I don't get why people hate gay people so much :(?

Question

I know that being gay goes against many religions, but I just don't understand why people choose to hate gay people over others who do things that go against their religion. It makes me so sad. I hate to generalize, but most the gay people I have ever known have been some of the best people in my life to have. Maybe because they have to overcome the hatred that people throw their way, or maybe because I surround myself with positive people, but why hate gays just because it's against ones religion? Why not hate liars just as much, or adulterers, or people who don't love their god or their neighbors? Why single out that one thing so much? One of my friends just told me last night that he was gay and it makes me sad to think of the hard road he has ahead of him with all the hateful, prejudice people out there.

peacebyjesus: it's kind of strange how you say that if we abide by god's laws that will keep things like AIDS and other stuff happening to us, but I have known many people who abide by "god's laws" and still suffer. BTW I live in Texas and am in the military, so I'm surrounded by homophobes.

Answer 1

I firmly believe that homosexuality goes directly against God's design for relationships, but I do not, nor would I ever advocate hating someone because of it. Even my pastor, whose brother died of AIDS, was loving and patient with his brother, who cursed him to the end. After all these years later, he has a great deal of compassion for homosexuals, even though he sees the act as sin.

Shame on anyone who calls themselves Christian and shows hatred or disdain toward anyone for any reason. We may hate the sin, but that does not translate to meanness, spite, or hatred toward the person. Jesus never treated anyone that way, no matter what their lifestyle and we do not know better than He.

Jesus treated everyone with love and patience. He did not tolerate sin, but He tolerated people, right where they were at. Even though sin was exposed, He did not bash them for it or shout for repentance. He simply told them truth and for many, repentance soon followed. He does this to this day.

I want to be more like Jesus. I pray that my fellow Christians who behave poorly would seek out His example.

Don't let the view of the few skew your view of those who are true.

Answer 2

I'm gay, and I cannot stand feminine gay men. And I'm REALLY not keen on cross-dressing gay men, but I don't hate them, it's just not my preference, - like how some straight men prefer curvy women, and other preferences etc.. You're gay, you can't change that. And however chiché it is; there's someone out there for you, probably with the same opinions even, it's not the first time I've come across a homophobic gay. Oh, and just for the record, I'm attracted to men. That doesn't mean I want to sleep with everyone good looking guy I see. #StayClassy.

Answer 3

Woo, this is a hard one for me to answer. So much stuff in my life surrounding this question.

Let me start by saying that many people in the past have thought that I was gay, and have written me off and treated myself and my friends (who actually are gay) very rudely.

There are many reasons that people hate Gays, but one of the foremost reasons is self fear. Some people actually believe that if someone who is homosexual stays around you too long they actually turn you gay. Others are just frightened becuase at some point in their life they looked at someone of the same sex, whether it was when they were kids or not and wondered. They hate that in themselves and act out their anger on people who are gay.

My brother believes that everyone is gay to some extent. Some are born very slightly gay, where you would never ever notice anything. However some people are born very gay, and it is noticeable in everything they do.

This touches on the question of whether or not people are born gay or not. Some believe that it is genetic and that you are born with heterosexual thoughts or homosexual thoughts. Some say that you are cultured by what surrounds you as you grow up. Others believe that it is something you take on in order to bring attention to yourself.

I know many of my friends who are gay, and have always struggled with it. They don't all want to be gay, because of the negative attention it brings in.

The bible basically says that a couple is a man and a women and a whole bunch of people use that as a gay bashing instrument of war. I say, "what the hell!" If God makes every human being in his image, then aren't gay poeple in his image as well? And if so, doesn't that mean that being gay is part of God's creation?

Answer 4

I really don't understand it, either.

I was born into a family of strong Christians. Growing up, anyone gay, was supposedly "less" than anyone else. If they did not love the oppositte sex, I was taught to believe that they were not worth my time, love, or care.

And over time, you know what I learned?

That's bullsh!t.

Unfortunately, the only two gay people I've ever met in person, have not been the best; I was 11 or 12 at the time. I'll not go into detail, but I found that I greatly disliked them--however, that was not because of their orientation, it was because of some things they took part in.

At that point, my parents further exclaimed their distaste for anyone gay. As far as they were concerned, I was supposed to shun such people.

That, too, was bullsh!t.

Now, I'm no longer letting my parents control my life, or my mind.

And quite frankly:

I am going to love whoever the f*ck I want, whenever the f*ck I want, whyever the f*ck I want, and I'll show that love however the f*ck I want. If you don't like that, f*ck you.


Also, I'd like to point out--straight men tend to treat me like an object. In person, I surround myself only with close friends, that do not judge me by my appearance. Online, however, where I can't really get away from them--I'm not saying it's true of all of them, but of the majority: I'm pretty; meant to be owned and used. On my online profiles, I receive ten or so messages a day, exclaiming everything from "you're hot!" to requests for sex. I find it insulting and degrading.

A gay man has never done that. Not once.

Ultimately, I've found them to be nicer, more intelligent, with less stereotypical views, and all in all, amazing people, than many straight men.

Bluntly: Gay people are who they are. You can't change that. Hell; neither can they. You may think they're fags. Well, as far as I'm concerned, they're FAGTASTIC.

[[No, I do not mean that insultingly. A close online friend, gay, said that being called fagtastic was the best thing anyone has ever said about his orientation, and it's true--he's amazing. If he's a ***, then he's sure as hell a fagtastic one.]]

Answer 5

Hate is not good at all, no matter the reasons, and they forget that.

I don't think it is spiritually correct to be gay and I am not gay, but I am as sinful as they are... I have so many dirty secrets... who am I to judge anyone?? People think that because they are straight they are better than anyone, when in fact they live a life of hypocrisy and pseudo-happiness.

I have had gay friends that I love very much. One of them is like a guru for me... very wise person!

Peace!

Answer 6

Religious people who hate others are not walking in the Spirit and counsel of the Lord Jesus Christ but true Believers of Christ don't hate gays, atheist, or any person or group on planet earth but what they do hate is the evil spirit called deception that is upon these people. Gays are being deceived into thinking that this lifestyle is accepted with God when in reality, they are defiled and in need of deliverance and cleansed from this defilement. This is possible when they come to Christ willing to give Him their all. He will make them pure and holy as He is Holy and they can experience righteousness as Christ Himself is righteous but to say that God will marry them and unite them unto holy matrimony is deception and a lie from Satan. So unless they are willing to lay down that lifestyle and give up those demons, they will remain defiled and will die in their sins. So, in reality, they are loved by God and by the Children of God, but the Word of God shows us the way to holiness and purity before God and if one wants to love evil more then, they have rejected God's word and final authority...

Answer 7

I agree with you. I do not get ! I would think adulters, lairs, cheaters woould rank much higher. Oh well...
I think christians (fundies) need to practice a tiny bit of tolerance & forgivness. Not judgement & brimstone.
I am so tired of that "God created Adam & Eve not Adam & Steve" sorry to break it to you but God did create homosexuals...Get over it

Answer 8

It's because most people can't look at something from a perspective other than their own, and from their view of the world gay people so something that is unnatural. Other people need to stop criticizing others and maybe look at their own faults and stop the holier-than-thou attitude.

Answer 9

I am not aware that people hate gays more than any other eccentric group. They are very mild in the presence of women, but can be very aggressive in the presence of men. I do not like them, but I do not hate them. I do hate what they do, which is objective sin on some very serious matters

Answer 10

its one of the few things that they could say they werent guilty of-hard to hate a person for lying or being an adulterer or hating their neighbor when they are guilty of that themselves----enjoy the day