I'm afraid that I'm gonna go to hell. Help!? [serious answers]?

Question

Well I have no motivation to go to church.
I think godly talk and the Bible is way boring.
I don't pray and if I do it's because my mom makes me.
I haven't gone through confirmation and I'm 15.
I don't know what I really believe deep inside.
My family is at church right now and my mom didn't make me go so I didn't.

I'm againt the Christian morals of:
Modesty. I don't think we should have to hide our talents.

Anti-homosexuallity. I support gays/lesbiens/and bis

Sex after marrige [sp?]. I think people should have sex when they feel the moment is right.

I used to love going to church when I was in 4th and 5th grade and I'm afraid that I have grown to believe that God isn't real. I don't want to go to "Hell" though. Any suggestions, anything at all?!

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Answer 1

I don't believe you are going to hell. If it makes you feel any better I sometimes wonder if there is a God myself. But I still pray, because I think that blind faith is better than no faith. I still want to go to church very much. I want to believe in God with my whole heart, but that is not where I am right now. Maybe it will just take some time. Everyone needs to find a God of there understanding. We all have different beleifs and that is okay. I suggest to you and this is only my opinion, that you pray on your own. Don't let your Mom force you, just tell her that you pray on your own in your room before you go to sleep. Just pray to God and tell him what you are feeling. You are confused, you doubt him sometimes. That is what I do. I think we all need something to believe in and it really does feel good to talk to him and tell him the way you feel. Ask him to show you the way, if he is real he will lead you to him in his way. Maybe you need to find a different church. One that feels right to you. It could take a while, but look around. Maybe even try watching a sermon with Joel Osteen. I find a lot of my inspiration from him. You will find that a lot of people love him and a lot don't. Just like everything else in life. Just give it a try and see if it feels right to you. His website is www.joelosteen.com and you can check for local times and listings. Good luck Hon, don't let anybody scare you. Your a good person.

Answer 2

Perhaps the motivation is not about to go to Church, is in faith itself, the thing of going to the building that doesn't make you a saint or either be saved, no, in my personal opinion is what you do EVERYDAY, not just one day, not just SUNDAYS, no, is how you treat your mind, your soul, your body, all the time, how you behave with your family, if you go on Sundays but all week act as a ***** to all around you..... don't go please.

If is boring the Bible is because you are not making ANY EFFORT AT ALL to understand, what I found funny is that you are afraid of going to hell, but you don't believe, you don't know how to see every day's miracles but you are afraid...

There's no age to go through confirmation, so if you really care and want to do it, you still can.

Praying is a way to communicate with God, but if somebody has to push you, oh boy... well, then what do you want? a free pass to where.... if you haven't read anything or even you are not interested to read the Bible, why are you afraid? perhaps, the only I could say to you is what you could miss, ...... HEAVEN.

Religion is not fanaticism, nothing more far from that, is faith, that is what you need to take out and make it grow.

Christian morals as you said "Modesty".... is just not to be a stupid person bragging about something, if you have a talent use it, don't brag about it. The perception that you have about that concept, I think is incorrect.

For your 15 years... what do you really know about homosexuality? your attitude is arrogant, you can't support nothing if you are not in the knowledge, remember that never stops, I can't say either "ah, I know all..." no, I would commit the same mistake than you, no, there's always something to learn, perhaps I have another point of view with 16 years more than you, just that, I could be wrong too.

About "people should have sex when they feel the moment is right..." yes I should add to with the right protection both partners, in order to avoid further problems. The word be responsible is BIG as you can imagine and the consequences the same.

If you used to love going to church, maybe something or someone disappointed you, but that doesn't mean you have to stop believing.

Life itself is a miracle, open your eyes and see all around you. Faith is not to be afraid, read between lines, God wants you to be a useful person, one with a heart, with a brain and a happy life, that's all.

hell could be this, no faith, only fear, heaven could be a life full of happiness, here and only here, perhaps there is no place to go, everything that we do we'll pay our bad deeds here...

Answer 3

A lot of kids your age become like you. But a hell direction you are describing. Praying is what is most important! You have to be willing loving God, Jesus, and the Holy Ghost. And you should read the Bible. IF you have the King James Bible, that alone could be your problem. Get a NIV or American Standard. As least modern. Not only read the Bible; but obey it too. Pray to understand it. If you are still having problems, see if you can find Bible Study Lessons near you. To help you take in and understand more.

Answer 4

You may just be at the age that you breaking from things to find out who you are, but God will be there while you figure things out. It's not a free ticket to purposely sin though, so remember that.
Explore other churches and their youth/teen programs though and maybe one will call to you sooner rather than later.
As for modesty, with ego and clothing... there should be some type of modesty. If your ego is big then you forget that you are human and God is God.
Sex: At 15, that is a difficult thing to consider about when the time is right because there also is an age where it can cause emotional problems if you trust someone and they just use you plus any possible consequences of sex.

Answer 5

I wanted to pass your question up because you had so many answers. I hope mine makes a difference in your life. You need to pray and ask God to show you the Truth. I know what you mean about church and the Bible being boring. I have experienced this also. You do not want to cut yourself completely off from seeking after God. He is willing to show you everything that you need to know and want to know. He can make life and a relationship with Him very exciting just like when you were younger. Just ask Jesus into your heart, He then can make the changes necessary to help you and you will began seeing things in a new way. You will want to attend church and read the Bible. God Bless You and remember He does love you alot.

Answer 6

I think that you are only 15 and have not lived long enough to really have known the Lord God for yourself, or have had the troubles in life that will bring you closer to him. You have to meditate on it and give your self some time. I know that sometimes it seems as if God isn't real,but he IS. I also even though I'm much older than you are have felt the same way you do, but I know not to fall into the Devil's trap of disbeliefe. Also, it is ok not to hate gays or bi's. But hate the person, hate their sin. You must acknowledge that engaging in gay acts is a sin as well as doing any other sin. All sin separates us from God, and you must acknowledge that. So hate the sin and not the sinner. Live and Let Live that is the Christian way. See, you are already half way there but don't know how to arive there yet. Give it time honey. Know that everyone must answer to God for their own sins, but you must answer for yours. Do this for me... Pray to the Lord to lead you in the right direction. Don't rebel, he loves you. You will find him in time.

Answer 7

I think it is natural and positive for you to question your religion as you try to build a relationship with God. I think you are better served questioning at home than in church right now.

I believe that we are held spiritually accountable for our actions, but I personally don't believe in Hell. So I might not be your best guide to avoid it.

It was recently uncovered the Mother Theresa, a woman that will likely become a saint, doubted the existence of God for much of her life. You are in good company in having doubts.

There are also many different forms of Christianity that have different interpretations regarding homosexuality and sex. You may just be attending the wrong church for you to be able to build your relationship with God.

I would think more about Humility (not modesty per say) because even though an individual wants to show off their talents, it is important to have perspective upon one's own place in the world and the limitations we all have. It is hard to be humble, but it is worth the effort to reflect upon it as much as possible.

Answer 8

You are simply opening up to the possibilities of MORE. I was in such a place when I was your age, and now at the age of 32 I am solid in my beliefs and my faith and I continue to grow both spiritually and emotionally with every new experience life has to offer me.

My suggestion to you would be to simply meditate. Go within yourself and just sit and smile for about 10 minutes a day. While you are sitting in a quiet place smiling, try not to think of anything at all; concentrate on the feeling of breathing and your body sounds and movements as you breathe and live.

The fact of the matter is; LIFE IS MEANT TO BE BLISSFUL!! --Not regretful. Spend every moment you can thinking only good things and doing the things you love to do, and you don't have to worry about heaven or hell... truth be told, this life is both!! Just choose either Heaven, or Hell, and you will live the life you choose. Simply depends on perspective. Happiness is a choice. Don't sweat the small stuff. (Most of it is small stuff!)

Answer 9

Hello Sister, you're absolutely not the first person to have the same experiences that you are having. I don't want you to go to Hell either, but you need to be willing to accept certain facts. Jesus died for you not only that you can go to heaven one day, but also that you can live an abundant and peacful life on earth.

You first need to get to know him. I would not advise you to rush to church as yet. There are many people who don't miss a Sunday Service and they still would not see the gates of heaven. Why? Because they do not have a close and loving relationship with God. When you have this type of relationship with God, you will always be motivated to the right things, say the right things and strive to be that kind of person Jesus wants you to be. Jesus is not only your Savior, he is your friend.

Start a new habit of talking to him daily in prayer. You don't always need to be formal, you can also talk to him as you would to a casual friend. Begin to read the Gospels; start with Mathew. As you continually do this, your mind will be renewd and you will receive wisdom from God. God will now begin to work through you, by first changing the way you think. Eventually you will be the first person to leave the house for church.
Remember the objective of the devil is to get you to think that all that God considers ungodly and unholy is cool. Just like how he deceived Eve by making her believe that it was "cool" to eat the forbidden fruit. He wants the whole world to think that it is "cool" to curse, to fornicate,to kill,to be a homosexual, to disrespect people etc.
I give you advice as a sister, seek God through prayer and meditating in his word and he will forever be your defender, your provider and your peace.

Take care!

Answer 10

For God so loved the World that He gave his only begotten Son that who so ever believes in him, shall not perish but have ever lasting life.

John 3 16 The Bible.

Jesus is the way to heaven. Do you have Jesus?

Do you believe?

The Greatest Love Song
Do You Know Jesus
By Mike McCracken

(chorus)
Do you know Jesus?
And how He loves us
How He died just to save us
Just because, He loves us

Judas betrayed Him
Who once was His friend
They beat, flogged and scourged Him
To where He didn’t look human

A crown of thorns on His head
Just another place where He bled
Humiliated in every way
Why, they even tore His clothes away

And there wasn’t any time loss
To where, they made Him carry the cross
To drive nails through His hands
He’s more than just a man

And Jesus still loved them
After all they did to Him
He did this for us too
When He said, “Father forgive them,
for they know not what they do.”

Jesus said that there is no greater love that a man can give than that he lay down his life for another. Jesus did this for all those who believe. I wrote this out of the Bible so everyone will know how great God’s love is.

Jesus is reaching out to you.