Is there a particular / set age to get married? I turned 27 today and my family has been bugging me about getting married and starting a family. Right now, I'm at a point in my life where I'm just taking care of me. I"m doing my masters, I have a good job, my own place, yet I really don't feel like I"m ready for marriage and a family as yet. I'm feeling the pressure and I'm feeling like I have to get married just to prove a point or start a family.. Is there a certain age that a person has to marry by? I know I want kids, just not right now, maybe when I'm 30..who knows.. I think when the time is right, it'll happen. Am I wrong for thinking this way?
2007-10-07 12:55:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
jed yuh right. IS when YOU ready and not wen people think yuh ready. In your mind yuh have ah plan ...right, so do your thing. At the end of the day is your choice and your life so who vex lorse.
There is a time and place for everything and if yuh have faith dem ting does fall in place jus right.
How was de birthday ? Yuh eh hangover eh !
2007-10-08 02:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by julien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is not a certain age that you need to marry by. Do not be rushed into marriage. You need to worry about you and when it is time for you to marry I am sure that you will. Tell them to stop pressuring you and you will marry when you are ready and when you find the right man. That is the important thing, that you marry the right person. Tell them that you are happy with the way things are and that they will be the first to know when that changes. Good job on your masters.
2007-10-07 14:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly we live in a society where a woman is defined by who is with and how many kids she has not by her accomplishments. Don't get married until YOU are ready. Don't do it to satisfy your family. Marriage is a MAJOR commitment and shouldn't be entered into lightly. As far as a set age to get married....Are you serious?? Come on you are an educated woman. There is no law that says you have to be married and pop out 3 kids by 27. My aunt was very much into her career as an attorney.She was very successful. She had her own house was driving a mercedes and living the life. She didnt get married until she was 39. She had her first kid at 41. She just had her second child. Everyone is different. We all have to follow our own paths. Don't let other people tell you how to live your life.
2007-10-07 13:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by kystik83 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the comment of the first response. I know that the pressure is there and God knows you are just wanting them to get off your back, but you don't need to rush into anything before you are ready.When you are ready, then take the leap, early marriage isn't for everyone, you want to accomplish your degree before you get hitched, no problem!! good luck to you!!
2007-10-07 14:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by c w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a boyfriend who is also bugging you to get married? If not, then it really isn't an issue. Does your family just want you to go out and get a mail order husband? Tell them all to bug out of your private affairs. Do what you want when you want.
2007-10-08 08:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by Susan M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're fine. Get married when you want and have kids when you want. I'm sure your family wants the best for you, but you're the only one who knows what's best. You have a good career it sounds like and you're independent. In fact, will you marry me? Just kidding. Good luck.
2007-10-07 15:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by ndn_ronhoward 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! Get married when you're ready, and for love, not just because your family wants some in-laws! Tell your family to back off, and if they don't, then ask them if they rather you get married to a cold unsensitive person or not get married at all. And if they still don't back off, ignore their rude comments. It's your life, and please please please don't get married just because your family wants you to. Wait until you're ready to go steady (didn't mean for that to rhyme). There is no set age for getting married. I would rather get married at 80 to ther love of my life rather than at 20 and then divorce him because he was the wrong person for me.
2007-10-07 14:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want kids eventually, it's better to start having them when you are no older than 35..............because of down symdrome etc.
If you don't want kids, but want to get married eventually, then you really do have more time to settle down.......ie up to the age of say 35.
2007-10-08 01:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is hard enough when you think you are ready. Don't be pressured by anyone.
2007-10-08 16:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋