Just went to an engagement party. The relatives did not introduce my mom. My mom was adopted. They make me sick.
The older relatives would not do something like this.
It was the younger ones. The groom to be manages mutal funds.
And the bride to be works in his same office.
Do they do this on purpose?
The groom ignored me at the party.
There is a catch. My paintings have been exhibited around the world. This bride and groom are just out of college, up and coming and just working at the local financial firm.
I am pissed though. It is the same rudeness. The bride has seen us for the past 28 years and we were not even introduced. So what are we? Invisible?
2007-10-07 13:48:16 · 11 answers · asked by Carol 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
My mom brought the bride to be a present. The bride is our relative. We were not introduced to the groom's family.
2007-10-07 13:52:14 · update #1
sounds like a lot of bad manners there. Don't let it get to you so bad. They were rude. You rise above their rude behavior.
Congratulations on your art.
2007-10-07 13:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know, it's stupid, and "selfish" is an odd comeback, but I'd say suck it up and let people throw you a party and give you gifts. It's stupid, but just let it happen and enlarge your wedding registry. It won't be too awful. I hate the spotlight and a lot of money being spent too, but I also hate conflict and confrontation. You can stay stubborn and hold your ground, but really you're just keeping family from having an excuse to socialize and see each other and be obnoxiously happy for you. I'd say go ahead and try to keep your wedding simple, but go ahead and sit through the parties people want to throw for you. I promise it won't be that bad. Good luck on the long haul.
2016-05-18 03:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by doreen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard the old saying, "better to be pissed off than pissed on?" Well, you are both right now. If you feel so strongly about this, tell the bride why you are angry. Maybe there was a good reason for not introducing you and your mother. If not, consider not attending the wedding to avoid not getting introduced again. ( It was the couples day, not yours, by the by)
2007-10-07 16:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While introductions would have been polite, I have dealt with this situation by simply choosing to introduce myself and offer a handshake. I will admit that I typically assume that the party who should make the introduction has simply forgotten to do so, or that they are unaware of the proper behavior.
If the situation is genuinely intended to be offensive, then you and/or your mother can simply choose to decline further invitations from these individuals. That is the most likely way to avoid further incidents or clashes within the family provided you are able to let go of your resentment.
2007-10-07 15:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by detailgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am just bold enough to walk right up to the people, stick out my hand and say"Hi! I am Jane Doe!"
They will either warm to you or they will get ticked off at you.
After all, if you have to get ticked off, they should be in on the :"fun" too.
I would not associate with these rude losers unless they sincerely apologize. And don't fall for the old ploy of them being nice to you whenever they want a favor.
2007-10-07 14:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have spoken up when it might have made a difference...
All I'm saying is how righteous are we to complain when we did nothing more to consider her than anybody else?
If you found it more appropriate to ignore the situation, then you should really do that. Harboring resentment is like eating rat poison, hoping to kill the rats.
2007-10-07 13:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by Cosmodot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does the fact that your "paintings have been exhibited all over the world" have to do with anything? What's the catch?
2007-10-08 14:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I noticed you didn't say you brought a present, just that your mom did. I think the awkward was there long before this party!
2007-10-07 14:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by PattiAtk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So? Your mom's mute and can't speak up for herself?
Big, fat, hairy deal, you're an "artist". So what? That's supposed to impress anyone?
The fact that you toss out a COMPLETELY irrelevant fact (the whole artsy fartsy thing) tells me you place far too much importance upon yourself. It wasn't YOUR engagement party, so get over it.
2007-10-07 14:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Use this as an excuse to sever ties with them.
2007-10-08 01:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋