My parents are REALLY controlling, all i wana do is go out on the train to a town about 20 mins away, every weekend.
Got loads of friends there.
What i want it to be able to say that I can go out when i want, because i have that right.
At what age do you get this independance?
thanks for help.
I am 15 by the way.
2007-10-07 08:32:03 · 33 answers · asked by barbedwireribbons 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its not that im not allowed at all, I am, just not every weekend.
We live in a really boring town, so its much more fun to go away
2007-10-07 08:38:54 · update #1
Okay, I said AT THE WEEKEND
not for whole weekends! just a saturday!
And, im not doing anything wrong, just that I have alot of friends there and would prefer to be away having fun, than at home
2007-10-07 08:42:57 · update #2
you DO NOT HAVE THAT RIGHT. Your parents are legally responsible for you until you are 18. That being said, they make your decisions.....
2007-10-07 08:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
18
2007-10-07 08:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by Panama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, 18. But in some homes, and certainly mine, as long as you are under my roof- you will be following my rules. If you dont want to follow my rules, leave (assuming you were at least 18). Ofcourse, this is not an option for you. As a previous runaway myself, I would highly discourage you from doing something like that. Chances are that your parents cared about you and are only trying to protect you. I remember a conversation that I had as a teen on the bus with another girl from my school at about 15-16 years old. I was the child who wasnt even allowed to socialize out of the home, wishing that I could live what seemed to be a more normal life like those around me. She was the girl who's parents didnt bother to make any rules wishing that someone in her life would give enough of a crap about her to at least attempt to stop her from doing things that were not good for her. All Im saying is there are two sides of the fence, and you should consider yourself lucky if your parents straddle the fence rather than it be one or the other. They will grant you more privilages as they feel you are ready to handle the responsibilty that comes with them, I am sure.
2007-10-07 08:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by reconnermom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you have to prove you are mature and responsible and gain their trust before they let you do anything. Its not that they are REALLY controlling... they are looking out for your well being. You are 15 you don't have the right to do anything... you have to earn it. You dont get to do whatever you want until you are 18 20 minutes is far away if something were to happen to you. they wouldnt be able to get to you in time. Just think you are traveling by train.... they travel faster than cars do. you could be almost 50-100 miles away from home.. that would make any parent uncomfortable.
2007-10-07 08:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by ☼ImmaStar☼ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
prolly will be 18
but they are 'so controlling' because you are not making smart decisions (wisdom)
had a 17 yr old in our county recently take 5 friends out at 3 am (sure that was approved - huh) in little car - only two things on roadway - him at a stop sign and an 18 wheeler semi doing 60 mph -
thought he could beat the semi across the road
guess he forgot that 5 friends weigh about half a ton
his little car did not move quick enough - he and his 16 yr old GF are gone - two other friends in the car were helicoptered to the ER Trauma Center
yeah - by 18 you can be all on your own - and be responsible for EVERYTHING
best of luck
2007-10-07 08:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by tom4bucs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically speaking, they cannot stop you at age 18. As you are only 15 they probably just fear for your safety, rather than just stopping you for the hell of it. Try to ease them into the idea of you going out, by maybe going and coming back with a friend and then having a sleep-over.
"At what age do you get this independence?"
It's different for people depending on crime rates of where you live and parents and other stuff, but I would say 15/16/17 are acceptable ages.
2007-10-07 08:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by ChickensSquawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?
Just because you can think it, doesn't mean you can (or have the right to) do it. You're under your parent's jurisdiction until you're 18 (in the US). Usually if you want great privileges (like leaving town, unchaperoned, for the weekend) you have to have a long term pattern of dependability and having made wise choices. Then you ask, not tell, your parents about the things you want.
Good luck with this one...
2007-10-07 08:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by Zeera 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you live under your parents roof, you have to live by their rules until you are a legal adult. 18 yrs. old. Gain their trust and don't break it. Handle the situation like an adult and they will treat you like an adult. Start small and compromise, suggest that you only go wherever with a friend that they know and like and that you will be back by a certain time. And always show up before then, they will eventually give you more freedom.
good luck.
2007-10-07 08:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by Iceman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
technically you dont get legal independence from your parents until you are 18. if i were you i would most definitely sit down and try to negotiate with your parents. you could look for nice little resteraunts in the town that they could go to while you visit your friends. this was your parents will be close and they know they will be able to get to you if they need you. after a while they will start relizing they can trust you! GOOD LUCK!
2007-10-07 08:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by Pointe Your Toes! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont have the right to do or go where ever you want. Until you are a legal adult (18 in the US and many other countries), you must live by your parents rules. You are lucky that they let you go to another town by your self some tmes. I know you dont want to hear it, but you are just a kid. Enjoy it while it last.
2007-10-07 08:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
15 is too young to be unsupervised for entire weekends, period. If you were going on a train to stay with a friend and your parents knew that friend and the friend's parents and knew you were not going to be alone, that's one thing.
In general, I figure if you're living in your parents' house, not supporting yourself, you live by their rules. You don't have 'rights', you have to earn privileges. What have you done to show you're particularly trustworthy, responsible, mature and level-headed?
I was once a 15 year old with lots of freedom because my parents were both alcoholics and addicted to prescription meds and they didn't care what happened to me. I was fortunate that I had my own amibtions and drive, but it sucked to have to work just to earn my own food and to graduate at the top of my class and have nobody there for me in the audience. I'm lucky I made it through alive without adults who cared to watch over me. Count your blessings your parents are active and involved in your life and want to make sure you're safe.
Why are you so anxious to be away where they don't know what you're doing?
2007-10-07 08:40:28 · answer #11 · answered by wynterwood 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋