...and she is in so much pain. She's understandibly being very clingy and she can't stop crying. I talked to her nurse about different pain meds, but she wasn't being very cooperative. I've been trying for hours to get my baby to calm down, because she needs to rest, but it seems like the more I try, the more panicky she gets. She keeps telling me that she wants me to hold her, but she can't move, so I've been holding her hand. That doesn't seem to help either. She's one of those girls that just needs to be close to somebody at times. It makes her feel safe. What should I do? I hate that she wants me to hold her and I can't. I can't seem to help her at all.
2007-10-07 13:06:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
First off: Don't let your girlfriends nurse be like that. Part of nursing is compassion.
Part of having major surgery (it would help if you were more specific) she is probably a bit bored not being able to do anything. Bring in a small DVD player (ask a friend if you don't have one) and watch a few movies with her. If she is on a regular diet (ask the nurse her diet restrictions) bring in some popcorn and make it a movie night with her. If you can't do this find out what sort of books she likes and read to her. I know this seems like a lot of effort but trust me, unless she is cranky she'll love you for caring that much.
Bring in some of her favorite foods. Bring her some flowers to put a smile on her face. Some hospitals don't allow fresh flowers depending on what patients are on the ward so make sure and check the current policy before you do.
Give her a massage on an area that wasn't operated on. You say she can't move. I'm not sure what sort of surgery it is... If she can't move, put lotion on her body, massage it into her feet and hands. She'll enjoy this. Brush and play with her hair if you can.
Also, yes she is going to be in some pain, but in no way does she need to be in excrutiating pain. Make sure she is getting the pain meds she is entitled to have. Pain control is a very important nursing issue.
Best of luck.
2007-10-07 13:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're doing purely advantageous.All she needs is love and various prayers.the project with morphine is that it numbs the strategies yet you will experience the discomfort. attempt chatting with the Dr approximately including something else or giving the doses greater often. My sister died of maximum cancers and that i know how undesirable would desire to be to make certain some one you love in this variety of discomfort and not been waiting to help. My suggestion is, be there for her. That concerns greater advantageous than the rest, and be very staying power. additionally, make effective the nurse would not wait till the discomfort is returned to offer her greater morphine. Be very insistent!!! with the aid of fact in case you do no longer she would be able to go through. you are able to desire to be on top of issues!!! stable luck and God Bless you the two!.
2016-10-10 12:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by hagensee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very rough to see someone you care about in pain. And you, not being true kin, have absolutely nothing to say about her treatment plan.
You need to get one of her relatives down to the hospital. They have the right to demand to see a dr. or demand to see the dr.s orders, or to demand that the nurse call the dr. and ask for pain medication or sleep medication.
2007-10-07 13:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a patient advocate at the hospital. There are many ways to control pain but it sounds like they don't want to be bothered. Some hospitals call them patient advocates, some call them ombudsmen.
2007-10-07 14:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by EC Expert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hasn't she go family to assist? I would leave her for awhile for your own sanity and wait till she is home from hospital. Then go and do some cooking for her and some housework, but don't fall for her crap all the time.
2007-10-07 14:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just stay by her side tell her you wont leave (and dont)
dont talk unlessshe is talkin to you:) and make sure you dont say anything that you think would make her cry .
hopefully shell fall asleep soon and by tomorow feel a little better :)
God bless
2007-10-07 13:40:44 · answer #6 · answered by maggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow!that really sucks but i would be in the same exact situation if i was her ya u should just stay close and u know help her out at least
2007-10-07 13:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋