ok, so my friend from japan is coming over to america to see me and she's supposed to be here for a week. i have told my new adopted parents and they said they are not going to let me see her. so i asked why and they said because for one that they will not be able to understand her and when i talk to her will not be able to understand me and because they do not know her and they really won't because again they can't understand her. she's a very nice girl, she's funny, sweet, responsible, and mature and would never do somthing she know's is wrong. how can i convince them to let me see her when she's here?
2007-10-07 08:34:12 · 8 answers · asked by Sasha H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yes school's have much better teaching in japan but english is very hard for the japanese and very few japanese master it. haruka(that's her name) can only understand a tiny bit english but not enough to communicate.
2007-10-07 09:02:19 · update #1
I'm sorry to hear that! I would give them a good old guilt trip! Make them feel bad! CRY!!! Just cry that should do it.
2007-10-07 08:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, being 'Newly Adopted' is not the time for this visit. Your parents are still getting to know you, and to suddenly bring someone into their home, for a week, whom they won't be able to understand is a little daunting. This time should be used for settling in, developing routines and rapport, I think the visit should be delayed. If arrangements are already made and can't be changed, can she stay with someone else in the school community and visit you from there, so that she's not a guest in your new parent's home? I just think it's a lot to ask from your parents, and their unwillingness doesn't mean they don't love you or will not accept your friends, it's just too early.
2007-10-11 07:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by mkayk55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, i think that it's a great idea for your friend to visit with u from japan! u should tell your parents that u have been staying intouch with your friend & that the both of u don't have a problem with either languages so they should be proud of u because of that for 1 reason anyway. u should tell them that her parents must be worried also for the same reasons so maybe it would be a good idea for your parents to talk with her parents on the phone & the 2 of u girls could translate for both sides of each others parents & i'm sure that just by doing that your parents would get a good idea of how your friends parents are & feel better about this whole thing because your parents will understand that the young adults of today r much more edgucated in these programs also maybe your school teachers would be of some help too! i'm sure that if u talk with your guidence counselor about your problem that he or she would offer to help u out on this! good luck, nobrethequeen@yahoo.com
2007-10-11 07:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by nobrethequeen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very sad. Do what Nikki said. But considering your friend comes from Japan, a country that has excellent schools, much better than our's here, I can't imagine that your friend does not speak English. So why wouldn't your parents understand her?
Your parents just adopted you? I don't quite understand why they start they relationship with forbidding you something that is obviously important to you.
I hope for you that they'll change their mind.
2007-10-07 08:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by Llani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure they understand all these nice characteristics of your friend, and ask them why they don't trust you to have a conversation with her just because they won't understand it. Have you given them reasons not to trust you? If not, just explain to them how important her friendship is to you, and since she is visiting ALL THE WAY from Japan, chances are this is a once in a lifetime visit. Make a point of emphasising that. It's not like she lives down the street or something.
2007-10-07 11:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW that's a tough one. I would try to explain to your parents that your not trying to pull away from them but that you do miss your friends from Japan. Maybe if you tell them that you'll translate everything for them so that they don't feel uncomfortable in their own home. Also try teaching your friend how to speak English so that it doesn't come across as her being rude to your parents. Good Luck!!!
2007-10-11 08:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by Littles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear asker,I am so so sorry to hear that.I think that you got to try convincing them that she is nice and all harder.You got to tell them the good things she has done.It would be helpful if you could find someone who knows your friend so that they might help you convince your parents.It is better if you tell them that you want to find a best friend and that she seems to be exactly it.You have got to convince them that you need to choose things in your life.
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