She gets into everything, tears up everything, finds a way to get into everything no matter where it is, doesn't listen, is so hyper, yells and screams when you try to discipline her, doesnt care about how others feel, hits people, I could go on and on.
I took her to the doctor but that didnt help. The doctor said I need to put her in time out and take things away from her. What help that was... not.
When you take something from her and tell her no, she just finds something else to get in to. And time out doesnt help. Spanking doesnt help. That doesnt even fase her.
I am exhausted. I work more than 40 hours a week and then have to come home to a disaster area because of her. She doesnt get sweets so she isnt hyper because of that.
What am I doing wrong?? I am persistant and everything.
My husband cannot control her either.
2007-10-07 08:21:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
For my kids, I put a 'rewards' board up. Thery had to behave and earn so many points- even at 3 they understand the concept-to get something special. For younger ages I put stickers on a chart for them to see how good they are doing. When they filled up their board they got to choose something they wanted. Maybe she wants to go to the zoo - she has to earn so many stickers to go. Have her do small things for you and little by little she will get the hang of 'helping out' instead of driving you insane. It helps to start out small to begin with so she can realise pretty quickly that the better she behaves the more rewards. Good luck. School age is much much easier.
2007-10-07 08:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by funkiechickie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is really tough when dealing with a toddler and working 40 hours! Usually a toddler isnt hyper like that unless she is overtired, overstimulated or hungry. I dont know what her schedule is like during the day, but I would suggest a nap and a good bed time routine. I would take ALL of her toys away at night and introduce a new book to read to her once you start her bath routine. Put EVERYTHING away that you possibly can and make sure that it is childproofed! Introduce rewards during the week and let her know that you will take her somewhere "special" ont the weekend if she behaves to your standards!(Park, Little Gym, Museum, Toy Store) My 2 1/2 gets crazy,restless, relentless and HYPER, but I know its when she hasnt taken her nap or is hungry. Once she is well rested and fed, she is as close to an angel as she can get! Good luck and have lots of patience! You have a few more years to see what a lovely young lady she will develop to be!
2007-10-08 12:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by vixxen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How soon did you start disipline for her? Did you ever start telling her no younger than this?
You have to start disipline early. I think you have not tried the doctor's ideas good enough just a bit and then gave up...it takes consistancy and if you do not continue this....it is all for nothing....I think you need to try those ideas again and then keep at it....that is all you can do...eventually she is gonna see that you are meaning what you say and the actions you take. Supernanny says that is part of the course. If you give up you will get nowhere.
I would clear out her room right now of all toys, books, tv set and video material she watches, and leave the bed, dresser, and that is it. Make her learn she is only going to get the toys and stuff back once she learns that you have rules. Set the rules up and tell her what they are and enforce them. If she breaks the rules, then she cant have the toys...or tv. Keep this up. She is going to fight you on this and this is called testing.....
IN the end all kids want is to know that they are loved and that there are boundries set and you are going to keep them.
2007-10-07 16:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by taljalea 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be consistent with discipline. She should have a time - out, followed by the task of cleaning up the mess herself. My son is also three, and from the time he was 12 months old, we instilled that kind of responsibility in him - he makes a mess, he cleans it - at least, as best he could. It started with him throwing crayons on the floor in a restaurant. Now, he doesn't do it anymore. And if he does make a mess by accident, he knows to start cleaning it up before I tell him to do it.
How do you know time - out doesn't work? With all due respect, it doesn't sound like there is any consistency in the home. There is no "quick fix" when it comes to teaching children proper behavior; it takes time. Who cares for her during the day? You both work 40 hours? That's probably part of the reason - she doesn't get enough time with you. Many parents say they need to work, but if your husband is working full - time, chances are you don't need both full - time salaries. You might have to make some sacrifices in other areas, but isn't your daughter worth it? See if you can cut back your hours for awhile so you can spend some more time with her and teach her proper behavior. Best of luck to you all.
2007-10-07 16:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by SoBox 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My daughter was the same way at that age. Be consistant and be calm when handing out consequences for her actions. Make the consequences fit the offense. It makes sense to them at that age. Explain it. (ie: You threw your toys everywhere and didn't take care of them, so they will be put away until you handle them properly.) Pull them back out in an hour or so and ask if she's ready to do the right thing. Always assume she learned her lesson. Have confidence in her ability to do the right thing. Immediate response to an offense (they forget) in a calm and consistant manner is the key.
Wouldn't hurt to watch SuperNanny. By the way, by daughter is grown now and a very lovely young woman.
2007-10-07 15:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get some help and fast. Believe me I don't think it is the kid.I think it could be the daycare, but mostly you need to calm down, hitting shouting and screaming is not going to help. I think that is what you do, maybe not even knowing it. Please get help go see another Dr. This thing is going to wore you down. Treat your baby with love and care, remember she is only a baby.
2007-10-07 15:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes it may be hard and will be for a while.... i believe it is a phase... you will want to reward her everytime she does the right thing....what helps alot around these times is saying how proud she will make u and that SANTA will bring her gifts if shes been good all year...gOoD lUcK
2007-10-07 15:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by crazydaisy1129 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u should take away all toys. maybe she has a problem like ADD no offense wat so ever but that could be the reason for her acting up so badly my heart goes out to you but honestly she might need medication
2007-10-07 15:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by kwi 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sign up for supernanny.
2007-10-07 15:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by I Like Toitles. 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
HOW ABOUT A LITTLE FAMILY COUNSELING[PROFESSIONAL];BEFORE SOMEONE GETS HURT;OR WORSE!!!!!!!
2007-10-07 15:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by FLATTOP 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋