, but as respects my name Jehovah I did not make myself known to them.

And do those churches understand that Jesus is NOT God himself, but IS his son.
(John 5:19) Therefore, in answer, Jesus went on to say to them: “Most truly I say to YOU, The Son cannot do a single thing of his own initiative, but only what he beholds the Father doing. For whatever things that One does, these things the Son also does in like manner.

Try putting your non denominational churches to the test and see if they are Bible compliant.

Answer 8

Parents never want to give up there hold of their children but it is wrong for your mom to make negative comments. We all are in control of our own choices whether right or wrong but control over comments that can cause dissension or be judgmental should be maintained.

Answer 9

Stop telling your mother what goes on in your house hold....I think it is great that you want to support your husband, but I haven't heard your husband trying to support you and attend church with you....I m assuming your a christian.? why are you allowing your mother to insult your husband? when you married him you both became One........ God made you both complete....what are you going to do when you have children? are you going to allow your mother to tell you how to raise your children? God bless you and I hope you and your husband have a wonderful marriage...and my it be blessed with the Lord Jesus Christ....Amen

Answer 10

No - my inlaws are always messing with me about my religion. I glad they are christian and I'm not