My SIL just cancelled her wedding and is getting engaged to another guy in a month. She mentioned having a quick destination wedding with close family members. My husband and I don't have money for that. Would we be "required" to go to this?
2007-10-07 06:01:26 · 21 answers · asked by qtpie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You may beg off, because of the short notice
2007-10-07 06:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never a requirement to go. Destination weddings ... especially on short notice ... the bride and groom should expect that many of the people they request can't attend due to money, vacation time from work, etc.... I'd go with a card and money for a gift (the amount is up to you) so that they may enjoy their honeymoon. You said she "mentioned" having a quick destination wedding. With the way she changes her mind ... you never know what could happen.
2007-10-07 13:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Chicka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, if she's having a destination wedding, she should be okay with just having her and her future husband. Anyone else who is able to go should be seen as a bonus. I'm getting married down south and we're giving everyone the travel agent details if they would like to join us but for those who can't we're having a small informal reception when we return.
You are definitely not required to go, especially since she didn't give a lot of notice. We gave people at least a year's notice so that if they wanted to join us they could plan both financially and for their vacations.
2007-10-07 14:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. No one is "required" to attend a destination wedding. Those that book a destination wedding know that many family (like you) cannot afford to come, so they must accept their choice and the decision of others not to attend. If she is willing to pay part of your flight, hotel, etc....then you can think about it. But, no, you are not required.
2007-10-07 15:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are never required to go to a wedding. And when it's a short-notice destination wedding that you can't afford, others are more likely to understand your decision not to attend.
2007-10-07 13:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not required to go. Couples who plan destination weddings have to be reasonable and understand that it's not always the most convienent (time or money wise) for guests to attend. Give her your blessing and a wedding gift. I think that'll be enough.
2007-10-07 13:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by lisamarie8503 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I would wait until about a week before the wedding (in case they change their mind) and send a nice wedding card and an affordable gift. Its the thought that counts.
2007-10-07 13:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by Jill S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not required to go. The bride and groom should realize that not everyone can afford such a thing and not all people can drop everything (like their jobs, kids, etc) for this.
Just let them know you won't be able to attend and give them your gift.
You might want to mention to them that it would be nice if they had a reception party for when they come back so, those who were unable to attend can celebrate w/ them.
2007-10-07 13:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Squiggly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I won't go. You're sister in law sounds crazy. Calling off one wedding and then getting married to another guy a month later?????
I wouldn't support that. If anything, have just your husband go, since that's his sister. Say you couldn't get work off at such a short notice and need to stay behind.
2007-10-07 13:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by Je Adore 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Required? No one is ever required to attend a wedding. It sounds as though you don't approve of her decision more than what it costs to attend. In either case, if you aren't comfortable don't go.
2007-10-07 13:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you can not afford to go, she should understand. just send a gift or card &/or say you guys will all go out for dinner together when they get back from the wedding or honeymoon. simply gesture, but should work. good luck!
2007-10-07 13:16:48 · answer #11 · answered by wateronthered 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋