I can't stand this.
I don't understand, i never get to do anything fun. The fair was this week and ALL my friends hung out with guys, and every weekend they come to school and tell me about all the guys they meet, and i don't understand why guys never talk to me. it hurts me so bad, because i'm 14 and i've never had a REAL boyfriend, and i want one, and no guy gives me the time of day, but ALL my friends get attention but me, they've all had their first kiss, except me. WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG?
am i that bad, i mean i feel left out of everything, it's not fair.
2007-10-07 08:50:12 · 8 answers · asked by a 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, at 14 you are in the position of being a kid and an adult. YOu are not a baby anymore nor are you a grown up. It is frustrating! You will find out that girls "SAY" a lot. I bet they say more than what they really experience. Having boyfriends does not define who you are. Men are great and fun. But they can be a pain in the butt too. Here is what I have told my girls, and you will think I am old fashioned but no one ever regretted waiting to be involved with guys. Women regret being involved too early. Keep that in mind. Do not ever define yourself by what man you are with. Even with a boyfriend you need to have your own friends, your own education, your own job your own dreams. Any person making you feel otherwise or who would make you abandon these is not worth your time. You are too precious to put the price of someone elses attention on your self worth. At 14 you are a bit young to have a job or take extra classes than what you have a school. Look in to doing some volunteerism at your church or at the library or at an animal shelter. Help out at the senior center. Study well and get good grades. How does this help you find a guy? Well, in the long run it helps you be educated and exposed to real things in the world and helps you be a better judge of what relationships are good for you. Really, and if you are in a place that you are doing things you enjoy and learning about the subjects you love, like taking up guitar lessons or something like that, you are around guys that have your same interrests! As you get older you will see how this is important and how you really need to work on YOU first and not worry about the guy thing. There is plenty of time for boys. Boys at this age are really immature and silly and make girls mad. At 14 your mentality is more like that of an 18 year old guy, and that is just not a good idea for you to hang out with at this age, it is really asking for trouble! So, to me, as a mom I would tell you to be friends with your guys friends and just listen to the girlfriends "talk" about guys. Keep yourself busy with other things that will further your education or round out your interrests. This will get you a BETTER guy later when you are old enough to know what kind of guys you should be with. Don't rush your life....be 14! Do young girl things and use the time during high school to do things that will get scholarships for college! Really, it is worth putting off the boy thing! You do not need to use a guy's presence to make yourself feel good....build your self worth by acheiving things outside of school and home. Ask your mom, she was 14 once! I was too!
2007-10-07 09:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you should not worry about this now your only 14, very young. I can see that it is bothering you so why don't you change some things about yourself? Check out some magazines and maybe change your hair, the way you dress be more talkative wtih the guys. I really think that there's really nothing wrong with you that u need to change, but you want to start having guy friends and there is nothing wrong with that either. Also why don't you ask them out to the fair. We girls do that too, and it does work, guys like it. Like I said before you are too young to be woring about this things, but it will only be fair for you to feel happy and have fun too, just know your limits. Start having some fun and enjoy yourself, be safe.
2007-10-07 16:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Esther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you either boys can see that you are not comfortable with your self or they just aren't interested in you period. Sometimes the best thing is to shine like a star. Be as charsmatic and entertaining as possible, boys love that. Also make sure you are the most dazzling person out of your group of friends. Basically be unique, but not a hoochie, because then they will look at you for the wrong reasons.
2007-10-07 15:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by henryjperc 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you don't wanna hear that now but it really is true, the more you feel unlucky at first, the more are your chances of meeting the right person for you. it's now only how universe works, but cuz when you take your time and not settling for any one like your friends do, you have a good chance to know people and watch carefully so when it's your time you're ready and already saw your friends mistakes and actions and hopefully learned from them.
I don't think there is anything wrong with you, try to mingle and meet new people all the time not only to get a boy friend but to grow and have more confidence when you're among a group of people.
good luck kid
2007-10-07 15:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by fab cat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, i know how you feel i'm 14 also guys are shallow at this age but you'll kill them later :p
I just try to remember things could be worse and everything happens for a reason.
You could also try hang out at the fair with your friends and those guys
2007-10-07 15:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just dont be in such of a rush, the guys that talk to your friends mite not be the type of people for you and in due time that perfect boy/man will come along. im only 13 ive have 15 boyfriends n trust me you dont want 1 they waist your time break your heart play with your mind and its not good for anyone. But i think the only good thing about having a boyfriend is that u can have someone to cuddle with but dont worry bcuz its gonna take time for someone to realize what you have to ffer
2007-10-07 15:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by Lady'D' 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No need to worry about all that right now. Give it time. Alot of the time girls who start dating and maturing at an earlier age tend to phase out over time when those who start later tend to get more in life. Trust me, your time will come and all your friends you are jealous of now will be jealous of you someday.
2007-10-07 15:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by beachnerjl2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could have gone to the fair without a date and met someone there with your friends.
Perhaps it is your personality. Are you smart? Do you try look good? Do you say stupid things? Is everyone always laughing at you? Are you too desperate?
2007-10-07 15:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋