2007-10-07 12:36:25 · 24 answers · asked by crusandar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-10-07 12:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by cute as a button!.♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we don't realise until it happens how lonely we can get. Some are happy with their own company some are not. Rather than look on it as a negative try and see is as good.
This is your chance to perhaps try something new, do you have a hobby or interest which you could expand on. For instance if you enjoy books you could see if your library knows of any reading groups in your area. Do you like walking/ hiking again see if there any groups in your area. Have you got a community centre near you do groups meet there are classes held there.
What about an evening class I went to English Lit classes and later Psychology improved my mind and my scores from years ago when at school gave me something to do and I met other people some I am still in touch with now.
If for some reason you can't get out of the house look around on the internet you can do home courses, learn things. Family history if you like that sort of thing. There are mailing lists and groups all over the place you may find something there.
I wish you luck I have been on my own for about 5 years now and know that one day the right person will come along in the meantime I have far too many hobbies on the go and should slow down !!
2007-10-07 19:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by BigMomma2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am filling in the blank here and thinking you are asking what you can do with this loneliness. Well its time to go out and live. Make some new friends. Life does not stop for no one right. Well find something you like to do and do it, something you always wanted to try and never did. Now is the time to go for it. Don't jump back into a relationship take this time for yourself and have some fun make those friends so you will have something to bring to that next relationship and they should have something to bring also. Time spent away from each other is just as important as time spent together otherwise the relationship gets stale. So go skiing, take karate, join a gym, take that art class you've always wanted to, whatever. You know what it is that makes those wheels turn and I am sure that you in the meantime will find friends there who share your interests who will join you for a drink or coffee or something afterward. Good luck to you.
2007-10-07 19:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Darkchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to church. seriously. your local church will usually have a singles group for Christians where you can join in the fun and make new friends, and perhaps even find a new relationship. there are also places in most cities and towns that are singles clubs. for a small fee you can join up and get in on the party once a week, and again meet new people. you can find these places in the personal ads in the newspaper, in the phone book, or even on line. and what about your coworkers? they often have a life, and sometimes they throw parties, see if you can get in on that fun also. offer to bring something, or help clean up after wards. you can also invite your coworkers to a party at your place, or rent a small conference room and have the party there. local hotels often have conference rooms that go empty much of the year, and you can arrange to have them cater the event. you might even arrange with the sales department for discounted rooms should some fo the party goers drink too much, or have them call a local cab company.
2007-10-07 19:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by richard b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good opportunity to get out there and make friends and make a life for yourself
Too many of us rely on a man to make us happy...I'm not saying we don't feel happier in a GOOD relationship....but if you start off at a point of already being happy then you can get back to that place again
Sounds like its even harder because you have no support system....its good to talk , ring a helpline if you need to or a family member and then move on day by day , join a social group or 2 and gradually your confidence will build and you will be happy.....boyfriend or no boyfriend....a boyfriend will just be the icing on an already scrummy cake!!!!
2007-10-07 19:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to take up a team sport or horseback riding. Nothing too extremely competitive and fun.
Soccer and lacrosse are amazing for making friends. And if you're around the barn a lot in horseback riding you make some awesome friends.
By playing sports you're already broadening your range of people and potential friends.
2007-10-07 19:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am in the same boat so I am goi ng to join some groups that I am interested in. I am also going to sign up for some classes on my computer. Maybe I will volunteer somewhere. I know to make friends, you need to be a friend and to do that, I need to get out of the house.
2007-10-07 19:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get involved in volunteer activities either through a charity, school if you go to school, or through a church. You will meet other kind and generous people who volunteer. You can also get involved in the political campaign of someone you support, meeting like minded people. You can go to www.craigslist.org and look up groups in your area that sound like what you would like to do. Among the groups are people looking for other people to walk with before or after work, craft groups, etc.
2007-10-07 19:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by kadel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reinvent yourself. Seriously. I'm going through my own little transition right now and am trying to give off a more positive outlook on things, learning to pick my battles, to have quality people in my life, etc. And new clothes make it easier to help with a new frame of mind, new haircut.
Feel free to email if you wanna chat....
2007-10-07 19:40:02 · answer #9 · answered by ♫Ms Anthropy♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possible reason....you and you alone matter. nothing else....SO possible remedy. When you meet a new contact next try to be personal in getting to know him even if it means soley. Which means you reach out to him....volunteer your help genuinely in anyway you perceive he needs. Talk minimum about yourself. And share with him his needs. You'll find that because of this 'aura' people will be attracted to you and they'll yearn to want your company. Good idea?? Have fun - whilst you are doing this!
2007-10-07 19:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by paulyap1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have had this problem. The thing that worked for me was to talk to a psychologist and he may give you some serious recommendations. He helped me get more social in the outer life. Hope This Works Cause I had this problem before too and i was stuck and this helped me
2007-10-07 19:39:15 · answer #11 · answered by theeaglesdesperado 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋