I have heard so many people say that the wedding is the bride's day. Is that necessarily true? How do you go about changing that? My fiance believes that the wedding day is the bride's day. I want his input and his tastes portrayed at the wedding ceremony just as mine will be. Is it just usually that the woman takes care of all the wedding arrangements and things?
2007-10-07 07:43:33 · 17 answers · asked by Ms. Exxclusive 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's hard to speak on behalf of every future groom out there. In a nutshell, the wedding day is about celebrating the COUPLE. But when you see and hear these bizarre Bridezilla tales and stories, it shifts to become all about the bride. Every guy is different. Some guys are 100% immersed in the planning and details. Maybe some guys could care less. Most guys are probably somewhere in between: they want to be included in some of the planning, but not all of it. My husband could care less about the flowers, but he definately had his input about the photographer, DJ, menu, and honeymoon. All he needed was a color swatch of the bridesmaids dresses in order to determine a tux color-which really the tux rental shop basically told him what to order! He had minimal input on the invitations or the registry. We were both in agreement of a very short ceremony.
it's up to the individual groom! Good luck to you!
2007-10-07 09:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's usually because there's just a different way of thinking about things between the genders.
Usually women are concerned about the details (flowers, colors, favors, table numbers!), whereas men are more concerned about the main goal (let's just get married!).
Ultimately, people are there for the bride AND the groom - it's not a debutante ball! And if having the wedding you want makes him happy and he's willing to leave the planning to you, then you should know your fiance well enough to incorporate things he would like into the wedding.
You can try and involve him in the planning, but if he's not a detailed-oriented person, the best approach is to have 2-3 options for something and approach him with it, as opposed to a blanket, general question of "What do you want?"
Good luck and don't let the details cloud what's really important!
2007-10-07 08:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by Muhnkee 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have the right idea. It is absolutely not all about the bride. It's definately about the groom and in a small way it's also about your family. You are not the only one who's been looking foward to seeing you walk down that aisle honey.
It's pretty common for grooms to take a backseat. They don't have the urge to decorate on a daily basis and pair that with the same BS the wedding industry feeds women about how it's "all their day".....However, if you are marrying this guy you should know his tastes somewhat. You would know if he hates pink, if he's allergic to tons of flowers, and maybe he really likes italian food so you serve that. Regardless there is always unspoken input and if he really hates an idea he will speak up.
2007-10-07 13:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not exclusively about the bride. The bride has to take into consideration her fiancee's tastes. Some men are more into weddings than others. A friend of mine told me about her fiancee who kept insisting he sees her wedding dress (because he wanted to help her choose it). The only thing my husband had any opinions on was the wedding colors. He hates red. So, it varies. What you can do is come up with two or three choices of whatever it is you're looking at. Show him pictures and ask your fiancee to choose one. It makes it easy for him. He doesn't have to use his imagination. And you get his input!
2007-10-07 09:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's about the bride and the groom. You are both getting married, not just the bride. Tell him that it is very important to you that you both are a part of the day, he is equally as important as you are. If you want your entire marriage to be about the two of you, then start it off right, and make the wedding about the two of you as well. I'm sure if you make the point to him that you don't want the rest of your marriage to be just about you, but about the two of you, then he will better understand that the wedding should start off that way as well. His opinion is important. Best of Luck!!!!
2007-10-07 08:17:30 · answer #5 · answered by TAS 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe it is exclusively the bride's day. If it was most of us wouldn't want 100 pairs of eyes observing us as we exchange a very solemn vow with someone we love. And so many women these days never dreamed of being a bride so that would be overwhelming pressure to have a day totally focused on her. My boyfriend and I discuss what we both want as well as what our families would like when we discuss the wedding. It would be rude to pursue just my idea of what the day should look like in my opinion. If it was just my day no one else would really need to be there.
2007-10-07 07:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by indydst8 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well of course it's not. If there was no groom there would be no marriage!
Tell her you want input. No offence to guys but sometimes their ideas are embarassing/distasteful (same with some women). However this should not stop you for voicing them and enforcing at least one.
Maybe it is just a colour you want or what meal is served at dinner. You have as much right to have the things you want that day as the bride.
Good luck and I hope you get your dream wedding too.
2007-10-07 07:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in the U.S., the bride or the bride's relatives commonly will pay for the expenses linked with the marriage. in case your marriage is happening in the U.S., then i'd say bypass with the U.S. custom; whether it incredibly is happening someplace else, bypass with the customs of that area of the worldwide. like the previous asserting is going, "whilst in Rome, do because of the fact the Romans do." That, however, is custom, and not inevitably sensible for each guy or woman. A bride and groom fairly would desire to artwork out the biggest factors to settle on what's sensible consistent with what they and their households can incredibly have sufficient money.
2016-10-21 08:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called the "Brides day" because she has been dreaming of this day since she was little..the bride does most of the planning and arrangements, chooses a lot of the decorations and colors, but if you want your fiance in on this make sure he has his say on a lot and let him take charge of some projects. In the end it is about you two, even if it is all about you.
2007-10-07 07:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Last time I checked, a GROOM is involved in the big day as well.
It is the bride AND GROOM's day.
If he wants you to do all the organizing, then go for it. Just make sure to ask him his opinions on your ideas first.
Let him know each time you talk to him about it that it is HIS day as well!
2007-10-08 04:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋