he had all fs an one c. i know it was just the progress report an not the report card but its just as important cuz the report card is only a few weeks away. im not a bad mom im always invovled with my kids school work. i wanted to know was i to harsh with his punishment. an i dont want to here no crap about wooping him neither cuz im oldschool an i dont care bout no 696 im raising them not them. but anyway i wooped him put him on punishment until next semester progress report, hes doing 20 vacabs out the dictionary every day plus reading a book an giving me a summery every day an no tv. is that too harsh cuz i dont play bout school.
2007-10-07 07:30:59 · 24 answers · asked by tiffalonia30 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
i do help them with homework an i give them extra work too. they only watch tv for 2 hours on school days an they play video games only on weekends. my daughter is on the honor roll for the forth year straight an this is the first year my son has ever gotton grades like this. hes usually merit roll. he has never had an f before an his worst subject is math. i go to all school functions an i volenteer every chance i can.
2007-10-07 12:17:33 · update #1
an i usually dont woop. this is the first woopen hes had since he was 4 yrs old an that was just a few taps.
2007-10-07 12:23:14 · update #2
to the people with positive advice thanx. to the others with smart remarks f*#$ off. hes in middle school an where i live in east Cleveland they dont have books to bring home an i hate that. but what can i do but give him the best i can at home. an he hates reading reading so that's why i give him reading assignments at home. most of his problems are reading an remembering what he read an then answer the questions. i dont ever compare my kids because they are 2 different people. i just want him to do what he is suppose to do which is pay attention. he'll be alright i know it. he has a stable family structure an lots of love. you cant just expect the teachers to do everything its the parents job first n formost.
2007-10-08 02:33:00 · update #3
I think that being old school it's o.k. but the punishment is good because it helps with vocabulary. The reading of the book and giving you a summery of the book it's also good. It helps with reading skills. The no TV it's very good giving back the TV would be rewarding for the child if grades get better. However I think that you should have a meeting with the teachers. You could find out, and work with the teacher to find out what can you do to help to improve the child's grades. Go through his back pack random and look in his books, binders folders, and look for things unusual. It can be a girl that may be distracting him from his work at school, or influence of friends. I have a dauhgter 6th grade I random check her back pack and go through all her stuff I look for notes, drawings what they mean, thing that don't belong to her, unfinished work/homework, and ask questions about it. Read the reaction on the child to find out whether their telling the truth. take the unfinish work, and tell the child to say the truth that you'll talk with the teacher about the work. When I punish my daughter I will Have Her write 150+ times example ; I will pay attention during class and not pass notes during school. I give her a dead line to turn it in to me. That she does not like to do. I also make her read and turn in a report by chapter the books that my daughter reads are big. Try to give the child something that the child be interrested in . I also take the tv, phone, radio, mp player, games, and incease choirs in the house. When on the phone know who the child is talking to, know the freinds that the child hangs with.
2007-10-07 08:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you asked him why his grades were so low? Have you talked to his teachers? Until you get both sides of the story, you really have no clue exactly why the grades are so low. He may have a learning disability. If he has any teachers who've been around for a while, they will likely tell you what they think is going on and will most likely be correct. If there is a learning disability present, then punishing him was the worst thing you could do. If he just isn't trying, then it was the right thing to do. Set up a conference with his teachers and guidance counselor. You may want the person in charge of discipline there as well. Contact the school by phone or email and request the meeting. A lot changes between 5th and 6th grade when it comes to classes. Your son might just be having trouble adjusting.
So, talk with your son and talk with the school. Then go from there.
2007-10-07 07:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by Serena 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think making him do extra work is the answer since he obviously isn't doing his school work anyway. Schedule a conference with his teachers and learn how to be more involved day to day. Most schools have a computer system that allows parents to see grades. I've been checking my kids grades all along and had no surprises when progress reports came. He obviously needs to be monitored daily. Find out how you can be aware of homework, tests and grades. Most teachers have e-mail and you can be in contact daily until he turns things around. This is just about simple communication. You should have been checking homework daily and watching the grades that came home. Just start communicating with his teachers. Good luck :)
2007-10-07 12:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he had all F's and a C he should be on academic probation. It's the school's job to make sure that the grades are up to par. If my daughter (currently in 8th grade, but the school system is like this for all middle school students) got more than 2 F's at any given moment, (progress) report time or not, she'd be put on academic probation by the school. She'd have to have a Saturday detention every week until at least one of them was up to a D (or higher). She'd have no sports, no clubs, no opportunity to do anything extra-curricular through the school. If she was having trouble in the subjects she was failing, and not just being lazy, they would get her a tutor.
I don't know why the school isn't doing anything about it.
And for future reference:
There's a button on top of every post you make that says "Check Spelling". I suggest you invest 5 extra seconds on doing that, because I cannot read a half the words in your post.
2007-10-07 07:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by -Liz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is..but w/the reading and "school work" stuff are you doing it in subjects he's getting F's in? I would give him the school books in those classes and have him read em over and over and some of the books have questions at the end of the chapter and have him answer those and you grade him. But yes no tv or hanging out with friends will help him understand how serious you are and how serious he needs to be with his grades. If he realizes how crappy his punishment is he hopefully will try to do better and not do it again. Good Luck and stay strict!
2007-10-07 07:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by shortysml 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let ur mom putting pressure on you to get good grades get to you. the people that i know that get this from their parents have become attention seekers, and are generally annoying to be around, because if they do badly in one test, they go into a bad mood. No matter what she says, just remember, YOU know if you are really trying your best. If you are, then yeah you deserve to get your hair cut - but if you really cared about it, just get a weekend job, or mow the neighbours lawn or something to get money for it. Your mom is right by the way - if you don't get grades, it will be difficult to be successful - take it from someone who knows. If you knew how hard it is to get by when you didn't get good grades in school, you'd be just as uptight as ur mom about getting good grades. thats why she's like that, she knows how bad your life could end up if you don't. As for your friend - you need to show your mom that he's a good influence, not a bad one. Maybe if he ever comes over he could be polite and do things like offer to do the dishes or help with the housework? The thing that WILL make your mom worse about him, is that if your grades get worse, or you start doing bad things like smoking, hanging around on the streets in gangs etc, because your mom will blame this all on josh.
2016-05-18 01:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doing 20 vocabulary words each night doesn't seem to correlate with what he actually needs for his grades. If math is his worst subject, then math is what he needs additional help with. Have you talked with his teacher as to WHY he's making these bad grades? Is it because he doesn't understand the material, doesn't try hard, or doesn't turn in assignments? Figuring that out will better help you to help him. Until then, I see nothing wrong with taking TV away until his grades improve. I do, however, think that the work you're giving him isn't necessarily what he needs. Besides, how do you know if the summaries he gives you are even right?
2007-10-07 15:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might talk with his teachers and ask what they think is wrong with your son and what they recommend he should do at home to get better grades. Getting almost all Fs is an indication that either he took courses not suited to him or has somehow given up on school - probably for a reason you can find out. Only if you come to the conclusion that the reason for your son's failure is mere laziness on his part then, yes, the spanking was well-deserved. But you might still want to cooperate with teachers about additional work to be done at home.
I am not at all against "old school", but I think you'd want to do what has the best chances of making your son succeed.
2007-10-07 07:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If e had all fs and one c i think he was playing around a bit too much sort of like myself a while ago (i'm in 10th) But in order to help him you have to make sure he passes all his tests, pays attention and does all his homework after that he should improve alot. As for the punishments if the work your giving him is for school that isn't really a punishment that just his responsibilty but you should give himlike 2hrs to watch tv in between homework assignments and studying so he doesn't get over stressed.
2007-10-07 07:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by ........ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How come those bad grades came as a surprise to you? You should insist that he show you every test and homework paper he has as soon as he gets one. You should also go make an appointment with the teacher and see what is going on there in class (is he asleep or fooling around or messing with drugs or just unprepared for the day's work?)
You are right about it being serious. If he has always done well then something crucial has changed.
2007-10-07 07:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by Rich Z 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋