So there was this guy that I was talking to for like 3 months and I really liked him. Things never quite worked out and that was pretty much his decision. It left me really hurt, more hurt then I should have been. Well now it’s two weeks later and last night was the first night that I had to hang out with him again. We have a lot of the same friends and know the same people so when I went to watch a movie at a friends I wasn’t surprised he was there. I had a recruit with me for soccer visiting the school so I decided to bring her along to watch the movie. Next thing I know, The guy that I liked is flirting with her! By the end of the night they are cuddling and fall asleep in each others arms. It would be one thing if I though he really liked her but I feel like he was just doing it to hurt me for some reason. And not to be mean but the recruit wasn’t really pretty. Why did he do this? It just hurts
2007-10-07 04:01:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I thought it might be to get back at me since last week I hooked up with one of his team mates but that wouldn't make sense because he is the one who ended things between us.
2007-10-07 04:02:42 · update #1
Well hon, I am baffled and perplexed just like you are; I don't understand why he would want to deliberately hurt you like that. The only thing I can figure out is that he feels that his humongous ego has been slapped, indirectly, by you, somehow. At least now you know what a jerk he is....... ("using" an innocent girl to hurt you) and who really knows why?! Your heart was sincere but I don't believe he was. Don't even bother to "counter-assault" him; you wouldn't want to lower yourself to his nasty level. If you run into him like that again, ignore him completely or leave the party.
2007-10-07 04:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by wildflower 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you hooked up with someone else why does his actions currently bother you? It's obvious that you still have feelings for him and as much as you wanna get mad at him you did the similar thing by hooking up with one of his teammates. I know it hurts because he's the one who let you go and you wanted to move on, but you have to try to not be too hurt by it. On the other hand, who knows maybe he called things off with you but still had the feelings found out about you and the other guy and really was trying to get back at you to make you jealous. It's weird like that. Either way, he's wrong for doing that so soon and right in front of your face.
2007-10-07 11:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by Story Unknown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off i am sorry that the guy you like hurt you... we have all been there before, but after reading your sad story, i am pretty sure he did do it to hurt you. Why?? you were right. he is the one who ended it between you... but its jst a guy thing to get jealouse wen they see the girl hangin out with one of there friends. So, he got jealouse of you and decided right then that he was gonna get you back. So now you can do one of two things. 1) you can tell your friend and the guy you like about the way you feel and tell them you are hurt not matter how scary it seems and talk it out with them. 2) you can jst ignore the whole thing and put it in your past.
Its up to you but i reccomend the first... iv done them both and the 1st one kept me and the guy friends. the second jst sent us apart and i dont talk to him much... and yes its happend twice to me so i know how ya feel.
2007-10-07 11:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust me if you look at my profile I JUST had this problem on whensday. He wouldn't do anything like that to hurt you, he doing this to move on, but maybe hooking up with a teammate probably made him jealous, he was mad that you found someone else already, so was his "comfort object" but don't be mad at him for this, it's human nature. I know talking to him in person is really really difficult so instead use AIM,Myspace Message, Facebook something like that and tell him that hurt you, and there's a 99.99% chance he'll say he's sorry
2007-10-07 11:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by thinking444 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
to find why he's doing all that to hurt you like that then when you too meet each other again . ask him to go out side with so you too can get out every thing in the open so you can frigur out what went wrong between you too. and what you did to him that was so wrong that have to go do that to hurt you like that.
2007-10-07 11:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by jack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think most guys are that scheming. She seemed like an available girl, that's all. Plus, many guys seem to try harder when it's a new girl-- no strings attached. I wouldn't let it bother you. He's obviously an insensitive jerk.
2007-10-07 11:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah..i too think hes doin it jus to hurt u... guys end up doin such things..they need to show that losing anyone doesnt matter to them..they will always b like "who cares?!" but actually they r not..im sure he is jus gettin it back to u..for that guy u hung around wid..my x-bf too does these things..but u no the best thin to do? ignore him..i mean, dont make it feel it hurts u..be cool..and dont think bout it...c, he has ended it all..nd i no ur feelin terribly bad bout it..coz even i am..my x-guy tells me things (no slang) tat r meant to hurt me...but i dont even think bout them..coz no one nos if its true...soo dont wry bout it..hes jus tryin to hurt you..
2007-10-07 11:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by meandmyself 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think he just likes going with other people because when you think about what you just said describes him as a player maybe thats why he broke with you maybe he was seeing someone else
2007-10-07 11:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by Whats His Face 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you guys are not over eachother. how old are you guys you are acting really immature. yes he was doing it to get back at you, but you just need to move on.
2007-10-07 11:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
he's a player, looks like you need to change how you meet guys and change who you make friends with. and learn your lesson. just to let you know, not all guys are like this so yeah.
2007-10-07 11:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋